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Is skinny always considered a compliment?

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Is skinny always considered a compliment?
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Anonymous
July 1st, 2020 2:52am
The adjective skinny can come out however the person saying it wants it to come out. In my experience, a majority of the time, people would call me skinny in a positive way. Some would say I am too skinny. How someone says it determines how they want the word to come out, but what's important is how you determine it to sound like. When people would call me skinny, I took it as a negative. I've always been self conscious about my body being too skinny and too fragile. I would compare myself to models that had the ideal leg size and build. Although models are known for how skinny they are, I felt as though I could never fully pull off looking like that. I looked at myself as a skeleton, with ugly spaghetti arms and legs. So to answer this question, based on my experience, skinny is not always considered a compliment. It varies from person to person.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2020 6:34am
The word "always" is always contradictory to reality, that is, it's not always true. Being called skinny depends if you "healthily-skinny" or "unhealthily skinny". And skinny isn't a word people use in a civilized world. Instead of "fat" or "skinny", use "plus-size" and "small-size" for not hurting people's sentiments or triggering them. Skinny mostly explains that you are unrealistically thin, and you are not eating enough and/or exercising a lot more than you should. So most probably it's not a compliment at all. It's more of an insult, shoving down people's will power, and also making them believe that they aren't beautiful the way they are. If you need compliments, they are wayyyyy better words, beautiful for one.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2020 6:05am
Not always. It is a subjective term that can be interpreted in various ways. Assuming that someone will take it as a compliment may cause them to be offended. Realizing that people have different perspectives than yours is key to providing empathetic replies. Being able to put yourself in someone's shoes and try to understand how they feel is the first step to becoming a good listener. By inserting your opinion on whether skinny is considered a compliment, you are undermining the person's opinion. You should recognize someone's opinion and respectfully acknowledge it without imposing your perspective on it.
SmileBlast
August 23rd, 2020 2:24am
No. There are many cultures across the world that appreciate folks by various different sizes. There's a phrase 'different strokes for different folks' that really says that different types of people may take it as a compliment and other may take not. Especially in Westernized countries, tv and commercial media more times than not portray thin models, which often influences others to think that receiving a compliment of being skinny would be a compliment. Being labeled as skinny may even trigger some individuals to think they look un-healthy. This is a tough one, but often when someone makes a comment you can pay attention to the tone of the comment and use your own intuition to determine the meaning behind the comment.
ThePowerofKnight
September 13th, 2020 3:40am
No, not necessarily. Especially if you are the skinny person who is receiving the comment. Many times skinny people cannot gain additional weight no matter how much they eat. Even lifting weights and shifting your diet to grow denser muscle and thickness is a ton of work for someone who is skinny. If they stop lifting weights, the muscle mass and thickness they gained will disappear quickly. If you are a skinny person who is being called skinny as a compliment, and you work your butt off to try to gain weight and muscle mass, but it is extremely hard for you to achieve, then being called "skinny" is not so much of a compliment.
Anonymous
October 20th, 2020 5:40am
No, not at all. It is a big misconception that "skinny" is a positive thing to say to someone because of how much our media endorses the beauty standard of women who are on the skinnier side. However, some people hate to be skinny. They might consider it to be unattractive and not like their body type at all. Hearing from others that "they are so skinny" even though the person saying it doesn't mean it in a bad way can be detrimental to their self-esteem and body image. Also, no one wants to be called out on their appearance- skinny or not, it's better to compliment people differently, like you can say "you're so pretty" or focus on a non-physical attribute
Anonymous
November 1st, 2020 2:57am
Skinny can often be a compliment, but could also be an insult - it's often in how someone says it. Compliments about things being stereotypically good (such as being skinny) are often honest, so you should take it as such. In my experience, skinny is always a compliment. But if you find yourself developing anorexia (an eating disorder) you should contact a helpline or therapist when possible. Some signs and/or symptoms of anorexia involve: -Lower than average weight for your age -Missing meals or avoiding foods you might see as fattening -Believing yourself to be fat when you are average or under average weight -Feeling lightheaded, dizzy, experiencing dryer skin or hair loss But however your weight may be, it's always important to know that you should always be happy with your body - though make sure that you are being healthy as well.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2020 5:08am
This question is subjective. It depends on the person. Body image is an ongoing issue. To best answer this question I believe being healthy is the best compliment. Some people can be skinny but not healthy and that is not so good. The same can be said, with being big exterior wise the person may not receive compliments but they can be a healthy person. In my opinion being healthy regardless of the exterior look that is considered the best compliment. I know a lot of people have difficulty losing weight, gaining weight, maintaining weight but at the end of the day it is important be healthy.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2020 8:56am
Skinny is definitely NOT a term that can always be considered as a compliment. Calling another skinny, can be a risky situation. This is because: it can make someone’s day, as well as completely ruin someone’s week, and just as well as not bother them at all! It’s risky because depending on the person it’s being told to, and the implication used, it can really take any kind of turn. It’s not a naughty word and it’s ok to use it, but you just have to make sure you use it wisely and at the right time. And if you’re able to do that, it can be used as a proper compliment. But if it’s used without any thought, without any consideration of someone’s past then all it is; is an insult, or commentary that is unnecessary.
