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How do I explain to my parents that sometimes I need space and I want to be left alone, without giving them the impression that I don't like to spend time with them as a family?

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Last Updated: 12/31/2019 at 9:12pm
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Top Rated Answers
originalLion57
June 4th, 2015 5:15pm
Say you need time to just be by yourself to charge/get energy again and that it has nothing to do with what your parents have or haven't done. It's just something you need and it's helpful to you.
Chaliercy
July 7th, 2015 12:35pm
All teens need some time alone. This is part of the growth of all of us. You need to share your time alone/with friends and with your parents, then you will surely have no problems.
CompassionateAlice
April 19th, 2015 1:55am
Well I sat my parents down and told them i loved them very much and I love everything they do for me but I need a little space because I need time alone to think.
SpiritWolfie
November 3rd, 2015 9:26pm
Simply let them know that you just want some time to cool off or reflect, being alone is a good thing from time to time.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2016 9:50pm
Based on my experience, I found it easier to tell my parents straight up how I am feeling and that I need time for myself. It can be scary to share your experiences at first, but your parents are there for you. To support you and love you. You might be shocked to know that they went through a similar event and can understand what youre feeling. Maybe come together and set up a time to say that in that period you just want to be alone and not be bothered. After that, you guys can come together again.
RogerDan555
June 20th, 2016 11:59pm
Being parents, they might be worried as to why you need space. Let them know, you wish to spend some time with yourself and make yourself very clear.
PurpleLilyX
May 1st, 2018 2:34pm
With simple honesty, tell them how you feel but also maybe arrange to have a family hour at some point over the week where you do spend time as a family that way they will still feel like you want to be actively involved
Anonymous
March 8th, 2015 10:47pm
Do it in a kindly and friendly way. Tell them that you are introverted and you need your space and you things and stuff, if you want to tell them how and when they can have a nice time with you when you can feel comfortable and okay. It's always nice to have time with them but it's okay if you feel quite overwhelmed with the situation.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2015 9:40am
Find a suitable time where you can sit down with your family and talk properly. Then, tell them politely that although you love them and really enjoys spending time with them, sometimes you need some space alone. Communication is key, just talk to them and i'm sure they will understand you.
Lalaxoxo
December 1st, 2015 7:45pm
Explain to them that sometimes, you need some time by yourself to reflect and to relax. This is best way to let them know. If they have a problem, then explain you do want to spend time with them, but you also need your space away from everything and everyone.
MissLisa
August 20th, 2019 4:19pm
Explain to your parents that you enjoy spending time with your family however you also like to spend time on your own. Be open and honest with them and explain that you may need some head space from time to time. You could emphasise to them that this by no means reflects you not wanting to spend time as a family, just that you benefit from having some alone time. You could always spend time with your family first and then ask for some alone time. That way you have spent time with them first and foremost and they are less likely to feel pushed out.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2015 6:39pm
tell them how you feel tell them exactly what you told me. they well surly understand. everyone needs a little time by them self just remember they are there to help you when you need help
PashT007
April 9th, 2015 1:32am
In this case, schedule time to interact as a family and then schedule time alone. That would be much easier than trying to explain why you want to be left alone. That way the won't feel bad.
Greatlistener87
April 25th, 2016 1:57am
It is okay if you want your personal time. You just have to be honest with them tell them you want your personal time but that does not mean don't want to spent time with them it just means you need some space for yourself.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2018 1:40pm
Put up a sign on the door that says do not disturb, work in progress. Tell them you need to do something important
Anonymous
December 31st, 2019 9:12pm
It sounds like you already have a great start to the conversation based on how you phrased your question! Approaching the conversation with kindness and asking for an open dialogue to talk about this with them could go a long way. You could even consider how to share your worry of how you might make them feel by asking for this. By being kind, honest, and considerate of their feelings, you are showing them more of who you really are, and it can ultimately deepen your relationship with your family. You might even want to jot down the things you want to say ahead of time, especially if you're not used to having conversations like this with your family.