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How can I tell if my mother has dementia?

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LiliMonroe
June 20th, 2020 11:25am
Dementia patients have different symptoms that are usually easy to notice. They forget things more often than it's considered normal to. They might sometimes not recognize or forget the names of their close friends and family members. They might seem to have hallucinations (for example my grandfather used to say that there are green aliens on the balcony with cameras, filming him), they might forget where they are and who they are. They might seem disoriented, get lost in the streets of a small town they have been living in for decades. In early stages of dementia it is usually hard to tell whether person has symptoms or not, before symptoms get really bad, but if you are a very close family member (like their child) you must be able to notice such changes in their behavior.
peacefulLight8704
July 4th, 2020 10:52pm
First of all, I am very sorry you have to go through this. It can be hard to see a loved one go through signs of aging and illness, no matter who you are. Some symptoms of dementia include forgetfulness, and impairment in communication, logic, memory, and reasoning. Since you are asking this question, I can easily presume that you must recognize these symptoms or other ones in your mother. The best thing to do would be to make sure she goes to the doctor as soon as possible to get their diagnosis and advice. Wishing you much luck
gracefuldeadlyswan
July 30th, 2020 1:59am
I'm sorry you have to worry about that. You best bet is to contact her doctor or the Alzheimer's association, they can give you better information than I can. Here are a couple of things to look at though. How is her memory? Does she remember the past better than what happened yesterday? Does she ask you the same question over and over? Does she ever seem confused or disoriented? Those can be clues. But remember, Alzheimer's is not the only thing that can cause those issues. Your doctor is really the best place to start.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2020 5:21pm
It's best to always contact the specialist, only a specialist can properly diagnose her. Observe your mother and talk with her about different topics like old memories, friends, family. If you notice she keeps forgetting easy to remember things or facts it's a sign to see a specialist. She might also struggle to find an answer and take way too long thinking about it. If you notice that your mother forgets where she put stuff, where are her things she always remembers about it's another sign to see a specialist. I would advise you to see a specialist even if it's hard to tell by yourself if she has one or not.
CalmBeauty3
August 15th, 2020 6:04pm
There are a couple of different things you can look for if you think your mother has dementia. First thing is telling the same stories over and over again, not remembering telling them. Asking the same questions over and over again. If she is not able to remember directions or you have to tell her directions one by one. If she does not really have a concept of time. If she is unable to recognize people or places she has been to a lot. If she is not taking care of herself or her home. Significant changes in her judgement. Difficulty communicating with others, and if her attention span has changed. Maybe see if you are able to answer those questions and see if you should have her checked out by a medical professional.
FarzanaR
August 21st, 2020 5:00pm
She will exhibit signs of forgetting. This may be in terms of memory, or it may be just simple daily tasks. Often individuals who have dementia also misplace things or forget how to certain tasks. Another sign of dementia is when the individual has difficulty of where they last placed something. Misplacing things is also a very common sign of dementia. Medically, ECG's are able to assess for grey matter in the brain and allows doctors to inform clients of whether the case of dementia is present in an individual. Following on from which, treatment should be considered for the client.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2020 2:36pm
Finding out a loved one is being diagnosed with dementia is difficult. A medical diagnosis, such as going and seeing a provider or physician may be the best way to determine if the dementia is present. You can bring any concerns that you have and any symptoms that you are noticing with your mother to report to the physician. However you decide to go through with determining a diagnosis, I hope you feel supported. This can be a challenging time for both you and your mom. I can imagine this is stressful for you and wish you all of the best!
Anonymous
November 18th, 2020 12:14am
I usually don't give straight up advice on this, but I'm going to make an exception. If you suspect your mom has dementia, I'd recommend seeing if you can get her to see a doctor. I'd suggest a soft approach, like saying you've noticed her memory or other things you've noticed and you think she should get checked to see if she's maybe deficient in something. The possibility of dementia can be really scary, especially to the person themselves, so making it clear there are other things it could be might make her feel safer about acknowledging thay she's been feeling off. I know 100% what you are going through - I went through it with my mom. You know her best, so whatever you think is the best way to get her to get seen by a doctor - that's what I would do. If it is dementia, it can also get harder to convince them to do things over time.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2020 12:31am
Proper medical examination and diagnosis will only help you in understanding the underlying conditions for an individual. Observing symptoms could be one way to self-diagnose a condition but then those symptoms maybe related to other medical conditions as well, so it's always better if a medical professional does the examination and give the right diagnosis. Hope this helps!
