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How can I tell if my mother has dementia?

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Last Updated: 05/09/2022 at 11:18pm
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Anonymous
December 14th, 2017 12:01pm
It's normal to forget things once in a while. However, forgetting how to make change, use the telephone, or find your way home are probably signs of a more serious memory problem, such as mild cognitive impairment, dementia or the early stages of Alzheimer's.
here2help5
January 12th, 2018 11:44pm
Look up the signs on google or take her to a doctor to get an accurate diagnoses. Take notes of how she talks and behaves and discuss it with a doctor.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 2:21am
There are symptoms that can be recognised, such as : Memory loss Difficulty performing familiar tasks Problems with language, There is no way to be 100% sure then to get a diagnosis from a trained and qualified doctor.
BlissfulNathalie24
January 28th, 2018 5:24pm
A doctor is best to answer this question. I was the primary care giver to a loved one with dementia and it is not easy to spot in the beginning. Write down the events that have led you to think that this might be a possiblity. Take that log with you to your mothers next doctors appointment and discuss this with them.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 4:24pm
It can sometimes be hard to tell if someone has dementia. Because some memory loss is normal as a person ages. However, extensive memory loss is not. I work in that field and the best thing you can do is take her in to see her doctor and ask for a referral to a neurologist. The neurologist can order an MRI to look at whether or not there are physical signs of dementia. Also, they can order neuropsychological testing (this is what I do in my career) in order to determine if her memory truly is worse than other people her age. Bottom line is, if you think there are problems, it's best to take her to see her doctor.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2018 2:07pm
Well ask her questions and then have her respond then ask her that question the next week just try to have her remember thing but if she can't she my have the start of dementia
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 5:48am
The most reliable way to know if someone has dementia is by visiting their family doctor. However, there are some symptoms to look out for, such as: forgetting important dates or names of close friends and family, misplacing items, getting words mixed up, asking the same question repetitively, or going for a walk and forgetting how to get home. However, it is important to seek the support of a family doctor to get a proper diagnosis early for the best quality of care.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2018 6:03pm
Take her to a doctor and have them test her for dementia. Even if she shows symptoms you can only know for sure if she is diagnosed by a doctor.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 8:13am
Notice if your mom is having forgetfulness or memory problems more often than usual. It is hard to determine however if someone has got dementia, so seeking professional advice would be better to determine if she does have dementia.
RainyMemory97
April 20th, 2018 3:30am
You can look up the symptoms for the condition online. But the best way is to consult to a specalist doctor about your worries for your mother's health. He would let you know if she has dementia or not. :)
compassionateDay97
April 22nd, 2018 10:55pm
I would start by taking her to the GP. Document all symptoms and changes that you are noticing. You can't physically make a diagnosis just by this. Your best best would be to seek medical advice where they could seek further help if needed.
patientFriend96
April 26th, 2018 9:39pm
Is she forgetting things often, is she acting strangely, does she forget names or conversations? All of those are signs of Dementia. I recommend looking up Dementia on Google and comparing the symptoms. Also I suggest talking to her doctor.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2018 6:06pm
Here's some common early symptoms of dementia. memory loss. difficulty concentrating. finding it hard to carry out familiar daily tasks, such as getting confused over the correct change when shopping. struggling to follow a conversation or find the right word. being confused about time and place. mood changes.
Sken24
June 17th, 2018 2:13am
Dementia is extremely difficult to diagnose without medical assistance. Dementia can often mimic signs of depression, through loss of memory, impaired communication, lacking focus and attention, loss of reasoning and judgement and impaired visual perception. It would be beneficial to seek medical advice for your mother.
sweetHug98
June 21st, 2018 12:04am
If you have noticed forgetfulness, confusion, and if it takes her a while to finish a sentence, any of these could be a sign of dementia.
warmPudding59
July 4th, 2018 9:33pm
Verbalize your concern with her and offer your support for finding a doctor and getting a diagnosis. Please stay away from trying to pathologize her based off of online lists... Find a competent professional and let them counsel you and her.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2021 7:11pm
Dear Doctor is the best person who can answer your query. Please do not self diagnose. However, early signs that a person might have dementia can include: 1. being vague in everyday conversations 2. memory loss that affects day-to-day function 3. short term memory loss 4. difficulty performing everyday tasks and taking longer to do routine tasks 5. losing enthusiasm or interest in regular activities 6. difficulties in thinking or saying the right words 7. changes in personality or behaviour 8. finding it difficult to follow instructions 9. finding it difficult to follow stories 10. increased emotional unpredictability. Please do not arrive at any conclusion based on above indicative symptoms. Make sure to contact Doctor for right guidance.
gracefuldeadlyswan
July 30th, 2020 1:59am
I'm sorry you have to worry about that. You best bet is to contact her doctor or the Alzheimer's association, they can give you better information than I can. Here are a couple of things to look at though. How is her memory? Does she remember the past better than what happened yesterday? Does she ask you the same question over and over? Does she ever seem confused or disoriented? Those can be clues. But remember, Alzheimer's is not the only thing that can cause those issues. Your doctor is really the best place to start.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2020 5:21pm
It's best to always contact the specialist, only a specialist can properly diagnose her. Observe your mother and talk with her about different topics like old memories, friends, family. If you notice she keeps forgetting easy to remember things or facts it's a sign to see a specialist. She might also struggle to find an answer and take way too long thinking about it. If you notice that your mother forgets where she put stuff, where are her things she always remembers about it's another sign to see a specialist. I would advise you to see a specialist even if it's hard to tell by yourself if she has one or not.
