How do I explain to co-workers that I am avoiding going out for lunch with them because I'm embarrassed that I can't eat.

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Last Updated: 04/24/2017 at 7:08pm
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courageleadstonewlife
March 16th, 2015 7:11am
I've been in this same position, it is awkward, and embarrassing, and discouraging at times. I have a lot of food intolerances that make it so I can't eat. 1) Sometimes I bring something to snack on. 2) Other times I order a drink. 3) Sometimes I can order a side salad or something that I can pick at and never actually finish. 4) Many times I just sit and enjoy the conversation with a glass of water. Whatever your reason for not being able to eat out you still deserve to be able to spend time and bond with your coworkers. They will take their cue from you. If you are confident about your actions, they won't be as uncomfortable. Decide on something simple and quick you can say about why you aren't eating "I have food intolerances," or "I'm saving money," whatever simple truth you want to share. It takes some adjusting but you and your coworkers will adapt. Don't give up on the socializing because you can't partake of the food.
LoLoRunnah
March 16th, 2015 1:59pm
Honesty, honesty, honesty. Find a coworker you are comfortable with and confide in them and ask for support. You deserve to enjoy going out for lunch and eating with your co-workers.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2015 10:08am
I would tell them wen I feel most comfortable and trust all my co-workers to support me. It would take time though.
PeppermintHeart
May 5th, 2015 11:15am
If you feel comfortable around them and you think you can trust them you should calmly explain your problem to them. You don't have to go into much detail if you don't want to - tell them that eating in public makes you feel uncomfortable and that it is nothing personal.
maggicantdraw
August 2nd, 2015 9:08pm
I would suggest telling them the truth. A lie can only go so far, and as long as you are already/have plans on getting help, there's not much they can do to force you to do anything.
Greatlistener87
November 6th, 2015 8:05am
You don't have to explain to them in detail, just tell them you don't have a good appetite and your coping with it.
beYOUtiful365
December 4th, 2015 6:37pm
Avoiding eating is the bigger problem, here. Whether you are with a group of people or alone, it is very important to eat lunch. When eating with others, think of it as a social gathering rather than just eating. If you want to eat alone, start packing your own lunch.
Tg119340
September 19th, 2016 12:08am
You tell them the truth, if they are loving and supporting they'll understand if not that's fine. You know you're loved and you're amazing and no can change that!
wonderfulWillow64
April 24th, 2017 7:08pm
You don't have to do anything that you aren't comfortable with. You don't have to explain your reasons to your co-workers if you choose not to. It might be worth just saying that there are other things you enjoy more. Maybe organise something different that your co workers can also get involved with so that you can still Spencer time together.