Anonymous
November 19th, 2020 2:14am
A doctor. A professional. Someone who is actually trained and qualified to diagnose dementia can help you with this. There are definitely signs you can look out for, and things to mention to the doctor. But the best thing to do is stop stressing unnecessarily and just make an appointment to alleviate all concerns. Even if the result isn't what you're hoping for, at least you know have some closure and see what the next best steps would be. Early signs of dementia include Cognitive: mental decline, confusion in the evening hours, disorientation, inability to speak or understand language, making things up, mental confusion, or inability to recognize common things Behavioral: irritability, personality changes, restlessness, lack of restraint, or wandering and getting lost Mood: anxiety, loneliness, mood swings, or nervousness Psychological: depression, hallucination, or paranoia Muscular: inability to combine muscle movements or unsteady walking Also common: memory loss, falling, jumbled speech, or sleep disorder
HelpingHandAndHeart
December 17th, 2020 4:13am
The best way to know if your mother has dementia would be to take her to her primary care provider. Initial testing will be performed, and she may be referred to a specialist if needed. Diagnostic tests such as brain imaging can determine the presence of dementia. Many times symptoms that mirror those of dementia can be caused by other underlying (and treatable) conditions. For example, Urinary Tract Infections in elderly adults can cause symptoms often associated with dementia. Getting a healthcare provider's opinion is the best way to definitively determine if your loved one has dementia, as speculation can lead to unwanted stress and worry.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2021 5:49pm
Memory Impairment - hard time generating new memories or remembering older memories. Problems with speaking or issues with planning, organization or sequences of action or events. Cognitive deficits that lead to problems with function, like problems with motor function or identifying objects. These can be progressive symptoms but have to impair function to be dementia and not normal changes with age. You can see a primary care provider and have them refer you to a Neurologist as needed. There are special tests that can be done to test for issues like the MOCA. The doctor can easily do this, and that can help assess changes over time (although it is NOT diagnostic).
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2021 7:11pm
Dear Doctor is the best person who can answer your query. Please do not self diagnose. However, early signs that a person might have dementia can include: 1. being vague in everyday conversations 2. memory loss that affects day-to-day function 3. short term memory loss 4. difficulty performing everyday tasks and taking longer to do routine tasks 5. losing enthusiasm or interest in regular activities 6. difficulties in thinking or saying the right words 7. changes in personality or behaviour 8. finding it difficult to follow instructions 9. finding it difficult to follow stories 10. increased emotional unpredictability. Please do not arrive at any conclusion based on above indicative symptoms. Make sure to contact Doctor for right guidance.
UnknownAesthetic14
February 11th, 2021 9:22pm
If you feel your parent or guardian has Dementia then please contact a doctor. Only a doctor will know if your parent or guardian has Dementia. Dementia is the loss of cognitive functioning—thinking, remembering, and reasoning—and behavioral abilities to such an extent that it interferes with a person's daily life and activities. These functions include memory, language skills, visual perception, problem solving, self-management, and the ability to focus and pay attention. Some people with dementia cannot control their emotions, and their personalities may change. Dementia ranges in severity from the mildest stage, when it is just beginning to affect a person's functioning, to the most severe stage, when the person must depend completely on others for basic activities of living.Signs and symptoms of dementia result when once-healthy neurons (nerve cells) in the brain stop working, lose connections with other brain cells, and die. While everyone loses some neurons as they age, people with dementia experience far greater loss. While dementia is more common as people grow older (up to half of all people age 85 or older may have some form of dementia), it is not a normal part of aging. Many people live into their 90s and beyond without any signs of dementia. One type of dementia, frontotemporal disorders, is more common in middle-aged than older adults. The causes of dementia can vary, depending on the types of brain changes that may be taking place. Alzheimer's disease is the most common cause of dementia in older adults. Other dementias include Lewy body dementia, frontotemporal disorders, and vascular dementia. It is common for people to have mixed dementia—a combination of two or more types of dementia. For example, some people have both Alzheimer's disease and vascular dementia.
