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How can I get my parents to stop yelling at me for everything?

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Last Updated: 06/02/2022 at 4:16am
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ovohelp
August 11th, 2017 3:21am
you may want to talk to them about it and tell them how you feel when the yell at you for no reason .
Anonymous
August 18th, 2017 2:04pm
You could explain to them how their yelling makes you feel and ask them to be more considerate when they are speaking with you.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2017 9:33am
Communicate is the key to a lot of things. Angry parents sometimes don't realize that emotional abuse does exist. Speak to your parents about how they are making you feel, and always remember something could aswell be going on in their life for them to be frustrated and you're just who they take it out on.
fireflylove
October 18th, 2017 9:23am
So, I have had few experiences with this. It used to always make me feel worse in the end. That is until I realised that I should accept only the positive criticism. All the other negativity should be dealt with a pinch of salt. You cannot control what others do. The only thing that you can control is yourself. So accept the good criticism and throw away the rest. Remember what they say about you is not an accurate reflection of you.
softLove87
October 18th, 2017 10:31pm
I would sit my parents down and tell them that you want to have a serious conversation. Then tell them how you feel and what they can do to better the situation you are experiencing with them.
madameBlue4
November 5th, 2017 5:29am
What I have learned to get my parents to quit yelling at me is to stare at them straight faced and calmly ask them "Why are you yelling at me?". It makes them stop because they realize they don't have to yell and are in fact making themselves look crazy by yelling at a kid who's trying to talk calmly.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 5:35pm
Try talking to them and explaining how you feel. I know it may seem difficult but hopefully this will help the situation and they will understand.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 11:36pm
If possible sitting down with them and having a mature and respectful talk with them about how it makes you feel. If you don't feel comfortable doing that alone maybe ask another family member or close friend to be with you during this talk.
EmRivale
December 21st, 2017 10:38pm
Being a parent is stressful. Usually they just want what is best for you, especially as you grow older. It might seem like everything you do is wrong, but patience is key. Respect them and they will respect you. Perhaps talk to them. What is making them yell at you? Ask them.
briaannasaurus
December 27th, 2017 4:51am
Talk to them. Communication is important and for good relationships between parents and their children to work, there needs to be communication. Tell them how it feels when they yell at you and explain why it seems unfair, if that's what you're feeling.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2017 12:44pm
As a parent of 6, I will say that honesty is first and foremost the importance of a respectful relationship. I tell the kids that I may be mad but I will respect the honesty. I am an advocate of eastern philosophy and believe that we need to let our kids make some mistakes because it's all part of the learning process. I do not spank my children and allow them to be a vital part of our household. Some parents are strict in their values and beliefs and this is where heads can butt.... Some especially teens are finding their own identities and parents tend to push their values onto kids and this is where and why they clash. It's a process and work for both the parents and kids, so be patient and HONEST and things should get better. Best of luck
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 8:32am
Well you can sit with them and explain how bad you feel when they yell at you, once you do that they will know how badly they make you feel.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2018 2:17pm
Depending on how old you are it’s honestly a part of growing up, I’ve been through it and so have a lot of others. Gain their trust! If you already have it then you’re on the right track.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2018 7:19pm
Sometimes it isn't really your fault, and sometimes it isn't really their fault. Being a kid or a teen or a young adult is just always stressful. But if you can hold out for a little bit, if you can compromise on somethings, if you can find it in your heart to just let those past stupid fights go - you'll slowly become best friends with your parents. Just having good times with my parents at dinner or on the way to school, I can't tell you how much it'll mean to you. Don't instigate your parents and don't let them instigate you. Just go with the flow, trust me - everyone's been through it (including your mom and dad with your grandparents).
Anonymous
January 19th, 2018 1:56am
Simply talk to them and let them know that you can understand everything perfectly without yelling. communication is the key to everything.
