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How do I get along better with my mother ?

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Last Updated: 08/14/2018 at 12:52pm
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Top Rated Answers
sereene
December 21st, 2015 1:22am
It's important to communicate. Find some time to express yourselves, talk about things together. It's nice to also set aside time to spend quality time with your mother, perhaps do some activities. Also, when in an argument or disagreement, try to understand and accept her perspective with respect. Make sure to show her that you care and love her :)
Becamuniz
January 14th, 2015 7:19am
Talk and go out with her to have a better relationship so will meet and create a nice friendship!
TheFaultInOurStars
January 17th, 2015 7:32am
It's circumstantial for sure, every relationship is different. For me, I find actively listening to what she's saying and allowing her to be/feel apart of my life and my decisions helps her feel closer to me.
DanielleBW
April 9th, 2015 2:25pm
In my experience getting on with your mother can be hard and you sometimes feel like you can't, but you need to tell her this, you need to tell her whats wrong more, or tell her you love her more let her know this, talk about things she likes
Insia9786
May 14th, 2015 7:32pm
Mother daughter relationship is something very special and sacred but at the same time difficult to maintain. Me and my mon have an age gap of approximately 30 years which sort of makes things difficult for us. Despite this we still try to get along well. The first thing you should keep in mind is to have a healthy mother-daughter/son time. Choose some activities you both enjoy and that would help you spend some quality moments with each other. Apart from this sharing your everyday routines encounters etc is a very good step towards a strong bond. But keep one thing in mind. Even if you don't get along everytime you both are lucky to have each other and this relationship has its own unique charm.
Chevy81
June 29th, 2015 11:03am
Spending more time with her. Talking, watching movies, do some shopping, taking her for a ride to wherever she'd like since she can't drive herself.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 8:53pm
Do not raise ur voice at anytime. Raising your voice really pisses them off. Try to understand why u two are fighting
Anonymous
April 11th, 2016 9:08pm
do activities that only involve you two, talk to her about stuff have bonding moments all of that stuff
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2016 4:37am
By trying to understand and keep myself calm. We have different opinions but I try to understand how her view works .
professionalNutella12
May 17th, 2016 3:23am
Have you always wished to get along better with her, or was there a time you felt happy with your relationship?
Anonymous
June 13th, 2016 10:29pm
Have you tried to do things you both enjoy? A great way to get along with someone you love is to enjoy time together and try to understand eachother better. Ask her to do something with you.
HopieRemi
July 11th, 2016 11:57pm
Open communication. I find that communication goes a long way with all relationships. You want to make sure that you all don't step on toes.
originalRabbit76
July 25th, 2016 10:00am
To get along better you can discuss your problems with eachother to figure out what's bad in the relationship
ItsJustMekitty
August 23rd, 2016 8:00pm
Try talking to them. comunitcation is the key to everything. try to be honest with echother and make a habit out of talking and sharing.
Dev82
September 26th, 2016 11:15am
Try to understand situations for her perspective. Give her the respect she deserves and treat her like your best friend.
kiwi52
November 15th, 2016 6:43am
Tricky question... depends on family dynamics, I think. My mom was a bit of a Tiger mom and our relationship got better once we started being honest with each other and having conversations with the intent to understand rather than to fight. To get to that point, though, can be a lot of work on both of your parts. Sometimes it, quite frankly, just needs time and, at others, comes with environmental changes (i.e. my mom gaining a social circle helped a lot indirectly with our relationship).
Abby040304
May 8th, 2018 12:13am
Mother and child relationships are always roller coasters and they will never be perfect. I personally have and am having issues with my mom, and for me its hard because she suffers from depression and ptsd. The first thing I would recommend doing is talk to a sibling about it if you have one. Especially if they're older, they have so much advice for this kind of stuff. Also, you can talk to your mom about it. I know it sounds crazy scary but it can always help. If it's too intimadating you can always talk to a counselor if you have one, a listener on here, or a teacher at school. Doing something you two enjoy could make the waves go down and it will put you both in a good mood. There are probably other answers but those have personally worked for me.
wonderfullRainbow98
June 25th, 2018 2:18pm
I have always been very close with my mother. I try to let her know that I appreciate her by doing special things for and with her. Surprise flowers or candy, dinner out, shopping, anything really. We just appreciate our time together.
uniqueUnicorns
July 3rd, 2018 6:19am
you talk to her tell her how you feel if not tell her about your day ask her to go shopping together you may end up with some cute clothes and a fun day with your mother
Anonymous
August 14th, 2018 12:52pm
Buy little gifts and leave them there for you mother to discover, or ask her out to dinner, smile :)