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How can I stop thinking about my family smoking and drinking and cursing everyday?

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Last Updated: 04/06/2021 at 3:00am
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Top Rated Answers
January 12th, 2015 10:34am
It might help to perceive the problem as not theirs, but yours. Judging or disapproving others' behavior will not help you control it or help you accept it. It's just going to alienate you from them. You have the right to live your life the way you want to, and so do they. Live your own ideals. Set the example you want to become. But don't expect others to follow your path. They have their own path to follow.
February 17th, 2015 12:20am
Take time to relax and set the mood to calm. Meditating may help in this type of citation. Although this may not be easy always try to keep an open mined.
April 16th, 2015 3:03pm
Depending on your situation and mentality, it may help to remember that they're only humans who make mistakes. They control their lives and you control yours. The best thing you can do is to take them by example and lead your life the way you want it to and to simply accept the things you cannot change.
September 13th, 2015 8:02pm
Everybody is different nobody is the same. You can do whatever works for you to try to take your mind off of it. You can also try talking with your family about how it makes you feel. Good luck!
October 27th, 2015 9:27pm
Put yourself around friends or other loved ones. My mom used to smoke and i went to school and joined clubs and hung out with friends. You should try it!
June 13th, 2016 4:36am
Try to distance yourself from them if you can. If you live with them, try to stay in your room or try to get out of the house more. If you live away from the, try to limit your contact with them. You should also try to find things that you enjoy to do so you can keep your mind off of it.
August 22nd, 2016 6:17pm
Sometimes people tend to try and fix what they can not. You can only vocalize your discomfort, but what your family does is ultimately their decision. Understand that YOU can not fix everything!
August 7th, 2017 2:24am
These are bad habits that your family has decided to adapt all on their own, without thinking about the people around them. Its great that you see that those are bad habits and have decided to stay away from them. Don't allow anyone to tell you otherwise.
April 6th, 2021 3:00am
Do not think about a pink elephant. Did it work? I don't think it's realistic to set a goal of not thinking about something, instead think about something else. When the thoughts get into your mind, instead concentrate on your environment, the sounds, smells, views, concentrate on your own breathing, in other words try to be present, anchor yourself to the reality of the moment. That's, of course, assuming that the family is not around to trigger those thoughts. If the family is around, try to communicate your concern, and if it's not understood, then try your best to remove yourself from that environment, leave the room, or go for a walk.