Who am I without my disorder?

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Top Rated Answers
ZaraSmiles
March 13th, 2015 12:46am
You are not defined by your disorder, you are defined by who you are as a person! It may seem like your disorder is a part of you that you cannot let go, but that is not the case. You are you, and you are awesome! ♥
Help27
January 14th, 2015 4:55pm
You are absolutely everything with or without your disorder ! You are Fine and Awesome , don't let things like that break you and tear you apart . Be strong and fight for your happy life , we are all here for you ♥
Turtrox
January 18th, 2015 2:03am
You are you. :) Your disorder doesn't and shouldn't define you. I know that sometimes they seem to be the same person, but that isn't the case. The disorder's personality may overlap with yours, but there's always you somewhere.
ThatGirlYouCallMe
February 11th, 2015 7:56am
You are still you. Your disorder doesn't have to define who you are, you can do whatever you want, be whoever you want, with or without your disorder, it just makes you abit more unique
pandaxia
June 14th, 2015 3:07pm
Having an ED doesn't make you any less of a person, but there's no denying it can come to change your outlook over time. You will eventually be able to chip away at the disorder and allow your honest self to shine through. This is why some people struggle with the concept of recovery, an ED is all consuming - your thoughts, your day and your relationships come to revolve around it; the thought of existing without having the ED as a control mechanism can be frightening. That's why recovering can be a slow process; but you WILL learn to use healthy techniques to reinstate your sense of control and authority in your life. You might feel like you've forgotten what life is like without your ED, but who you are is still there, waiting for you to reclaim. If you want to talk about your ED, I'm here. Pandaxia
Anonymous
March 19th, 2015 10:57am
You are still you without your disorder. A lot of people tend to make their illness, their life. There is nothing wrong with that. But what should be understood is that your illness is not you. It is just a PART of who you really are. You are a unique person with his or her own doubts, questions, hobbies, talents, passions and all the more. All these individually do not represent you but they together make you up. So you are still YOU without your disorder. No less and no more. :)
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 5:36am
You're simply you. Everything that you have interest in is part of who you are. You're disorder isn't you. It's something that contradicts who you are. That's why it's always so difficult for people to get over their disorders, they feel as if the disorder is part of them and it encourages them not to try and get out of it.
HeyoSarah
June 4th, 2015 11:40pm
I've often thought this too. "Who was I before this?" "Who was I before the pain?" Well, you're still you. The disorder doesn't make you a better person, although you may be more understanding. You are you without the disorder. You're happy, hopefully.
Maerchenerzaehlerin
June 29th, 2015 10:30pm
It's really strange at first to live without a disorder. You don't know how to live with out it anymore, without that strict rules and problems you had. Sometimes living without it seems strage because it is too good to be realy. You have to be someone new, someone better, someone you always wanted to be, someone who enjoys live without the problems of a disorder. That's how I changed...
Brittneym101
July 20th, 2015 2:31am
Your disorder doesn't define you as an individual. You are still human either way. Disorders can be a challenge don't get me wrong, but that doesn't make you any less of a person.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2016 10:36am
The person I am without my disorder is more or less the same person I am with my disorder. Just...without the pain.