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What is the best way to get over a crush?

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Last Updated: 10/14/2019 at 10:46am
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RoseonFire
December 31st, 2014 7:23am
The first step is to quit obsessing over them. Quit stalking their social media. Throw away pictures, notes, or objects related to them. You don't need them in your life anymore. Keep yourself busy and try to not think about them as much. Also, do NOT resort to finding someone else to be with. You need to know that you do not need someone else in your life to be whole.
lee197666
December 31st, 2014 11:30am
Try to remain friends with them, but distance yourself. Don't be afraid to talk to new people. I have gotten over my girlfriend by talking to other people - not as a romantic partner, but as a friend. Gaining new friends helps to fill the whole of your ex partner.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2015 5:56pm
In my personal opinion there is no single best way to get over a crush. With that said, I know it can be difficult to get over a crush, and I think you have several things you can try to see what works best for you. First of all, I would ask that you you consider perhaps being mindful to keep yourself involved with your friends and family that are supportive of you as you go through the process of getting over this crush. Also I would really recommend that you consider taking really good care of yourself, by practicing good self care and being extra nice to yourself, in ways that make you feel happy and positive about yourself, every single day that you can do so. If you find it helpful to you, you might also consider journaling, and/or expressing yourself through any creative outlet you enjoy. I also personally think that time will help with this, as, in my experience, when it comes to crushes, the feelings usually fade over time. Give it time, and be gentle with yourself, would be my personal thoughts on this.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2014 9:39am
The best way to get over a crush is to just let time wash the feelings away. Crushes are swift moments of infatuation. It may feel like you will never get over her/him, but eventually, if the feelings are not reciprocated, you will.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2014 8:28pm
focus on school, life, friends, family. In my opinion it is good to have things you don't let the person you like or dating be the center of everything you do. Have things that you do by yourself or close friends. So when that relationship or crush does not work you have things you can do that do not make things think of that person.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2015 5:02am
Put your happiness as your priority. Work on being the person that anyone would admire. Motivate yourself to be better than whom you were yesterday. All that focus would easily boost your self-confidence and consequently make you get over a crush. Goodluck!
Anonymous
February 11th, 2016 5:11pm
Realising that things dont always work out the way you'd hoped, and the next person you find will seem to be 100x better
FloraLuna
December 31st, 2014 7:08am
The best way to get over a crush is accept your feelings, admit you have a crush, distancing yourselves, meet new people, and take care of yourself and focus on you. Try to find things that distract you. If you got turned down, try to not become bitter. Try focusing on things that make you happy and that you enjoy. Meeting new people also opens up new horizons.
Bella26
December 31st, 2014 11:14am
Focus your attention on something else. Find something that you enjoy doing and do it often, it will distract you.
Stephanieb
December 31st, 2014 12:58pm
What I did, is I found things to distract myself from thinking about it, doing things that stimulated my mind! Video games, Phoning and seeing friends, anything else that got me out the house really!
Kaylei72
March 26th, 2015 5:56pm
Trying to move on. You can do other activities that will get that crush off of your mind. There are several activities. Such as sports or drawing
Anonymous
April 10th, 2015 2:18pm
Talk to them see how you feel about them, their personality the way they act around there friend how they treat them. After that hanging out with them see if they are right for you.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 3:20am
By not thinking of him/her, try meeting new people and going to different places, making new friendships, avoid going to places where they can be
TheGreyFixer
January 22nd, 2016 9:44pm
Avoid them like the plague. Assert your self-worth: you do not have to have them fawning over you in order to be a happy, independent person. Crushes and relationships can be messy and painful, but in the end, you're the one in control. Good luck.
yourfriendzahra
January 24th, 2016 3:39pm
In my experience, I've had to just ride it out and wait for it to go away, but I also realized that as I focused more on loving myself, that is when I began to forget about my crush. I became aware of when I did something because of my crush such as dressing to impress, acting differently around them or just feeling insecure around them. At these moments, when I realized what I was doing I would ask myself what I am doing. I realized I had nobody to impress and I am the only one who should care about how I look. I would definitely recommend space. It is a lot harder to get over someone if you are always with them. I got over my crush after a whole three months of simply not seeing them and if you think you cannot ever get over someone, then at least find love for yourself, you'll find that others are attracted to people with self confidence. Feel good in your own shoes and often things will improve from there.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 4:44am
Accept that there is no possibility of a relationship if he/she doesn't reciprocate your feelings and then go out and look for somebody who can , instead of wasting time on a crush. If you're fawning over a crush it sounds as though you're lonely , so find people to help combat that loneliness. 7cups listeners can do that too!
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 6:22pm
A crush is a natural thing. Unless you have an unhealthy obsession I'd say there is no need to get rid of it.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 12:05pm
Approach them about it, and see if the feelings are reciprocated, this way you have closure and can pursue the relationship.
Red4ever30
February 3rd, 2016 6:48pm
Surrounding yourself with friends and family to create a positive energy around you. Also taking it one day at a time allowing yourself to heal.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 11:27pm
The best way, in my opinion, to get over a crush is to have a friend ask you for 10 reasons why you like this person. If you can't list 10 they are probably aren't the one.
Theleavesinmay
February 7th, 2016 3:42am
Oh my. You never grow out of crushing -no phase, no how. I used to, and sometimes still do,think of the people I don't like as having the most nauseating habits or feature. Also just recognize the crush for what it is and don't play it up. The worst thing we can do is buy the boat 'I'm falling in love with him.'
VoicesofHope
February 7th, 2016 8:17pm
Just to get to know them, when it happens you realse they arent't what you thought them to be and it just fades away with time. Worse when they're better than you thought but then there's a chance they like you too.
tarrycastle9053
March 15th, 2016 10:25am
The best way in my opinion is to meet more and more people. That way you'll actually know how people are like and may even find someone better. Spending a lot of time thinking and writing and stuff will only make you feel more lonely. Instead do something you really enjoy. Kick back and chill with those people who care for you, your friends and family. Having a crush can also be a positive experience. It can help you grow more as a person, but in a relationship both partners need to be satisfied. There are these somethings that aren't controlled by you. So just go with the flow!
Tvmv29
October 14th, 2019 10:46am
For me personally the best way was to accept and understand the reason why something worth that person won't work out. For example your crush already has a partner, your crush already has another crush or simply doesn't like you , right now you aren't able to maintain a relationship, etc When you found the main reason you focus on that. That also helps with not getting your hops up, for example : no, the person is in a relationship and does not like me, I'm just interpreting things wrong. For me it helps to avoid that person a little ( but don't completely distance me from them) to get them out of my mind.