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How can I control my eating when I have impulse control issues?

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Last Updated: 04/08/2022 at 7:44am
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TinyboiTrin
September 25th, 2018 7:52pm
I understand avoiding impulsive eating isn’t always possible, although planning daily times meals help if you cannot wait until then get yourself a bag of peanuts/strawberries or something healthy with a glass of water instead of giving into junk food impulse. This helps me on a regular basis because I stress eat. Avoid the candy aisle too, try to forget it exists all together. Try to remember that sugar and impulsive junk consumption will most likely worsen your mood. The most important thing is staying healthy and remembering your diet plan and eating schedule, if you have any medications remember to take those to. If you end up giving into your impulse don’t feel guilty or sad about it, you can try again, it’s okay. Rutiene and plans take time
Anonymous
August 15th, 2018 7:47am
Firstly, seek professional help. 7 Cups can only do so much, and professional help will be much more effective. To answer the question, try and eat slightly smaller meals each day. Take out one small thing, or a small amount of something of your meal and not eat it. And then each day, take something else out. Eventually, you will get to a place where you are eating meals that are more “reasonable”.
SimplySerenity23
January 8th, 2021 7:29pm
If you are having issues controlling your impulse with eating, I would say find ways to distract yourself or wait out the urges. If you start to get those cravings, go for a walk or go talk to a friend, work on an art project or say "I'll wait 5 or 10 more minutes and see how I feel then." Chances are the longer you wait it out, the less you'll be tempted. Also, don't log what you eat because that sets you up for losing control or getting frustrated with logging and you'll go and binge. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience. Just listen to your body and see how your day goes, unless you have health issues regarding your weight and need to lose weight, don't set up a diet for yourself but if you do need to, collaborate with your doctor or talk to a therapist about all of this.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2022 2:49am
I struggled with bulimia in my past. I would have a really hard time saying no to food and once I would keep eating and eating until I purged. What has helped me recover from this vicious disorder was accepting I had a problem and was ready to make change. It wasn’t a perfect recover. I slipped many times, and realized it was worse when I was hard on myself for purging. I continued to try my best with a healthy diet and exercise and I am now fully recovered. It is possible if you truly want that change. Reaching out for help is useful to
BeautifulSun298501
January 16th, 2022 5:30pm
Oftentimes, we can over or under nourish ourselves in response to another event or series of events in our lives. We can sometimes sort this out with small steps to address our whole body and mind. Then we can find the eating behaviors are easy to manage and change. For example, other things we may look at is our sleep, our work, entertainment, and people in our lives. How do you feel when you are doing these things or being with these people? Is there anything you do to much of or not enough of? The things you want to increase practice doing 2 minutes more per day. The things you want do decrease practice doing 2 minutes less per day. Most importantly, we are not racing anyone. If you find it to be difficult or you don't make it one day or a few times, it is okay. In time you will learn self-discipline. Small steps, small steps, small steps. You got this!
Anonymous
July 1st, 2021 1:09am
Personally, for me, I like to exercise or take a walk, or even read a good book. Are used to have eating problems, and it has gotten better now that I realize that food is not the only source of happiness, but there are so many other things that will make us just as happy, if not even more. There are so many things out there that are waiting for us to experience. Focusing on something else rather than food will help immensely. Also, even meal prepping will help or planning out what you will eat for the following day.
