How can my family treat me this way? I love them so why do they not show they love me in return?

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Anonymous
April 4th, 2015 3:45am
All families are different, how one family shows affection may differ from how yours does. That doesn't mean that they care any less about you. If you feel timid talking to your entire family about this, try speaking to one member who you feel the most comfortable with first. Talking about it might give clarity on how to resolve this or it can open the communication channel within your family.
takeabreath5
December 28th, 2015 12:14am
They are treating you in a way that you are not happy with? How could this be? You might have different ways of expressing love.
Sempiternal199
January 25th, 2015 12:03pm
Some people show love in different ways, or not at all. But this doesn't mean that they don't love you, they just have trouble showing it in a way that most people see as showing love. Everyone's family loves them in their own way
Geveda
February 10th, 2015 9:48pm
Sometimes people don't know how to express their love, or it's hard to see that they truly do love you. It's great that you love them so much, maybe have a conversation with them about how you're feeling and hopefully you can start to feel the same kind of love in return that you give to them.
kindmusic
April 30th, 2015 5:51pm
Your family would probably argue that they DO love you and they DO show you love. Everyone shows and interprets love differently. Whenever you feel like someone in your life isn't showing you love or is actively showing you that they don't care about you, it's important to talk to them about how you feel about the relationship. Communication is the foundation of a strong relationship, whether it's with a boyfriend, your sister, your parents or a friend.
DoubleD
June 18th, 2015 11:37am
How do they treat you? They provide you with food, shelter, love and all your basic necessities now don't they? You love them and they love you too. :) Love need not be shown always, it just needs to be there when necessary.
Midichan
August 18th, 2015 11:37pm
People often say they can't choose their family but i think you can. Family is someone who loves you regardless of everything. Your "family" doesn't understand that. This time choose your own family.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 3:15am
We can't control the way other people in our lives will act, we can only control the way we act. It may seem unfair when you try to get affection, and none comes your way. In my personal experience, you can't please everyone, and no matter what you do people will treat you badly. It is a shame that family isn't as loving as we would like them to be, but the way they act is completely out of our power. The only thing we can do is continue to be the best us we can be and if we do that, we will see fruits of our labor and get the affection we deserve
LeahMargarita
May 10th, 2016 11:39pm
Maybe your family are going through a hard time and they're not meaning to not show you their love. They most likely do love you very much !