Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

How can I talk to my spouse about getting help for their mental health?

6 Answers
Last Updated: 09/14/2021 at 8:52pm
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
Moderated by

April Zamzow, CSW, MA, LPC

Licensed Professional Counselor

There are many times in our lives when we could use an ear to listen and help us through the things that we are struggling with. I can do that.

Top Rated Answers
September 23rd, 2016 2:04am
Every person is different. Some people are incredibly adverse to going to therapy, while others might be more open to the idea. You know your spouse the best, so you'd probably know the best way to approach them. At a time in which neither of you are busy/incredibly stressed you might approach them and initiate an open conversation about the topic. Always make sure to not be accusatory or aggressive towards your spouse, because they are probably aware of their issues, but feel they can't do anything about it. That's a good way to start.
September 19th, 2016 3:40am
You can try encouraging your spouse to do it, maybe offer to attend a few sessions with him/her if your spouse is nervous to go alone.
October 3rd, 2016 7:13pm
You can start by talking calmly and tell him to just listened you untill you are done talking. Make sure you explain to him that you just care and want him to be happy and healthy. Don't get angry or upset if he disagrees just let him know about your concern and if he disagrees back off for a little bit and maybe talk about it another time.
March 28th, 2017 4:17pm
its never easy to open up about these things, specially around someone you hold so close and dear. My best advice would be to ask them the right questions, make them reflect on their situation and how they really feel. If they themselves can come to the realisation, they might be more inclined to get help.
January 15th, 2018 8:38pm
Talk to him/her one on one, in the softest and most sensitive way you can. Make sure he/she feels that everything you're saying is coming from a place of love and genuine concern. Speak gently, lovingly, and let her/him know how getting help will aid your relationship and him/her as a person. Wishing you all the best!
September 14th, 2021 8:52pm
First, it is important that you approach this subject very carefully, as you do not want your spouse to feel attacked or that you are forcing them to do something they are not comfortable with. Start by gently asking if there is anything that is bothering or difficult in their life right now. Maybe they are stressed at work and do not even realize that they are. Do not accuse them of anything. If they deny help, do not loose hope, they may need to ask for it when they are ready. Tell them that you will be there with them every step of the way and are willing to do whatever you can to support them.