alwaysindigo
May 15th, 2021 12:46am
Coming from someone who used to struggle with this, a good idea is to prepare things is serving sizes and keep them in your fridge/pantry like that. For example, if you have a chocolate bar, consider cutting it into one or two squares per piece and wrapping it in something like plastic wrap, that way you can just take a set amount at a time and not have to resist eating more. Another thing is, try keeping the foods you struggle with in a place that’s kind of a hassle to get to, so when you want more of something you can choose whether it’s worth going to get or not. Drinking infused water is also something I find helpful. I hope this helps, take care 💛
Anonymous
May 5th, 2021 5:33pm
It can be difficult to control eating habits when struggling with impulse control. However, we do not have to feel powerless against our food-related impulsivity. There are certain tips we can use in order to strategically circumvent our impulsivity, if we are motivated to change. One such tip is to plan ahead. Try to notice the times when you struggle with impulse control. Often, we struggle when we're tired, hungry, emotional, or have access to food that is tasty, but isn't necessarily the healthiest for us. Noticing patterns in our lack of impulse control helps us plan to avoid those patterns from repeating themselves. For instance, if I know that I'm more likely to binge when I'm exhausted after work and don't have the energy to cook, instead of stopping for fast food on my way home, I can plan ahead by meal prepping on my day off, and then leaving a small bag of dried fruit (or some other snack) in my bag to curb my appetite while heading home, and then, once I get home, I can simply reheat a prepared meal. Another tip is to shop for food online. Some people find it helps to have lots of time to revise their "cart" without the constraints of actually being in the store in person. Shopping online may also help because it may be easier to not have the food physically in front of you while you shop, as that can sway your will and cause you to purchase unhealthy food based on emotion rather than on purpose. A third tip, whether you shop online or in person, is to not bring food into the house that will tempt you or that you are likely to binge on. You can't eat what you don't have, and even if you end up going out for it, you're inconveniencing yourself to the point that it would have to be a deliberate, not impulsive, decision to get that food. Impulse control is much more manageable when you make it easier for yourself to make healthy choices and harder for yourself to make unhealthy ones. In other words, no one makes unhealthy choices because they think it's the best thing for them; people make unhealthy choices because they default to doing what is faster, easier, less work-intensive, more accessible. When you control what is faster, easier, less work-intensive, and more accessible, by planning and preparing, you reclaim that power over impulse control for yourself. Best of luck, you can do it!
Anonymous
April 14th, 2021 6:27pm
You can try to ask friends for encouragement, everything takes time to get good at. You could even ask your parents to help keep you committed. It may be difficult to get used to but after a while it will be normal and you will get better. You could also reach out to a therapist within this website to make a plan with you for what comes next. I see that you must be strong because understanding you want to change something is the first step to overcoming any obstacle you face. There are many different group rooms that can help you as well achieve your goal. Best of luck.
iloverussell
January 28th, 2021 7:11pm
Most people tend to eat when they are bored or are stressed. If the person is bored, they will find comfort and find themselves occupied in eating. if the person is stressed, they will try to relieve it by eating which releases specific chemicals and hormones from the brain into the body which makes that person feel better and more relaxed. Try occupying yourself if you are bored by walking around the block. Stay out of the kitchen and log your daily food intake. Another trick is that if you fall into the trap of eating when you are bored, is to eat in front of the mirror. if you are stressed try fidgeting with a small object which will keep you from eating.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2021 4:44pm
You would have to wait a minute to make it less urging. It goes well also with other ways of relieving stress. Because most of it gets when a person becomes anxious. Allow yourself to have a moment of breath. Within a minute or two you should start to fell more calm and less urge. Also become more aware about the way you most often do it and the consequences like overeating and remorse. Having a moment of break would allow you to understand that your action wouldn't help you at all but make you feel worse and an aware approach would make it easier to find inner strength within yourself...
WabisabiBodhisattva
May 13th, 2020 8:41pm
I, too, have struggled with impulse control and disordered eating. While everybody is different, I personally gained the most benefit from mindfulness and meditation practices. I imagine you've heard that before, and it can lose its appeal when suggested so many times -- especially when you may have tried it before, and it didn't help as much as you thought it would. However, that's the thing about mindfulness meditation -- it takes time to reprogram your brain to sit with the discomfort and allow it to be there, without impulsively acting upon it. Even postponing your binge (if that's what is happening for you) for a short period of time is still progress! Unfortunately, mindfulness is not the "cure" that many wish it was. Instead of curing us of our discomfort, mindfulness simply creates space for it. It's a practice that helps you build resilience, not everlasting peace. Still, it remains highly effective when practiced continuously over time. The trick is to make small goals -- practice sitting quietly and not giving into your impulse for even one or two minutes daily. When you feel ready, increase to 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, and so on. I would suggest trying each length of time for at least one week before increasing it -- that's how you stay true to new habits. May you be well!
