Am I obligated to immediately forgive someone for a wrongdoing just because they are family?

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mysteriousWillow50
April 8th, 2015 9:44pm
No, you're not. Wrong-doing, regardless of whom did it doesn't require immediate forgiveness. Just because someone is related to you that doesn't mean they're entitled to be forgiven, forgiveness, like respect has to be earned. -Also, just another thought, I've actually had people that are by-blood related family that are worse than the family I've created for myself. With that, the people you choose to be family with as it were, I feel like forgiveness is easier because you chose each other and don't go out of your way to harm one another. The family you're born and in some cases 'stuck' with, it can be a bit different. With that, forgiveness isn't an automatic because you share DNA with someone.
softVision19
February 24th, 2015 5:00am
It takes a lot of emotional energy to hold a grudge. Forgiveness is more beneficial for ourselves than for the person who wronged us. It's said that holding onto resentment is like hurting yourself and expecting someone else to bleed. In the case of a pattern of behavior, it makes sense to adjust our circumstances/ behavior to prevent the same thing from happening. If the threat has passed however, it will go a long way toward family harmony and rebuilding trust if we can leave the past in the past.
Uniqueg
May 6th, 2015 7:15pm
Not at all, family or not we all have our limits. It hurts even worse because it's your own family that hurt you, make them aware of this and how they made you feel and that you'll need some time to forgive them.
Anthony974
May 7th, 2015 10:37pm
No, absolutely not. Forgiveness is something many people struggle with, me included. Forgiveness must be earned by the person, family or not.
livingincolorsth
May 8th, 2015 1:28pm
No, you are not. You need to forgive people because it will help you to let go and not hold on on into things that might hurt you in time. Forgiving is healthy so you dont have to do so because people is family, yo need to do it beause you want to and is going to make you feel good, but is alright o be angry with someone for a little while.
Pumpkin74
May 20th, 2015 6:45am
If a family member has affected you deeply, you are not obligated to forgive or forget. Having said this, it does not mean that you should hold onto this pain. While we are sometimes hurt by those we love, discern the situation and ask yourself questions such as: What was the intent of the person who hurt me? Is this something I can live with and forgive? Will they hurt me again? How will I be affected without this person in my life? Do I want to forgive or am I still angry at the situation? Remember, it is your life to choose who you allow in your heart and you deserve to be respected and loved regardless of their position.
pm229
May 21st, 2015 9:05am
No, you have the right to go through a process. You need to first learn how to deal with what was done wrong. Family will always be family, and forgiving is an option and not an obligation.
DipityEnigma
July 14th, 2015 4:28pm
No. Family is just a tag. They're given it so that you and others know who is affiliated with you through DNA. Nothing more, nothing less. No matter if they're a family member, friend, colleague etc, they are all human and we should all be responsible for our own actions, no matter the link between you and the other person or people. Respect is what should hold people together, not a tag. I hope this information helps. =D
IamtheGuardianAngel
December 1st, 2015 8:36pm
Absolutely not. Forgiveness is not granted, it's earned. If they only say sorry for you to forgive them so their conscience is clear, then they are not truly sorry.
Brittneym101
December 7th, 2015 9:43pm
No, you're not obligated to immediately forgive someone for a wrongdoing just because they are family. you should forgive them for yourself. Forgive, but never forget. It will take you some time, but forgive someone because you a ready and do it for yourself.
Greatlistener87
January 18th, 2016 2:43am
No, everything takes time to deal with. You are never obligated to do anything that you don't want to do. Take your time and when you are ready forgive.
Heretohelp2000
February 22nd, 2016 1:15am
No, not at all. Just because they are family doesn't mean they should not receive different treatment.
Anonymous
February 29th, 2016 2:36am
No you don't have to. You should let them know that it is not okay to you what they did. Just because someone is family doesn't mean that everything should be forgive and forget,
Anonymous
April 4th, 2016 1:55pm
I wouldn't say immediately...after all, as long as we are adults we must accept that there are consequences to our actions. With family, sometimes, we do forgive for the sake of keeping peace in the house, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't talk with the person and let them know they hurt your feelings :)
Treasure0124
May 30th, 2016 3:55am
Yes you should forgive because what if that person dies and you never got to apologize or say that you were sorry you would live in regret forever.
Snakefoxbox
June 14th, 2016 4:30pm
No. From personal experience, it's been a few years and I still have not forgiven my own father for doing something that hurt me very much. You are not obligated to forgive anyone who hurts you who you feel does not belong in your life.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2016 3:00am
While we may feel more inclined to forgive someone simply because they are family - it doesn't mean that it is right. I believe that a family member has to make amends the same way someone else would have to.
WildFree94
August 23rd, 2016 1:08pm
Not at all. You're never obligated to forgive someone. Forgiveness is a choice only you can make, whether they are family or not.
Anonymous
September 6th, 2016 6:33pm
You are not. Forgiveness is a long path and if anyone betrayed or hurt you, no matter if you are related, you should take your time to forgive them and assess the situation.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2016 12:53am
No. If you feel like someone in your family did you wrong, you don't have to forgive them just because they are family. You, as a person were wronged, and just because the person who did it was family doesn't make it okay.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2017 4:05am
Forgiveness goes at a different pace for everyone and is certainly not an obligation, but think of the severity of the situation. It always helps to be vocal and talk to the family member about what upset you, and how you can go about resolving the problem.
samlovenothate
June 27th, 2017 3:30am
no. You have a right to feel every emotion you go through. You have a right to be angry, upset, and sad. You have been hurt and it takes time to get through that. You will get there when you are ready and only when you are ready.
SunflowerCrow
June 25th, 2018 4:05pm
You are not obligated to do as such. Your family may push that you should forgive them as soon as the wrongdoing is committed, but you are the master of you, and you do not have to forgive them ASAP. Handle your emotions first. My family always pushed us to forgive each other immediately, but that does not have to be the case. You are your own person. Take your time, but let them know how you feel.