How can I stop the obsessive, all-or-nothing disordered eating habits?
Last Updated: 02/06/2018 at 6:34pm
Maryna Svitasheva, PhD. RP
Licensed Professional Counselor
Psychotherapy I provide is based on a dialog and your active intention to look for a solution with the therapist's assistance
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A good first step can often be realizing that there is no one perfect solution. The next step is finding a combination of solutions that each help you a little. It can feel like a slow war, but you can win it by just winning one small battle at a time. This is why you cannot put pressure on yourself to do anything more than make one small decision to just try to eat one small meal just a few times a day. Remember, even one bite swallowed is a victory because in this war practice makes progress, and progress itself is perfection.
It can be hard to kick habits. But it's scientifically proven after 21 days of sticking to something it becomes a habit... as easy as brushing your teeth. And it's the first three days that are the hardest.. so if you plough through that it gets easier. So basically it involves changing your mindset.. to wanting to lead a healthier lifestyle and rigid habits are not really conducive to living a happy yet still healthy life. It's possible to be healthy yet treat yourself now and then .
You have to realise that it will take time and commitment. For me I found that eating small meals throughout the day helped me not to binge. Eating healthy foods that didn't make me feel guilty, such as salads helped me to start enjoying food again and now I allow myself to enjoy all sorts of food.
you can try to reward yourself when you do something healthy, but most never forget the fact that everyone is unique.
There’s a good chance that a diet is what spiraled you into binge eating in the first place. I know that was the case for me. In the past I have experimented with several diets: low fat, low carb, and numerous others. And I kept looking for the diet that would end all of the confusion and allow me to escape the binge eating behaviors I had developed
I have found it helpful to focus on healthier goals. I used to focus so much of my time and energy on weight loss, which led to those disordered-habits, but once I began focusing on treating my body well, wanting to improve as a runner, etc I was able to get away from those habits. I was able to focus my energy and see my progress through healthier habits. Also, sometimes these habits are a result of stress or other issues and in order to stop that it is important to determine the cause and figure out how you can best cope with it.
Take baby steps, start small by eating a bit here and a bit there. It will get easier with time. After that eat a bit more, start a schedule for eating. This will make it easier.
Think of how it negatively affects you and the people around you. Remind yourself about the wonderful things that will come from healthy eating. Most importantly, know that you're doing it for you, to become the better you.
I have experienced myself doing better if I am out doing stuff. Being outside helps me with most of the issues I face.
Try to figure out why you have such a relationship with food, first. What does food mean to you ? Is it a way to sustain yourself and to have energy, or do you attribute something else to it that has a greater importance ? Identifying the problem is the first step. Hope this helps !
Close your eyes and think about your future. How do you see yourself? What do you want to become? Who you want to be? Remember your weight doesn't define you, and restricting is not sustainable. You'll get to a point on your life were or you recover or die. And, tell me, do you really want to end everything before the opportunity to achieve who you want to be?
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