Anonymous
October 28th, 2020 5:24pm
Impulse control issues can speead to all parts of your life, not just eating, something that would benefit you in your life, not just with eating would be to exersize daily. Something as small as a routine 20 minute walk can do wonders, late in the day you might feel more in control of your actions. Another thing thats helpful is when you know you might do something unhealthy, is to seperate yourself from the unhealthy habit. For me, I love ice cream. Something I've done to slow myself down is to keep the ice-cream at the back of the fridge, that way I really have to think and work in order to get to the ice-cream, and I might find it is not worth the effort.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2020 2:07am
Limit the "treat" food you have in your home. Another great idea would be to pre-plan meals for the week so everything is precooked; this would limit the opportunity for impulse decision around eating fast food when you are faced with the idea "i have nothing to eat" when you have preplanned meals. You could also create a buddy system, if you feel comfortable, and reach out to a friend when you feel that impulse to eat. Explore internally when you feel that you don't have control over your eating, can you avoid situations where you might be triggered? And finally, be kind to yourself.
hopefulCreature9580
October 4th, 2020 10:08pm
It can be really tough to control eating when you have impulse control issues. It is important to have some self-compassion on yourself if you are feeling impulsive. No one chooses to feel out of control not wants to! It isnt a character flaw or weakness. While we may not always find ourselves perfectly controlling our food intake, baby steps towards healthier choices with food intake is a more sustainable goal than absolute perfection. As a person who has personally experienced impulsive eating, I notice that it can be more challenging if I havent been properly hydrating. In the past I have mistaken thirst signals for hunger signals and now try to be more proactive with drinking fluids throughout the day. Another thing that sometimes helps is a "treat". I know logically that chips arent the most healthful choice, but sometimes I want them- and I want the whole, extra-large sized bag. As a baby step I started choosing to buy the small bag, and not keep massive bags at home. That way I didnt feel intensely deprived, but after eating them I still felt alright and didnt have gross feeling in my stomach. On the days where I definitely was easting way too much food in an obsessive way, I would tell myself after- "wow, you must have been having a really hard time emotionally in order to feel like eating so much." I will now ask myself what type of self care would be best. Do I need a hot bath with some relaxing music? Do I need to go to bed early and rest my body and mind? Did something happen today that triggered me, and perhaps I should chat about it with someone? It is not a behavior that I find shameful any more, it can simply be an indication that I have needs that may not be getting met in another rea of my life.
talkswithariba
August 9th, 2020 1:07am
It can be hard to control, though not impossible. Try to indulge yourself in activities you like, like painting, reading or doing arts and crafts. If not that, go out for a walk, as it can help clear up your mind. Also, try eating balanced meals to feel full and satisfied so you don't feel too hungry to not be able to control yourself. Talk to someone like a friend if it's get too hard to handle. If you're still unable to control, don't hesitate to seek help from a therapist. But whatever you do, trust yourself that you can win anything.
calminglake5213
July 26th, 2020 12:16pm
When you feel an impulse to binge eat, a good solution is to distract yourself with something else for at least 30 mins. When you do this, you are trying to occupy your mind with something else so that eating isn't always on your mind. A way to control the amount you eat while you are eating is to practice mindful eating. When you eat something, make sure it is the only thing you are doing and pay attention to how good the food tastes. Not only will you appreciate your food more, but it will slow you eating impulse down.
sweetJoy9342
July 15th, 2020 6:08am
As they say that the first step to anything is realising, take a moment to think about your relationship with food. Do I tend to eat more because i am really hungry or is it because there's something else that's worrying me and binge eating is my response to avoid thinking of that/to make me feel better. Am I aanxiousabout something or maybe am feeling all low and disappointed with myself or others around me. This realisation to what may trigger binge/more eating will give you the space to figure out your reaction the next time it happens. Would drinking a glass of water instead and taking out a minute to breathe in slowly and relax help distract your mind. I am sure that things will get better.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2020 1:48am
Impulsive eating is a problem that I sometimes deal with too! I've found that the problem arises the most when I don't eat regular meals. For me, I try to address the problem proactively by eating regular meals everyday. This way, my body feels nourished throughout the day. There are some days when it's more difficult to control eating impulses, so it's important not to be so hard on yourself if you do end up acting on these impulses. Also making sure you're hydrated can help with these issues, too. Sometimes I think I'm hungry, but I really just need some water.
