How can I exclude myself from a threatening family situation ?
Last Updated: 03/14/2016 at 9:50am
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By being absolutely clear to all parties that you are not included in the following matter no matter what and anything that happens is none of your concern.
Find support online or through your school or college, or even your job. Find somewhere you can go that will be safe and out of the threatening situation.
What if you setup some sort of a safe place. A place where you can get away from quickly. Or do you know a way to ease the threat?
This sounds diffcult. First, I don´t know what the threat is and what you worry about. If there is violence in your family, definitely try to get outside support or help. I also don´t know how old you are. I think either talking to another member on 7 cups could help if the situation is not about violence, or you need to get other professionals involved. Good luck.
Try not to be in the same place where the threatening situation is taking place. Please look for help if you need it if the situation excels.
Think positive and focused. Ignore what is bad for you. For that you have to understand the thin line difference between good and bad. Help people to understand the situation. Talk to them politely.
1. Get group help. If it’s possible and your family/family member is up for it, get counseling. 2. If it’s possible move out. Move in with a friend, your partner, an extended family member. Get to a place where people want to be with you, try to move into a nurturing environment. 3. Accept your parents or family member’s limitations. Know that you don’t have to repeat their behavior. You are not them. 4. Allow yourself to get angry. Use it productively. Exercise. Do sports. Use art and creative expression. Write in a journal. Don’t withhold your emotions. 5. Seek guidance for yourself. Talk to someone, a counselor, a life coach, your yoga teacher—anyone who will listen, someone you feel comfortable with. Ask for help with change and with taking risks. 6. Limit your time. Do whatever it takes to limit the amount of time you have to spend with the toxic family/family member. Limit visits, holidays, do what you can to prevent as much conflict as possible. 7. Set healthy boundaries. Try to not allow yourself to get sucked back in. You can love and wish them the best from a distance. 8. Learn ways to protect yourself. Practice meditation. Learn to be patient with yourself and others. 9. Become aware of yourself. Observe your reactions. Become more self-aware in order to break negative patterns as much as you can. 10. Practice doing good things for yourself. Do things that build self-esteem. Do things you enjoy. Invite others that love you along. 11. Create balance in your life. Take care of yourself physically and eat a balanced healthy diet. Be aware and be cautious of things you may do compulsively (eating, shopping, drinking, etc) 12. Take charge of your life and your happiness. Don’t wait for others to give it to you.
you can take a walk outside call a friend or you can call kids help line, you can walk to a friends, just remove yourself from the situation.
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