laurenckk
June 4th, 2021 7:36am
Dementia is something that can be so hard to identify, especially if it is in the beginning stages. It might be a little easier since it is your mother, and you have a deeper connection with her than if it were another person. Some things that I've noticed in my own experience with family members presenting onset with dementia is things like forgetting the way home while driving, not being able to remember what was put on the grocery list, etc. They are usually not the big and dramatic things like completely forgetting who you are, or who they are like seen dramatized in the movies. Usually, that comes later after a proper diagnosis and in the more mature stages. I would just watch out for small slips of memory that are becoming more prevalent, but also don't think that every little thing is a sign as well. Sometimes people just forget things, I know I do. It is important to mention any concerns you may have to a doctor. I'm sorry you're having this issue, it's truly a heartbreaking diagnosis. My love goes to you and I hope I was able to help a little bit.
Anonymous
October 13th, 2021 12:24pm
This is a good question. Sometimes if an elderly parent display signs of irritableness and lack of responsibilities to duties is that a sign of dementia? I suppose a change in a person character and less interest in their motivation to their hobbies is one sign. A lack of social connection might be another. If she starts scolding or hitting people thats is a huge red flag! If such things happens I would look for intervention measures such as seeing a doctor. Research online talking to friends who are a caregiver to such people. I will encourage my parent to keep intouch with friends and their hobbies so they age gracefully.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2021 8:11am
I would be able to tell if my mother has dementia when she starts to forget her favorite things to do, like her hobbies. I would be able to tell if she stops doing her daily activities like taking care of her garden or going to the shopping place almost every two days. If she start to have short-term memory loss, forgets about important things quickly. As my mom is a very attentive and not forgetful person, it would be easier for me to tell if there are signs of dementia. you would be able to tell because she is your mom, we know them (our mom) best the way our mother knows us best.
TallyMark13
November 13th, 2021 10:21am
You can tell that your mother may have dementia by recognizing a few warning signs- disorientation, inability to recognize common things, frequently getting lost, troubles sleeping, and commonly forgetting memorable/familiar things, places, and people. It also has a lot to do with genetics, so if one of her parents or grandparents had dementia, and also the age. Dementia is far more common in older people, around 65 years old and older. If you notice any of these characteristics, along with a potential gut feeling... it may be wise to take her into the doctor and have her do a test to get formally diagnosed.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2021 10:49pm
Are they being vague in everyday conversations? Do they have memory loss that affects day-to-day function? Do they have short-term memory loss (like dory the blue tang fish) Are they having difficulty performing everyday tasks and taking longer to do routine tasks? Are they losing enthusiasm or interest in regular activities? Is it difficult for them to think or say the right words? If yes to most of these questions, your mother might possibly have dementia. Then again, I am not a doctor, and it is possible she might not have dementia. So I'd recommend you to check with a doctor for an actual diagnosis, meanwhile you may use internet to watch for common symptoms too.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2021 8:40pm
If your mother has been experiencing some sort of memory loss, difficulty communication-wise, confusion, lack of organization skills. When talking to your mother does she seem to confuse things like if she's eaten, your name, mixing up things, then that could be a sign? Also, if she has changed in her personality, how she acts, what she does is different or new, just not acting like how she used to be could be a sign of dementia. I would suggest to visit a doctor and receiving a proper diagnosis. If she is diagnosed it may be difficult to process for everyone involved so being supportive and caring is what's best.
Thanhx4
March 24th, 2022 4:40pm
The best way to know is by seeing a physician. There are several tests that need to be performed for a proper diagnosis. They do take time and require patience, but are well worth it in my opinion. This will also help you establish a primary care for your mother if you or she has not done so yet. I have worked in the medical field for several years and my grandpa had dementia. A very good telling sign is if she is becoming more forgetful than usual and her behavior has changed. Please seek professional help as soon as possible as caregiver burnout is really hard to deal with for ALL parties. It is also important to know all of your resources.
JustinReid41
May 9th, 2022 11:18pm
It is very difficult for anyone to get used to the fact that their loved one is developing dementia. Some people get desperate! Dad or Mom has dementia! What to do, how to help them? Despair is followed by anger, then powerlessness and apathy. You can not let the disease of a loved one cause problems with their own health. Caregivers often make mistakes in caregiving by performing seemingly natural actions. You need to study this topic well! Such a problem cannot be solved by one's own efforts! You need to talk to your doctors about it and use modern techniques! You can't give up!