LeonZz
June 24th, 2020 7:39pm
I often have similar issues with self-control around food. For me it helps if I simply do not purchase food which I know I should not be eating. This could be called "friction", by increasing friction between yourself and an action you know you should not be performing you reduce how much self-control is required to abstain. If you can not control what food is around you because you live with someone else or for any other reason you could try to instead reduce friction for doing the right thing. This could include making a meal plan, or writing implementation intentions where you describe what you will do when you encounter a specific craving (e.g. "When I am tempted to eat chocolate I will brush my teeth, if I still want it an hour later I'll have a bit").
Furiena
December 29th, 2016 8:55pm
Learning and practicing mindfulness. Yes, it can be really, really hard. You might go into self-denial or even escaping your present reality, be it your emotions or dealing with tough situations and people. Try your very best and you are worthy! Think long-term, perhaps ask yourself, will the consequences of my excessive food choices be bad for you in a month? a year? 5 years from now? Lastly, be mindful of what you eat (as specific as you can break it down into the food groups - protein, veggies, carbs, fats, fibre...) and frequency (3- 4 hours is a good rule of thumb). For some, snacking on healthy, good -for-you foods might be what you need and help assist with the impulse control.
courageousNight27
February 2nd, 2018 4:14am
Of course, there are so many tools that are recommended by the specialists and peers. Only you may know what works best for you: whether it is to take a hot shower, or to put on your comfiest clothes and pour a cup of tea, or to go for a walk. Perhaps, practicing body awareness may be a helpful tool. Also, talking to a friend or learning a new arts & crafts skills. Like knitting! :)
MagnanimousSymphony
January 26th, 2018 1:25am
The key is distraction. Doing something (something healthy, of course) to keep your mind off of eating works wonders. Take a few days and just good off- binge watch a T.V. Series, start playing a video game, go on a trip with your friends. Just do something out of the ordinary that will require your focus. Then, you won't think about eating until you're actually hungry. Then you just need to be sure not to overeat, and to eat the rights things in the first place. This has worked well for me.
HarvesterOfChrist91
December 1st, 2017 7:59pm
Have a support system, keep healthy food in the home, and have portioned snacks between meals, drink plenty of water
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 5:59pm
Pre-plan meals. That's the only thing that works for me, is to have as strict meal plan and make sure food is available when you're hungry. And plan lots of healthy snacks that you enjoy eating, and make sure it's always around for when you need to eat!
Kittmousie
October 27th, 2017 4:21pm
I remember to ask myself why I'm hungry. Am I actually just upset about something, or perhaps stressed out? If the deed is already done and I've lost control, remember, tomorrow is a new day! Don't let what you've done control what you can do tomorrow.
comfortingRainbow22
September 28th, 2017 10:31am
Find another activity to distract yourself in, go outside to exercise, meet some friends, paint your nails, listen to energising music, take a nap, and remind yourself that your health is determined by every single thing you do, every little decision you take is what conforms your health.
p3ngu1n
September 24th, 2017 9:48am
Eating can be pretty difficult. You're not alone, everyone feels that way sometimes. But come on! Keep focusing on your goals and nothing else!You' re gonna make it! Sometimes maybe you can have a cheating meal, but definitely not a cheating day! And you can always talk to me how you feel, I'm here for you. :)
CarissasHereToTalk
September 6th, 2017 11:36pm
Distraction can be a huge help when you're having trouble controlling impulses. Whether it's something creative like drawing or writing or playing an instrument, or if you're doing something like watching a movie or doing chores. :) Hope this helps!
romanticthi3f
February 2nd, 2018 11:11pm
I'll try and keep this one short because there's probably a lot that I could say! One of the biggest things is to learn about your impulse control; why is it that you feel you have issues with it? Where did it come from? What triggers it/calms it down? Once you can have that insight about yourself you may find that it helps so much with your eating and even other aspects of your life. The second thing is mindfulness. When we eat we're often 'not here'. Maybe we're thinking of something else, maybe we're watching tv, or we are stressed/upset/angry. So we're taking in this food but might not even be aware of it - the same reason that suddenly the bag of chips are empty?! So learning how to be a little bit more present can be helpful so you're more aware of what you're eating, how you're feeling and finding other strategies to give you that sense of joy/comfort.