How can I get along with my mom better?
Last Updated: 12/04/2018 at 11:01pm
Brittany Kelley, MSW, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I am a psychodynamically trained clinical social worker. I find assisting women and families through difficult times an extremely rewarding and collaborative process.
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Spend more quality time with her. Try to think about things from her point of view as well. We usually tend to think we're right, sometimes we might have to think if the person is actually right..
Try to understand each other. Be a cliche and try to "walk a mile in each other's shoes." Sit down with her, talk with her like you would a friend or a sibling. In most cases, not all unfortunately, but most, our mother is our biggest supporter. She gave you life. She spent lots of sleepless nights consoling you as you cried, waking up every other hour to make sure you were safe and warm and happy. She does care and she does love you, but she is a person too. Just as you hurt, so does she. Be mindful of that and the situation will work itself out.
I used to have multiple rows with my mum, but I eventually put my time for her, such as helping around the house, sitting down and just talking with her, mums are great if you can get on their good side ;)
By trying to find things that you have in common with her and doing these things with her. That might help you bond.
Well you can get along with your mother better by being truthful to her for starters and having important conversations and bringing her into your life more then you ever did before. Making time with her to discuss anything that is on your heart as well. You want to keep the doors open to your mother and you want to always tell her how your feeling as well. No secrets between you both here. Live the best ways you can from knowing that you are free when you live an honest life for yourself here. No better way then living a life actually!
Finding common interests and participating in these interests makes it easier to get along with someone.
Try doing more things with your mom. Parents like to be involved in their kid's lives so maybe try going to see a movie or plant some flowers with her and have some bonding time.
Relationships are not easy no matter what kind they are. Honesty is the best policy in relationships and talking about things when it is bothering you is also good. The effort of giving and taking is also important.
I always make time for my mother and treat her now like my bet friend. When I was younger we fought but now I realise that she just wanted the best for me and we love to spend time together now
Try expressing how you feel about your relationship with your mother to her. Plan days where you can spend time with one another doing things you both like.
Find what makes you not get along with her and try to change it? Find common interests, watch a movie or start a TV show together? Cook sometime? Go out shopping? Just find whatever suits the both of you, lol. And don't feel bad opening up and telling her about yourself.
Find a common interest, do fun things together to break the tension. Talk about touchy subjects in a setting that is controlled. If it's hard to talk about your job with mom, maybe encourage her to ask more about your friends or hobbies. She is your mother, hopefully she has good intentions, but if you are an adult, sometimes you have to remind her of that. But remind her you love her just the same.
Try to find a common interest. My mum and I get along, but we don't have a strong mother-daughter relationship. I found that if we both had a shared hobby it was easier to relate to each other.
First you need to start and look at what it is about your relationship that is stopping the two of you from getting along. Find a common love or interest and build on that. Both like photography? Go out and shoot some pics! Listen to what she has to say instead of wanting to argue against her.
Depending on the situation maybe try sitting down to have one on one time with something you both enjoy to help mend/strengthen the bond between you. In addition to this talking about any problems regularly in a relaxed open situation helps.
it depends on what the problem coming between you is. if you ever say something harmful or hurting, always try to apologise afterwards and clear the air- never go to bed angry. also, think about everything your mum has done and been through to give birth to you and raise you- she should be wholey appreciated! never forget that she’s your mum and loves you unconditionally, even if it might not seem that way at time- she will always love you with her whole heart! lastly, think of common interests between you and your mum, try to talk about those interests with her or use them to become closer to her so you have more in common and more to talk about!
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