playfulRainfall2519
November 29th, 2020 2:11pm
I don't know. I think no one should be called skinny. The world sees skinny as a good thing, but it shouldn't be. Everyone is beautiful no matter how you look. When someone says someone is skinny, it can make a lot of people insecure. Even the person who got the compliment. If someone has an eating disorder like anorexia, and someone would say they're skinny. they would think that people like that and that they should eat less to be more skinny. This is of course totally wrong. So skinny is used as a compliment most of the time, but to be honest no one should even say it at all.
thesnowqueen0801
December 4th, 2020 6:37pm
At the end of the day, it depends on the tone and opinion of the person. Words are a double edged sword. But either way, you shouldn't let those words get to you. Compliments are nice. Insults are hurtful. But don't let them get to your head. People can be concerned, but they can also be nosy. It shouldn't matter if someone else has an opinion on your body. They should keep it to themselves because it's *your* body. As long as you are healthy, their opinions are irrelevant. "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Anonymous
December 13th, 2020 6:05pm
No its not some people might have eating disorders and might not want you to comment on how skinny they are. This could lead to insecurities and depression and also many other things. Make sure that you are always trying to make people feel good about themselves and avoid self damaging thoughts. Love them for who they are and nothing less love them for there personality and not their looks. Never let someone thing constant bad thought about themselves let them think positive thoughts and let them feel positive emotions its better for there heath and their body. Don't let people dwell about themselves boost them up
Anonymous
December 16th, 2020 12:36am
I have a complicated relationship with this term as a compliment. On one hand, I appreciate that the general societal meaning is to say that someone looks good, especially when the compliment is from one woman to another. However, I HATE giving this as a compliment because everytime I receive it, I am happy that someone thinks that but it also reinforces my mindset that I should keep losing weight. Furthermore, I go through stages where I think I look too skinny (my body dysmorphia is SEVERE) or when I know that my body fat percentage is too low. If I am at a point in time when I haven't had my period in six months and I know I am not healthy, the "compliment" becomes a hinderance to health, because I wonder if I won't be considered attractive if I am not skinny anymore. Overall, I would take someone telling you this as a compliment because it is usually said as a compliment, but DO NOT tell someone else this. In general, I would refrain from making comments about someone's appearance they don't actively control. Stick to character compliments like "You are such an amazing friend/person/etc." or "I love how you are so friendly and open" etc. Overall "you're beautiful" or "your outfit is cool!" or other things like makeup or hair that are either very general or something they are in control of and chose are usually a good compliment as well.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2020 6:20pm
Sometimes, it can be difficult to comprehend what someone means when they use a specific word. "Skinny" is a word that has flexible connotations, and thus, when someone says that another person is "skinny", it can be tricky to read whether they are complimenting the other person, stating what they see as being a neutral or objective "fact" about the person, or even using the term in an unflattering way towards that person. Because different cultures and subcultures place different value on different body types, it can be hard to know what is meant by the word "skinny" without observing the surrounding context. However, it may not be prudent to always presuppose what a person means when they use a particular word, even when context is given. In fact, when in doubt, it may be best to ask the person how they mean what they are saying. You can ask a person what they mean by the word "skinny" with questions such as, "Is that a compliment?", "Are you complimenting me?", or simply, "What do you mean by that?"
