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How can I get along with my mom better?

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Last Updated: 06/22/2021 at 12:39pm
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April 5th, 2015 8:48pm
Spend more quality time with her. Try to think about things from her point of view as well. We usually tend to think we're right, sometimes we might have to think if the person is actually right..
November 2nd, 2015 8:24pm
Try to understand each other. Be a cliche and try to "walk a mile in each other's shoes." Sit down with her, talk with her like you would a friend or a sibling. In most cases, not all unfortunately, but most, our mother is our biggest supporter. She gave you life. She spent lots of sleepless nights consoling you as you cried, waking up every other hour to make sure you were safe and warm and happy. She does care and she does love you, but she is a person too. Just as you hurt, so does she. Be mindful of that and the situation will work itself out.
May 24th, 2016 10:26pm
I used to have multiple rows with my mum, but I eventually put my time for her, such as helping around the house, sitting down and just talking with her, mums are great if you can get on their good side ;)
August 9th, 2016 7:22pm
By trying to find things that you have in common with her and doing these things with her. That might help you bond.
December 4th, 2018 11:01pm
Well you can get along with your mother better by being truthful to her for starters and having important conversations and bringing her into your life more then you ever did before. Making time with her to discuss anything that is on your heart as well. You want to keep the doors open to your mother and you want to always tell her how your feeling as well. No secrets between you both here. Live the best ways you can from knowing that you are free when you live an honest life for yourself here. No better way then living a life actually!
April 17th, 2015 5:19pm
Finding common interests and participating in these interests makes it easier to get along with someone.
May 22nd, 2015 4:16pm
Try doing more things with your mom. Parents like to be involved in their kid's lives so maybe try going to see a movie or plant some flowers with her and have some bonding time.
February 22nd, 2016 2:22am
Relationships are not easy no matter what kind they are. Honesty is the best policy in relationships and talking about things when it is bothering you is also good. The effort of giving and taking is also important.
August 23rd, 2016 12:38pm
I always make time for my mother and treat her now like my bet friend. When I was younger we fought but now I realise that she just wanted the best for me and we love to spend time together now
August 30th, 2016 5:33pm
Try expressing how you feel about your relationship with your mother to her. Plan days where you can spend time with one another doing things you both like.
January 23rd, 2017 9:54am
Find what makes you not get along with her and try to change it? Find common interests, watch a movie or start a TV show together? Cook sometime? Go out shopping? Just find whatever suits the both of you, lol. And don't feel bad opening up and telling her about yourself.
March 20th, 2017 2:34am
Find a common interest, do fun things together to break the tension. Talk about touchy subjects in a setting that is controlled. If it's hard to talk about your job with mom, maybe encourage her to ask more about your friends or hobbies. She is your mother, hopefully she has good intentions, but if you are an adult, sometimes you have to remind her of that. But remind her you love her just the same.
July 3rd, 2017 5:39am
Try to find a common interest. My mum and I get along, but we don't have a strong mother-daughter relationship. I found that if we both had a shared hobby it was easier to relate to each other.
November 20th, 2017 7:32pm
First you need to start and look at what it is about your relationship that is stopping the two of you from getting along. Find a common love or interest and build on that. Both like photography? Go out and shoot some pics! Listen to what she has to say instead of wanting to argue against her.
April 17th, 2018 6:30pm
Depending on the situation maybe try sitting down to have one on one time with something you both enjoy to help mend/strengthen the bond between you. In addition to this talking about any problems regularly in a relaxed open situation helps.
December 4th, 2018 10:57am
it depends on what the problem coming between you is. if you ever say something harmful or hurting, always try to apologise afterwards and clear the air- never go to bed angry. also, think about everything your mum has done and been through to give birth to you and raise you- she should be wholey appreciated! never forget that she’s your mum and loves you unconditionally, even if it might not seem that way at time- she will always love you with her whole heart! lastly, think of common interests between you and your mum, try to talk about those interests with her or use them to become closer to her so you have more in common and more to talk about!
June 22nd, 2021 12:39pm
I try to say and show how I love my mom. Building good conversation and doing activities together. That way mom may want to listen and talk more about anything to me. Even a small talk is important to create a good relationship. The sense of being appreciated by her own kids is what I want to achieve. After that, if I already have a good conversations and memories together, I can talk more casually. I hope with this I can be more confidence and comfortable to talk with Mom and vice versa. Hope this will help anyone who need.