How can I tell my mother I'm pregnant?

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IBlueRubberBoots
February 28th, 2016 11:21pm
If it's expected, often times most people do a funny joke or game to reveal grand-parents. But sitting down, and talking to your mother about it, explaining you're pregnant is always best; and most parents are extremely happy about the subject!
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 1:43am
It's like jumping in a swimming pool, just take the plunge, and tell her. You won't know how she feels about it until you tell her
Kawaiikittykat
March 2nd, 2016 3:20pm
Be honest with her so she can help you, yeah i know parents may be at shock at first but they will care about it. Everything will be fine but the first step is cutting clean to them instead of them finding out, or trying to hide it.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 7:51pm
You can tell her that you are pregnant by writting a letter on how you feel about it and what you want to happen in the future.
GoldenEars77
March 3rd, 2016 11:21am
Embrace her and smile. Compassion will arise. Do not feel fear. Manifest love through your heart and she will understand instantly.
glowingPassion10
March 4th, 2016 10:04pm
Don't do it at once otherwise she might get angry and you'll get stressed so when you feel like you have the courage sit her down with you alone and tell her
beautifuldevil
March 5th, 2016 2:51pm
Honesty is key. Though it may be difficult to say it directly, it will be the best way to tell her the news. In fact, she will probably be thrilled about the new addition to the family.
wonderfulFish69
March 6th, 2016 3:27pm
Well you could start out by saying that I have something very important to tell you and I would like it if you would just listen to me
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 8:41pm
Sit down and tell your mom, "I have something important to tell you. I'm pregnant, which means you'll be having a grandchild. I know this is big, but this is important to me, and because I love you, I want you to know."
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 6:26am
Be honest and tell her you messed up. If you want to keep the baby, keep the baby! If you want an abortion, that's your choice. Do not let anybody tell you yes or no to keeping or getting rid of the baby, just listen to you.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2016 1:37am
well. It's hard to admit this considering I am supposed to help you out-- but I have had this pregnancy scare... I will not go to much into details but i can tell you my boyfriend didn't want to keep it. I didn't know what I wanted. Alls I knew was that I had to tell my mom. Luckily I either had a miscarriage or a very late period and didn't have a baby-- but the point is I had to confront the mother. It's super scary-- I mean they view you as the perfect little child no matter if you really are terribly behaved. Before I tell to what i said let me give you some confidence. After I told my mom and her initial anger was over- she was filled with joy(took a few days). She was nothing but helpful. She was actually sad that i didnt have a baby. Now what I said was" Mom I love you" she said it back, I said, "I messed up big--" she, "what did you do!!!!" "*crys* I'm so sorry I mad a mistake and now im pregnant XC" *lots of yelling and freaking out* "I'm sorry mom but i dont know what to do now i need your help please!!" ~ after a lot of this it became ok:) she was super happy and helpful.
LucyCat20
March 12th, 2016 6:42am
it might be hard but tell her that you love her, and that she is someone that you feel safe around
Swifting
March 13th, 2016 8:14am
Telling someone, especially your mother, that you're pregnant can be difficult. And, like most difficult news sometimes it's best to deliver that news in public. Someplace where causing a scene would be unacceptable which gives that person time to think and to process to really feel what is going on. And, straight forward is always the best route with direct words and no euphemisms that way there can be no misunderstanding what is going on with you. It's generally in the best interest to make all facts known and remove any idea of doubt.
zaix
March 13th, 2016 3:14pm
Ask her to sit down and have a conversation with you, you need to calmly tell her and not burst and explode about it.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 8:54am
That's a really difficult conversation to have. You have to be very sensitive about it, because I think only parents can understand how much parents truly love and are invested in their kids -- as kids, I don't think we can grasp it.
Taimur1999
March 18th, 2016 1:09pm
It has happened now, don't panick and try to tell your mother by making her sit. If she's angry, show her that you are sorry and try to show regret if she responds with anger. She's your mother, she will listen.
incarnadinepetals
March 18th, 2016 9:53pm
Bring it to her slowly. There's no right way to tell her, but some tips are to bring it at the right time, not when they're busy, keep calm and keep to the facts: how far along you are, who else you told and that you're wishing for your parents advice.
SoialWorkerAllan
March 24th, 2016 2:24am
Go out with your mom, maybe take her out for a drink and get a bite to eat. Bring someone with you like a good friend or a close family member that knows that your pregnant andtthat will support you when confronting your mom
Anonymous
March 25th, 2016 9:06pm
Sit her down, personally I would recommend making her tea with a biscuit, and tell her calmly without getting angry
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 12:17am
How? be calm, explain to her the situation. If she gets upset, make sure that you're still calm and try to answer her questions as well as you can. She might be shocked and upset first but once its set, she'll come around and you two will have to discuss the situation.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 3:18pm
Don't beat around the bush and be straight up honest with her. If you want to try and build up the conversation, just discreetly ask questions about pregnancy and later tell her you're pregnant.
Miranda1999
March 30th, 2016 5:26pm
As i don't know your mother personally its hard to give an exact answer, but i would just be honest and tell her in a calm environment, and let her express her emotion and her feelings, and just be honest with her about it. :)
Anonymous
April 8th, 2016 6:41am
Congratulations! I think if you approach her with humility and just be yourself and say, "mom, I am pregnant." I think this is a great start for the conversation... -Robert-
Anonymous
April 15th, 2016 5:50am
You should say, "I have something difficult to tell you. I found out that I'm pregnant. This is important to me and I may need your support."
Anonymous
April 16th, 2016 12:45am
You should do it in a comfortable place for both of you, and remember that she wants only good for you.
Markimoo
April 21st, 2016 1:41pm
Your mother is going to find out you are pregnant either way. So, it is best to tell her before she finds out on her own. Go and tell your mom and be honest with her explaining why you did what you did and who you did it with (though you do not have to tell who you did it with but it is best to). She can respond in a number of different ways. She could either accept it and actually be happy to help you care for the child, or she could be upset. Either way she is still going to love you no matter what. She will never be mad at you, she will be mad at your choice. Even if she is upset at first, if you give her some time she might come around and be alright with it. Some people react differently to things that are so sudden and later regret how they reacted.
caringShell88
April 28th, 2016 1:51am
Sit her down and calmly tell her. You want to have an adult conversation where both sides are being mature. If she gets aggressive or loud, walk away. If that is not an option, look for a way to escape. Remember you have another life to care for now.
Jerome28
April 28th, 2016 5:14pm
Explain that you need her direction and advice. Be willing to listen to what she says and think carefully about it.
Ambercalli
April 30th, 2016 11:54am
Start by sitting down with your parents when their in a calm mood. Remember that you are their daughter and they'll love you no matter what, even if they get mad and say aggressive things. Theres no other way to tell them then to just let it all out. Explain the important things to them.
WhimsicalPonderings
May 4th, 2016 11:08pm
Definitely not over the phone! Set a schedule to sit down and talk with your mom, and tell her the truth. Good luck and congrats!