Anonymous
December 18th, 2020 7:47pm
No, skinny is not always considered a compliment. Being called skinny to can be offensive and hurtful to some people. Some people have different backgrounds, disorders, and experiences that can cause this "compliment" to cause them anxiety and stress. This can include, but is not limited to, eating disorders, bullying, judging. Yes, some people take it a compliment, but it is important to consider this before giving someone a comment about being skinny. Everybody has different goals and views on how their body looks and how they feel about their body, so making certain comments can make them second-guess their self-esteem and value.
sweetlistener281
January 7th, 2021 4:27am
This is a question everyone answers differently. In my opinion, skinny isn't a compliment. It enforces the stereotype that you have to be skinny to be good looking or attractive. If someone told you "you are fat", you wouldn't take it as a compliment because society made it a bad thing to be when [it isn't]. The double standard is ridiculous and should be abolished because ALL bodies are valid. Never comment on someones body.
PrincessJasmine26
February 10th, 2021 3:38pm
It really depends on the persons intentions. They could of course mean it as a compliment, but the person receiving it may not feel comfortable having their appearance commented on. It really depends on alot of factors - If you know that somebody has been working on losing weight and they'd appreciate being told that they look slimmer then i'd say it is acceptable but then again, if you don't know if the person would actually like to have their appearance judged it is better off not sharing your opinion or view even if it's meant with good intent. Alot of people can feel uncomfortable having their physical appearance commented on and you could inadvertently make that person feel distressed.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2021 8:19pm
not necessarily, it completely depends on how someone sees themselves. If they believe that they are skinny and they are comfortable with their bodies, they will likely view this as a compliment, equally, If they do not think they are skinny, but they want to be, saying that they are skinny could help their self esteem. However, many people struggle, or are self conscious about their body weight and how they look, therefore addressing this may upset them. Especially as some people struggle to gain weight, or believe that they are not "curvy" enough. another point to add is that many people do not think that having a slim body is a good thing, therefore suggesting that they are skinny, and that they should take that as a compliment, may even offend them.
lovelyBubbles60
February 26th, 2021 10:36am
Well I think it depends on how you feel. If you generally like being called skinny and it makes you feel good then it is for you. But if you feel almost attacked or even unhappy hearing it then no it isn't. It ultimately depends on you, and that is okay. Some people love being called skinny because it makes them feel either happier or even included. Some see also as a label which they hate. Overall if it does bother you or someone, make it known that you do not like it, or even ask someone if it is okay to call them that. We never know how one may take in the word "skinny".
WaffleGhost1
April 3rd, 2021 3:08pm
"Skinny" is not always a compliment. "Skinny" can be a great goal or a great accomplishment for a person. But it can also be an unhealthy burden. If being "skinny" and healthy would make you happy, you should be skinny and healthy. If being "big" and healthy would make you happy, you should be big and healthy. The key words should be happy and healthy. Not "skinny". It's a shame that society has played such a role in what so many of us feel should make us happy. That should be a decision we make all on our own.
BlueOasis420
April 11th, 2021 10:10am
Not always! People often think there's only fatshaming, but there's skinnyshaming as well. It can be out of envy or because they don't like a skinny body. Although it's not what we normally consider "shaming" it shouldn't be tolerated. But it can be both. It can be a compliment or an offense. You have to figure it out from the context, your relationship with the person who you are talking to and the tone in which they say it. But please remember you neither have to feel embarassed about being chubby nor being skinny. Both is okay and you don't have to change that with a diet, only if YOU want to or if it has significant effects on your physical health. Have a nice day
skyfield01
April 22nd, 2021 11:54am
No, especially if the reason behind being skinny is not healthy. Though, most of the time, it is projected in the society that skinny equates to health and vigor, there are times when people develop unhealthy ways to maintain their body figure, leaving them skinny but without enough energy. If the reason behind being skinny is due to healthy and active lifestyle, then the compliment is well-deserved. But if the techniques of keeping that figure is not healthy, people will not appreciate nor compliment because the person would seem sickly for them. It is the kind of energy exposed and the way the person carries himself/herself no matter what the body type is makes one attractive and worthy of compliment.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2021 7:12pm
I do not believe skinny is always a compliment. Sometimes people struggle with maintaining their weight. Some people have health conditions that cause them to loose weight and it is not healthy. The context is often the most important factor in determining if the phrase skinny is positive or negative. A weightlifter might not like their legs being referred to as skinny. An over weight person may like have their legs referred to as skinny. Perspective is very important. I would not assume how a person would take the word skinny, rather I would ask them how that makes them feel.