Jasmine7860
January 20th, 2018 5:49pm
By respecting their views and opinion and listening to it carefully. That way they will respect and honour you in return and do keep up your promise that earns the trust of the parents
MonicaQu
February 3rd, 2018 6:02am
Your parents may be going through a lot of stress so sometimes they yell without noticing so maybe you could go to a quiet spot or just silently listen to what they say then later write down your thoughts so you can talk to them at a different time when they are calm.
Ashley132
February 4th, 2018 2:58pm
Sit them down and explain to them how this is affecting you emotionally, don’t be afraid to speak :)
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2018 5:14am
Remember to speak respectfully to them back and talk to them about why you dislike the way they speak to you.
magneticDog23
March 8th, 2018 5:47am
go out from home, just hang out and walking with my friends so I no need to meet my parents who always yelling at me
FlyingAlex1
March 8th, 2018 10:25am
Show them that you're doing your best at what they expect from you! Get them to know who you are, in an honest and frontal conversation. Show them your true colors.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2018 1:57pm
when I was young I used to just step away and go outside where I could give them a chance to calm down. Trying to open up when somebody is yelling unfortunately doesn't always come out with good results because you find yourself caught in a web where you are yelling right back I understand our parents go through a lot of stresses and when we are coming in even for the smallest thing such as Mom what color out there is what I look good in today red or blue and right away they snap at you they don't mean to snap it's just that there are things that has caught them and a very bad moment when you see the situation come down it is always good to ask mom or dad are you okay can we talk about something that is on my mind and you will know right off the bat if it is indeed a good time or not for me that is my personal experience
UzuIsHere
March 30th, 2018 11:17am
I have a mum who is constantly yelling; mostly because she tends to let everything get to her. It became a bad habit and sometimes it's hard for her to change it. If your parents are yelling all the time, you need to remember that it's not an issue with you, it's an issue with them. The first thing I would try is to approach your parents in a calm manner and sit them down like adults. Ask them if they would please speak to you as they would like to be spoken to, and there's no need to get through this discussion loudly. It's understandably difficult to stay calm in an argument, even I still struggle with this. But by keeping a level head, the person you are talking to will more likely bounce off of that. If this does not work, remember that every situation is different and sometimes you have to keep looking for solutions until you find the right one. If you feel that what they're yelling about is impacting you negatively and taking a toll on your mental health, I would suggest you find your local emotional abuse hotline or perhaps if you are more comfortable talking to a good friend you can trust. Either way, it's okay to talk it out.
UniqueHero20
March 31st, 2018 1:03pm
Try to understand where your parents are coming from. What exactly are they yelling at you for? Recognise what the problem is.
AGoodStart
April 15th, 2018 12:45am
You can't. You can, however, avoid their verbal abuse, enlist the help of other trusted friends and adults to confront the yelling, and let them know exactly how damaging and painful their actions are.
Joyfulsmile
April 20th, 2018 10:53pm
I think it is about respect or maybe he or she have some matters that make him nervouse so you have to make sure what matter is that before acting
veronica04
April 26th, 2018 7:55pm
If you feel that your parents are telling at you for everything u should go to your parents and ask is they ok because u feel that they are being angry at you all the time and it makes u feel really uncomfortable at times..
PositiveThoughts101
May 1st, 2018 8:01pm
Relationships are a lot of give and take. It can be very frustrating when you feel you are doing all you can, and all you get in return is mistreatment. I sometimes have to stop and ask myself, "Am I providing to my parents what they need?" Sometimes it is something as simple as putting the dishes away. The best thing I can suggest is to try communicating better. Maybe simply ask them what they need from you would be a good start. And try to remember not to recoil with anger when they start yelling. Hope this help!
Sill
May 13th, 2018 5:53pm
Sit down with your parents and have a honest, heart-to-heart conversation. Tell them how you feel, and listen to what they are saying in return.
HarleyQuiinn666
May 16th, 2018 1:44am
How about taking a deep breath and trying to talk to them? Sometimes family can be stressful but it can improve a lot if you remain calm and try to be honest about how they are making you feel. Judging by my own experiences this seem to work, honesty and calm are always a good choice.