Is skinny always considered a compliment?

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Is skinny always considered a compliment?
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July 25th, 2016 1:43am
It depends on the context and I think it depends how that person tells you this. But how our society is, in general I think yes, it's a compliment.
July 30th, 2016 2:32am
I don't think skinny should be a compliment or insult, skinny just describes your weight. But what is skinny? Skinny can be unhealthy or very healthy. Even if its unhealthy skinny, if somebody is telling you that you're extremely skinny it could be because they care about your health.
July 31st, 2016 2:00pm
Not always, it depends on what the person that says it Likes, sometimes it's unhealthy and sometimes is a healthy to try to be skinny.
July 31st, 2016 2:17pm
No, not at all. Sometimes people address other people as skinny in a bad way, as if they're too skinny, have no curves etc. Skinny isn't always a good thing, and curvy/fat isn't a bad thing unless it's unhealthy :)
July 31st, 2016 3:35pm
It depends on the intentions of the person giving the comments! Usually, It is, but sometimes it can be used in a bad way.
August 2nd, 2016 2:38am
Being told that you are skinny can be very triggering for someone who has been in recovery from an eating disorder. It can remind them of how they once felt and could trigger a slip depending on where they are in their recovery process. Others who are still in the thralls of their eating disorder strive to be known as skinny. It really depends on the individual person.
August 3rd, 2016 3:48pm
Your weight is your weight. If you're skinny, you're beautiful. If you're average, you're beautiful. If you're fat, you're beautiful. You're weight isn't necessarily a compliment. Some people make fun of those who are skinny.
August 5th, 2016 2:03am
No. People can be quite mean, any word used concerning your weight can be derogatory. The only thing you can be is yourself.
August 5th, 2016 3:59am
In my opinion, no. While yes, skinny is the beauty ideal for women in our society, not everyone will consider it a compliment. Not everyone is skinny by choice, it can be due to illness (mental or physical). In that case, telling that person how skinny they are could be offensive (if the illness is physical) or triggering (in the case of anorexia).
August 6th, 2016 1:25am
Not always. Skinny can be used to condescendingly say "you need to eat more", or "you are a walking skeleton". If you are healthy with a good diet and regular exercise you can assume they mean it as a compliment
August 8th, 2016 12:50am
No. To many people it may seem like it, but some people may not want to be seen as skinny. They want to be "normal". Or they maybe just don't want to be labeled by society's standards. While many people want to lose weight, others want to gain weight. Skinny is not always a compliment.
August 10th, 2016 1:28pm
Being "skinny" is not always a compliment. Sometimes being "too skinny" can be dangerous and unhealthy so it is good to try to find a balance.
August 20th, 2016 12:32am
That depends on two things: - How do you feel about being called skinny - The context skinny was used in.
August 20th, 2016 11:15am
No. Sometimes it means that people are really worried about you. You can deffinetly be too skinny.
August 25th, 2016 12:53am
If you personally like to be skinny than it is considered a compliment. But some don't like to be called skinny, so I think that case it may not be taken as a compliment.
August 25th, 2016 12:30pm
It depends on both the person giving the complement and the person receiving it. Many times we desire the opposite of others vision of healthy weight.
September 1st, 2016 5:05am
No. There are many types of body that are appreciated. And many types of body shape that people would like to be.
September 3rd, 2016 4:20am
Skinny is a quality. Just like fat is. Or blond hair is, Or brown eyes. It is what it is. Unfortunately, someone might have an idea that one quality is better than others. The important thing is that you can appreciate your body and mind for what they are, and work towards being the best you - WHATEVER that is. If you feel you are uncomfortable overweight, that's fine, you can eat differently, exercise etc. So long as you are doing it for your well-being and not for the satisfaction of others. Because no matter what you look like, someone out there is gonna love it. So it's best that you love you, however that is. ;)
September 4th, 2016 6:15pm
Our society sadly values one body type over others. However, not all comments on a person being skinny are always positive. It is important to develop a strong feeling of self worth regardless of your body type, because unfortunately people will always comment on other people's bodies whether skinny or not.
