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How can I talk to my mother about my father cheating on her?

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Last Updated: 11/07/2017 at 8:51pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
May 7th, 2015 3:21am
Explain to her that its very hard for you to tell her this but you feel like she deserves to know, that way she feels like you care about her enough to tell her.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2015 7:44am
Firstly you should keep strong because it won't end well. Your mum will need you the most because it will be really difficult for her .
PoliteOcean
September 10th, 2015 9:40pm
Hmm. That can be a difficult situation to be in. Perhaps you should think hard on it, gather all the information to make sure you have the correct information. If you do infact know for sure that this is happening, perhaps you should decide whats best first? Speaking to you father first, or going to your mother first. Or do you feel that speaking with another trusted adult about the situation can help? Decide what is best for "you" and "Your family", and take it from there. Good Luck!
ImperfectlyPerfect
November 17th, 2015 11:28am
It would be better for you to convince him to tell her if possible. If not, you need to make sure you're certain before you do anything. Once you are, honesty is the best policy. Come straight out with it. Otherwise you can be blamed for hiding it if and when she finds out.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 1:15am
The first thing you should do in this type of situation is definetly make sure that your father is cheating on your mother. Secondly, make sure you have proof when you tell your mother. You need times, dates, all of the things you can get to let your mother know this is happening. Lastly I would say it in a way thats not to abrasive. You want to make sure you are completely calm and do not overwhelm her. Its hard enough without you freaking out
allnaturalUnicorns70
July 25th, 2016 2:19pm
That's a really delicate matter, tread with extreme caution! If mom otherwise doesn't know about it, you might consider if you should be the one to bring it to her attention. She might have a bad reaction that you aren't equipped to handle. Good luck!
Greatlistener87
August 1st, 2016 5:47am
Your mom probably already knows about it. Just sit her down and be honest to her about whatever it is you want to talk about and let her know that you are there for her as she will need you at this time.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 7:20pm
Simply state the truth that embraces both the risks and the good expectations. The fear of the consequences is but a fruitless vanity.
LiveLoveLife19
November 15th, 2016 2:33pm
Tell her that you are telling her because you care. Tell her how you found out. And remember, it is better to tell her sooner than later. It will hurt her, of course. But rather that than let her find out you have been keeping it from her.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2017 6:56am
With empathy and from a non-judgemental place. If she wants to stay, you should be supportive and vice versa.
Arkelight
November 7th, 2017 8:51pm
If it's something that you really have to do, find out if your mother is experiencing any doubt herself. Ask her if she's noticed your father acting differently or spending less time at home. If she flat out refuses any changes, she may be in denial, otherwise it may allow you to have a healthy conversation about the issue. If you feel as though it's only going to get worse, then you might be forced to confront your mother with the truth.