prideandprejudice116
May 5th, 2021 7:53am
Sometimes it can be. Other times it can be taken too far and can disregard others' feelings. Although people use it to show that they've noticed if you lost weight, It can make skinnier people feel like they aren't allowed to have body issues just because they are skinny. In my experience, it can be hurtful when comments about needing to 'eat a burger' or 'to put some meat on those bones' gets tossed around. I understand that people are trying to stop fat-shaming, but it is just as hurtful when you make comments towards skinnier girls just to make others feel better.
Anonymous
May 8th, 2021 3:29pm
It depends. But all sizes are beautiful, I know it sounds cliche. But everyone has their own preferences. So some people might say that for a compliment, some other might not. But seriously what is important you love yourself skinny or not. Just don't think so much if people say something about your look. We all just need to stay healthy. Beauty come along when you are healthy. With whatever your sizes. So don't think too much about it. If you love being skinny. Then stay like that. Just don't suffer to be very skinny. Just have a healthy life and body. I hope it helps.
alwaysindigo
May 15th, 2021 12:39am
Not always, sometimes it can be very harmful, coming from someone who has been underweight my whole life. Being called skinny can hurt just as much as being called fat, and people don’t always realize that. Even if it was meant as a compliment, commenting on someone’s weight (unless it’s a special situation) is kind of a mixed message anyway, because it means you were looking at/judging their weight anyway. This is just my take on it, and not meant as hate at all. Compliments are always wonderful and makes everybody feel special, just be mindful of what you’re saying 💛
Anonymous
May 26th, 2021 5:07am
Sometimes it can be meant as an insult, skinny shaming is mostly ignored among people but still a serious issue. Although it is ignored as being a problem it still needs to be brought to light and dealt with, it's not ok for anyone to be insulted because they are skinny or any type of body type. Being skinny is not always controllable, some people are born with fast metabolisms which make it harder for them to gain weight. It's a huge burden to someone to have to worry about how their body looks much less have to worry about getting bullied or harassed for it.
EveryDeadlyFlower
June 2nd, 2021 12:18pm
Skinny is not always considered a compliment. If a person has an insecurity about being skinny, or any unpleasant experience related to that, it might feel for them like a hurtful thing to hear even if you didn't mean it as an insult. It is better to resist commenting of a person's body type or weight changes, especially if you do not know that person well enough to predict how it might make them feel. It is much safer to just say "you look good" or something more neutral like that if you wish to make a compliment.
singerfiregirl
June 30th, 2021 2:46pm
Skinny is not always considered a compliment. Sometimes it is used to hurt people's feelings, or single them out. It makes girls feel like they aren't enough sometimes. Of course, some girls like being called skinny, and if they do, then it is a compliment. It is always up to you how you deal with people talking about you. I try to stay away from mentioning other people's bodies, because you never know how they will react to something you perceive as a compliment. Sometimes it is hard to tell whether something will help or hurt! Have an amazing day!
sunnyvision
July 8th, 2021 6:24pm
No, skinny is not always considered a compliment, and fat isn't always considered an insult. This is because it's just weight, and weight doesn't define you, and as long as you're healthy, I feel you can be whatever weight you want. You can wear whatever you want, and you an eat whatever you want. Just as long as you're happy, and healthy, then it's all good. in my experience, it depends on the context. i personally always stay away from complimenting people on their body type, but if you have a close relationship with the person that you're complimenting and you're absolutely sure of the context and situation surrounding it, then i think it can be a compliment. however, it could have negative consequences. i have struggled with disordered eating, and being called "skinny" always triggered me and encouraged me to lose more weight. in that context, it would not be a compliment. also, "skinny-shaming" is a terrible practice where, similar to fat-shaming, people shame someone for their body type, which is never a compliment.