CalmBeauty3
August 15th, 2020 6:04pm
There are a couple of different things you can look for if you think your mother has dementia. First thing is telling the same stories over and over again, not remembering telling them. Asking the same questions over and over again. If she is not able to remember directions or you have to tell her directions one by one. If she does not really have a concept of time. If she is unable to recognize people or places she has been to a lot. If she is not taking care of herself or her home. Significant changes in her judgement. Difficulty communicating with others, and if her attention span has changed. Maybe see if you are able to answer those questions and see if you should have her checked out by a medical professional.
FarzanaR
August 21st, 2020 5:00pm
She will exhibit signs of forgetting. This may be in terms of memory, or it may be just simple daily tasks. Often individuals who have dementia also misplace things or forget how to certain tasks. Another sign of dementia is when the individual has difficulty of where they last placed something. Misplacing things is also a very common sign of dementia. Medically, ECG's are able to assess for grey matter in the brain and allows doctors to inform clients of whether the case of dementia is present in an individual. Following on from which, treatment should be considered for the client.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2020 2:36pm
Finding out a loved one is being diagnosed with dementia is difficult. A medical diagnosis, such as going and seeing a provider or physician may be the best way to determine if the dementia is present. You can bring any concerns that you have and any symptoms that you are noticing with your mother to report to the physician. However you decide to go through with determining a diagnosis, I hope you feel supported. This can be a challenging time for both you and your mom. I can imagine this is stressful for you and wish you all of the best!
Anonymous
November 18th, 2020 12:14am
I usually don't give straight up advice on this, but I'm going to make an exception. If you suspect your mom has dementia, I'd recommend seeing if you can get her to see a doctor. I'd suggest a soft approach, like saying you've noticed her memory or other things you've noticed and you think she should get checked to see if she's maybe deficient in something. The possibility of dementia can be really scary, especially to the person themselves, so making it clear there are other things it could be might make her feel safer about acknowledging thay she's been feeling off. I know 100% what you are going through - I went through it with my mom. You know her best, so whatever you think is the best way to get her to get seen by a doctor - that's what I would do. If it is dementia, it can also get harder to convince them to do things over time.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2020 12:31am
Proper medical examination and diagnosis will only help you in understanding the underlying conditions for an individual. Observing symptoms could be one way to self-diagnose a condition but then those symptoms maybe related to other medical conditions as well, so it's always better if a medical professional does the examination and give the right diagnosis. Hope this helps!
Anonymous
November 19th, 2020 2:14am
A doctor. A professional. Someone who is actually trained and qualified to diagnose dementia can help you with this. There are definitely signs you can look out for, and things to mention to the doctor. But the best thing to do is stop stressing unnecessarily and just make an appointment to alleviate all concerns. Even if the result isn't what you're hoping for, at least you know have some closure and see what the next best steps would be. Early signs of dementia include Cognitive: mental decline, confusion in the evening hours, disorientation, inability to speak or understand language, making things up, mental confusion, or inability to recognize common things Behavioral: irritability, personality changes, restlessness, lack of restraint, or wandering and getting lost Mood: anxiety, loneliness, mood swings, or nervousness Psychological: depression, hallucination, or paranoia Muscular: inability to combine muscle movements or unsteady walking Also common: memory loss, falling, jumbled speech, or sleep disorder
HelpingHandAndHeart
December 17th, 2020 4:13am
The best way to know if your mother has dementia would be to take her to her primary care provider. Initial testing will be performed, and she may be referred to a specialist if needed. Diagnostic tests such as brain imaging can determine the presence of dementia. Many times symptoms that mirror those of dementia can be caused by other underlying (and treatable) conditions. For example, Urinary Tract Infections in elderly adults can cause symptoms often associated with dementia. Getting a healthcare provider's opinion is the best way to definitively determine if your loved one has dementia, as speculation can lead to unwanted stress and worry.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2021 5:49pm
Memory Impairment - hard time generating new memories or remembering older memories. Problems with speaking or issues with planning, organization or sequences of action or events. Cognitive deficits that lead to problems with function, like problems with motor function or identifying objects. These can be progressive symptoms but have to impair function to be dementia and not normal changes with age. You can see a primary care provider and have them refer you to a Neurologist as needed. There are special tests that can be done to test for issues like the MOCA. The doctor can easily do this, and that can help assess changes over time (although it is NOT diagnostic).
Thanhx4
March 24th, 2022 4:40pm
The best way to know is by seeing a physician. There are several tests that need to be performed for a proper diagnosis. They do take time and require patience, but are well worth it in my opinion. This will also help you establish a primary care for your mother if you or she has not done so yet. I have worked in the medical field for several years and my grandpa had dementia. A very good telling sign is if she is becoming more forgetful than usual and her behavior has changed. Please seek professional help as soon as possible as caregiver burnout is really hard to deal with for ALL parties. It is also important to know all of your resources.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2021 10:49pm
Are they being vague in everyday conversations? Do they have memory loss that affects day-to-day function? Do they have short-term memory loss (like dory the blue tang fish) Are they having difficulty performing everyday tasks and taking longer to do routine tasks? Are they losing enthusiasm or interest in regular activities? Is it difficult for them to think or say the right words? If yes to most of these questions, your mother might possibly have dementia. Then again, I am not a doctor, and it is possible she might not have dementia. So I'd recommend you to check with a doctor for an actual diagnosis, meanwhile you may use internet to watch for common symptoms too.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2021 8:40pm
If your mother has been experiencing some sort of memory loss, difficulty communication-wise, confusion, lack of organization skills. When talking to your mother does she seem to confuse things like if she's eaten, your name, mixing up things, then that could be a sign? Also, if she has changed in her personality, how she acts, what she does is different or new, just not acting like how she used to be could be a sign of dementia. I would suggest to visit a doctor and receiving a proper diagnosis. If she is diagnosed it may be difficult to process for everyone involved so being supportive and caring is what's best.