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How can I make my family happy and not seem insensitive?

10 Answers
Last Updated: 06/26/2018 at 3:44pm
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Paola Giordani, Psychoanalyst

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I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.

Top Rated Answers
May 5th, 2015 2:23am
You might not be able to, darling. And that's okay.
January 27th, 2015 7:48pm
Making your family happy can be easier if you set boundaries; by letting they know what areas of your life they can offer an opinion or suggestion. This will encourage them to understand your life belongs to you, and making happy is important, but you cannot alter your goals to do it.
February 1st, 2015 2:08am
Families often ask too much from us, or so we feel... It is hard to please everyone at the same time. So, it is important that we are happy with ourselves and don't pressure our feelings. If we are really satisfied with what we do, we will have a good impact on those around us (family and friends) even though it isn't exactly what they're asking from us. If after all they think that we are still insensitive, then we should face them and clarify things. If we are happy they will be happy too!
February 17th, 2015 3:27am
Model what happy looks like...I can't make anyone happy, I can just work on my own happiness. This can be achieved without being insensitive to others needs by being respectful and empathetic.
May 22nd, 2015 8:13pm
Dont make them worried. If they get mad at you,they just care about you. If you're really at fault, apologize. Dont say word that is too over. Nothing hurts more than their children using words that hurt them too deeply.
June 17th, 2015 1:40am
By making yourself happy and being the best person you can. Be a supportive family member but also keep healthy boundaries.
August 11th, 2015 4:09pm
Your question is a little vague but what I would suggest is, ask your family what you could do to show your appreciation towards them. Even that alone, may show them that you are trying to be less "insensitive" and are looking to make them happy. Other that asking them, you could do house chores that are not asked of you by them or do something special for them. If you can or allowed to make meals, maybe one night, surprise them by making something. Anything you do to show someone you appreciate them is all ways of showing how much you care about them. I hope everything works out! :)
July 25th, 2016 8:32am
The best advice I was given is to not do things that people like. Avoid doing things that people do not like. The second thing is to actively listen to what they are saying(show that you're listening). You also need to be empathetic and sympathetic to what they are saying.
February 27th, 2018 7:27pm
The best way to do this is to change perspectives. Put yourself in your family members shoes. Then you can act based on how they would feel. But make sure not to put yourself on the bottom of the list, you deserve love too.
June 26th, 2018 3:44pm
Be as open and honest with your family as possible. Try to speak calmly to avoid any possible offense, but if you are truthful about how you feel your family will likely be more receptive to your opinions.