How can I earn the approval of my parents when I feel like all I do is let them down?

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Anonymous
June 16th, 2015 2:16pm
What's more important is whether you're letting down yourself. If you feel like you've done your wry best then that's all they can ask for. Your happiness is more important and will/should be a priority for your parents. Talk to them; this kind of pressure can only affect you negatively.
DipityEnigma
April 16th, 2015 3:34pm
Parents are very fickle humans. The worst thing that parents can do is to make you feel like you need to earn their approval as this may make you feel like you're never going to be good enough which will effect your life overall within society. The hardest thing I ever did was simply not caring about what anyone in my family thought about me and just carry on my life the way I want it to be. Everyone has such high, unrealistic expectations; everyone's different and has their own image of a perfect life but parents of all people seem to think theirs matters overall, which of course is not how it is. You can either try to earn their approval by doing what they want you to do or take your life into your own hands and do what you want to do, regardless of what anyone else has to say.
Nisee96
May 11th, 2015 2:06pm
You don't have to earn the approval of anybody even your parents. Yes I know we all want I parents approval but we won't always get it what should matter most is your own approval.
PoliteOcean
September 6th, 2015 6:26pm
The best thing you can do is talk with your parents about what you are feeling. It might help to actually have a conversation with them about your feelings and their feelings and what to expect from one another.
LawrenceChamberlain
September 14th, 2015 4:10pm
First, my friend, you should approve of your-self! Reading your query, I thought to my-self, self-esteem is the problem here and not his parents. Without knowing you, I can tell that asking for attention of others is a sure indicator for the lack of self-reliance. Maybe, your parents are just bad communicators? Maybe, you want them to be discontented? Maybe, they are just bad parents? You will never know for sure. Try to find the approval you so desperately seek in your-self, find comfort in who you are and talk to your parents about your thought, worries and pains.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2016 1:10am
Start by realizing nobody is perfect. Your parents will still love you. I'm sure when they were kids they made mistakes. Why should you have to perfect when the werent.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2016 3:29pm
Talk to them about how you feel. Maybe they're pressuring you to do better than you're capable of? You're their child and they should be proud of what you can do. Not be let down by stuff that you can't do.
Greatlistener87
April 26th, 2016 6:39am
You do not need to earn any approval from your parents, as they are your parents and they have already approved you. Ask them if they you are letting them down and listen to what they have to say. The only time you have really let your parents down is when u have given up.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2016 1:37am
Pay key attention to what they do seem to approve and emphasize that. Also, just talk to them. Maybe your just looking at it wrong and really your making yourself feel depressed over nothing.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2016 6:07pm
You first need to approve yourself. Afterwards, sit down with your parents and ask them if you are letting them down and explain you are trying your best.
h3idi
September 27th, 2016 3:41am
have a conversation about what their expectations are and come up with a way to meet their needs while being reasonable with yourself and your capabilities
PeacefulMind94
July 17th, 2017 8:07am
It's highly likely your parents are proud but they just don't communicate it clearly. Spend time with one another and your lines of communication will open up.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2018 1:57pm
We all want the approval of those closest to us. But that doesn't mean we need it. During the times of my life when I thought everyone else was looking down on me I often found out that I was the one doing the looking down. Trying to refocus on yourself and doing things that make you proud of yourself can be beneficial.