How can I be more honest to my family about the stresses and pressures I'm dealing with?

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Last Updated: 04/24/2018 at 5:14pm
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Anonymous
March 21st, 2015 4:00pm
I think it's important to be clear about the fact that you want to initiate an open line of communication, it may be hard for them to hear all of your problems at first especially if they are a part of them but it's good to step up and instigate conversations, it's easy to get frustrated when you feel like they don't understand you but try to keep calm and although not everything will be solved in a day, small steps lead to much bigger things as I'm sure they want to do all they can to help you.
halcyonSea12
April 23rd, 2015 6:28pm
The important thing is to say it in a calm and non-judging tone. Say something along the lines of "Hey mum, I really appreciate how you care about my exam results and ask me about my schedule so often, but it's making me feel stressed and I would like you to ask me only once a day instead of thrice." If they are external stresses, just be open, but don't raise your voice and open a channel for communication.
PrivatePillow
May 2nd, 2015 2:33am
Ask them a time when they would be available to talk about some things that has been on your mind lately. If you start talking to them when they are busy, they won't be able to give you their full attention, and you will feel like they don't care about you. They do, your family loves you. If you need to talk about something serious, just let them now, and schedule a time dedicated for that. When that's done,you will be able to talk to them and be sure that they'll hear you out, and help you. Take care xo
Glareofyesterday
May 20th, 2015 4:37pm
You can be more honest by taking the time to figure out what the problem is and see if you cnt feel confortable enough to discuss it
DaveC2016
June 4th, 2015 12:36am
I find it is easier in the long run to just say what is on your mind. If you are stressed, instead of letting it eat you up inside, just talk to them. You might be surprised how much they understand.
Emily619
July 28th, 2015 6:19pm
You can be more honest to your family about the stresses and pressures you're dealing with by becoming more closer to them. After that, it should be fairly easy.
gentlePudding78
December 8th, 2015 2:09am
tell them how you really feel tell them to give you time and honest feedback about your feelings. ask them to first listen and them give their opinion and time to ask questions use i feel statements and try not to blame anyone or raise your voice talk calmly
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 4:14pm
I would have to say, tell them how you are feeling about the pressure they are putting on you, saying that you're trying your best, but it's getting out of hand.
LauraListens
March 28th, 2016 4:13pm
Hello! It can be hard to open up to other people about how you are feeling, particularly those closest to you. The best way to do so is to have a conversation with them and try to explain how you are feeling. If this is too difficult or you feel like you miss bits out it might be helpful to write it down or even have it as a letter to give to a family member. Maybe face to face it is to hard to say, a conversation over the phone could be a possibility if it initially is too hard to start the dialogue? Having the conversation is the important bit, and being able to express how you feel- even if it doesn't go according to plan the first time, don't worry! Opening up the dialogue with your family will mean they will be aware of how you feel, so bringing it up again should be easier (who knows, they might even check in with you from time to time!) I think that it's really positive that you want to share this with your family, they can act as a support network for you and hopefully this will help to relieve some of the stresses you are feeling. Good Luck, Laura :)
IreneDreamer
May 23rd, 2016 10:28am
There is nothing that you can't solve without a good, calm and sincere discussion. You just need to make them understand your point of view and explain that you find it hard to deal with this pressure you are under. It is also very helpful if you develop an honest relationship with them by communicating every day how you feel or your thoughts on certain topics that cause you stress or pain. It will improve your relationship and it will make it easier by day to share how you feel or what you are thinking with them. Remember, sharing can be very helpful, even curing at times.
Myn
July 5th, 2016 12:44pm
by telling them the truth. most people are afraid that they wouldn't understand but actually they are the people who understands you the most and also the people who would always be there for you. so open up to them and ask for help.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2017 9:15pm
In my opinion, anyone should share their feelings with their families. It's important to talk and trust. Just take your time and tell them all about your problems and stress, all about the pressure. Don't be afraid of telling them. They probably would understand you. They will help you. :)
Anonymous
July 25th, 2017 6:49pm
You shouldn't be forced to say something that you don't want to. But being honest is always the better way. It's good to find a situation in which they will really listen to you. Tell them what's bothering you and ask for help, the family often takes things serious after really asking for help.
ruedabega13
April 10th, 2018 7:16pm
Accept the things that you are struggling with first and foremost. Then find a medium that you can best explain your situation. Then speak your truth! Don't take it personally if they don't totally understand, sometimes people just don't fully understand what they are going through.
Blaise23
April 24th, 2018 5:14pm
Start discussing matters with your favourite and most trusted member of the family and slowly others.