September 7th, 2016 1:45am
No, skinny isn't always a compliment. For some people it can be but others who are trying to gain weight after recovering from an eating disorder or who simply dont like their body may find it to be an insult.
September 9th, 2016 4:29pm
Skinny is a word that is often used instead of words like thin, healthier, petite, fit etc. The problem is, society, the media and people in general tend to define body shapes with the usage of words such as fat, thin, big, skinny etc and over time skinny has been seen as a good thing to be, and big as something not as desirable.. But people are more than just what they may look like, and labelling people as thin, skinny, fat or big can cause a lot of problems for people who for whatever reasons are self conscious about their image, who perhaps lack self esteem or have body issues. There are those who are naturally thin, who can eat and eat and yet it makes no difference to their weight. Complimenting someone on their outer appearance ignores their inner beauty. Someone undergoing radiotherapy and chemotherapy was complimented on their weight loss by someone unaware of their illness and treatment and asked them how they had achieved their weight loss which was being seen as admirable. The response given was that of the chemo diet! The person who originally complimented them on being skinny was shocked by the response and realised the stupidity and naivety of their 'compliment'. People also when suffering with depression or grief will often stop eating out of the emotional distress they are in, so would someone knowing that, go onto compliment them on looking skinny, surely the emotional distress someone is in would take precedence over the appearance of that individual. Too many people both male and female have suffered over many years with eating disorders and struggle with their obsession on body image, body anxiety, self image/self esteem issues and some develop body dysmorphia and for some they will resort to cosmetic surgery to correct the defect as they see it. People are not just bodies to be labelled as skinny or fat, they are not just bodies to be looked at, judged, and constantly in need of fixing or changing. Skinny does not always equate to being a compliment even though for those who are trying to lose weight it may be taken as such. Being skinny can sometimes cause a lot of heartache and misery for a lot of people. Perhaps society and people in general could try and work on spending less time defining someone by their body size and more time on recognising an individuals beauty in other ways, compliment people on their achievements, their caring natures, their loving gestures, their hard work professional, their role as mother, father, etc. and be one more person who tries to break the stereotypes of what is currently considered acceptable in terms of body size or as a compliment when this can be so potentially hurtful and harmful.
September 9th, 2016 11:56pm
Skinny is not always considered a compliment like some might say it in a way like oh your so skinny and that your ugly which isn't obviously true but people say it you know
September 11th, 2016 10:07pm
I would say no especially if it's use in a context where the person is worried. If you see skinny always as a compliment you might have an issue
September 29th, 2016 11:54am
Skinny is often used as a compliment, or even an aspiration for some people. However many slimmer people have heard the word skinny used as an insult, often used to make them feel bad about their smaller size. Some people refer to this as 'skinny-shaming'. Maybe it's important to remember that it's not always about the words we use, but how we use them.
September 30th, 2016 3:26am
No, I used to get this a lot, paired with remarks about how other "body types" are nicer, more "womanly". So no, the best thing you can do is not comment about someone´s weight. Say "you look happy, you look healthy" instead.
October 2nd, 2016 3:18pm
People started calling me skinny for as long as I can remember. It wasn't until recently people starting mixing in the word unhealthy with me being skinny and it was then that I realized that maybe being skinny isn't always a compliment.
October 20th, 2016 1:13pm
Honestly, no. People could look at you and say "Oh, she's so skinny!" but throw you glares over their shoulders while walking away because they don't really think you're skinny at all. They could tell you you're skinny and then declare you're anorexic not 5 feet away from you. But at the same time, they could call you skinny and genuinely mean it as a compliment - much like slender or fit. After all, you don't have to have the perfect body to be perfect. You're still you and that's what makes you your own kind of perfect.
October 30th, 2016 9:42am
No, It's definitely not always a compliment. Sometimes people are worried about you because you are too skinny. You need to find a balance between being bony and being slim because it's not the same thing.
October 30th, 2016 10:28pm
It doesn't really matter if you're skinny or fat. You can be fat and still get compliments from people. What really matters is, if people like your personality.
November 20th, 2016 11:46am
I think skinny can be a compliment just as fat or curvy or any other body type. We have to stop thinking that being one way is good or bad, and just start loving all bodies.