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How do I know if my friend has postpartum depression?

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Last Updated: 06/04/2022 at 11:42pm
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MorningGreenTea
November 28th, 2021 12:26am
I don't think it's possible to 100% know if someone has postpartum depression right off the bat without an diagnosis. However, you can only be aware of common symptoms, which include having trouble with bonding with ones own baby, insomnia, loss of appetite, and irritation with others. Again though, no one can really "know" that someone has this illness, without professional care.
ellinida24
October 13th, 2021 8:45pm
If your friend expresses feelings of guilt, worthlessness, depression, shame, suicidal thoughts, fear of harming the baby or themselves, difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions, bouts of crying, lack of interest or connection with the baby, feelings of anxiety while handling or near the baby, or a loss of interest or joy in activities that once brought them happiness your friend may be experiencing postpartum depression. Typically these feelings last for more than two weeks postpartum, but time frames vary from person to person. Sometimes women feel shame about expressing these feelings, so encourage your friend to speak about her emotions with empathetic language and open ended questions.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2021 12:54am
You won't. If you sense your friend is struggling, talk to them. Be there to support and listen. If at any point you sense that your friend or anyone around her is at potential risk of harm, you need to contact the appropriate source. Postpartum can present itself in many forms, sometimes in ways we hardly recognize at all. You know your friend, and you know yourself. Trust yourself. Most often with postpartum the mom has no idea what's happening, already feeling out of control. Pay attention to their words, behaviors, and subtleties.
bbtAndsushi
June 18th, 2021 2:39am
To know whether a friend has postpartum depression (PPD), you may watch for a few signs. These may include changes in sleep and eating patterns, lack of interest in most things, social withdrawal, persistent sadness, higher levels of anxiety and irritability. Keeping in contact with the friend may help reduce the likelihood of developing PPD. If you suspect that a friend may be at risk for PPD and you'd like to support her, learning the skills to be an active listener could be an effective way. However, if you are hesitant about your ability to help, you could also suggest gently for her to see a professional.
Trinisu
May 22nd, 2021 7:28am
If this person is your friend then you will be familiar with his or her normal degree of emotional display and responses to situations. If after having a baby you notice a pronounced change in their mood in terms of negative emotions, you see a greater degree of sef consciousness, depression anger overwhelment. Then there is a strong possibility that they may be effected. The best way however is to seek the advice of a medical practitioner or someone who is trained in identifying the signs and symptoms of postpartum syndrome. Then there will be no misdiagnosis made and the proper help can be acquired.
CosyCabin
March 27th, 2020 9:02pm
Postpartum depression is something which occurs after the birth of a child, around Day 3 mothers can experience "baby blues" which is a dip in hormones, this can last up to 5 days. If mum still feels down, or shows other symptoms such as isolating herself, sadness, not connecting with her baby, feeling like a failure and other then she needs to see a doctor or midwife straight away. PPD is a serious condition and if left untreated can have severe consequences. She may need a shoulder to cry on but knowing you are there will help a lot.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2021 5:13am
Your “baby blues” don’t get better. It’s common to have a dip in mood during your baby’s first 2 weeks. After that, you should feel better. But if you’re still sad or even hopeless weeks later, and the feelings are growing intense, that’s more than the blues. Sadness or guilt consume your thoughts. Feeling upset once in a while is normal. But if you have frequent crying spells, or you often feel unhappy about being a parent, or you’re often "down on yourself" as a mom, these may be among the first signs of postpartum depression. You lose interest in things you enjoy. Are you laughing at your favorite romantic comedy? Are you interested in being affectionate with your partner? What about your favorite foods? Are you enjoying them? Are you eating at all? If you said no, talk to your doctor about these changes in mood and habits. You have trouble making decisions. Maybe you’re too tired to think straight. Maybe you just don’t care. If you can’t decide whether or not to get out of bed, take a shower, change your baby’s diaper, or take them for a walk, these may be early signs of postpartum depression.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2021 12:55am
Significant mood changes, trouble bonding with the baby, anxiety, guilt, and loss of interest in things are all signs of postpartum depression. Insomnia and lack of appetite are also symptoms. If your friend is willing to talk about it discuss her symptoms and what she is feeling. Postpartum depression symptoms generally last a lot longer than the "typical" few days of "baby blues" that follow birth. The Mayo Clinic suggests seeing a doctor if symptoms don't fade after two weeks, if symptoms get worse, or if it is hard for the parent to take care of the child or everyday tasks.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2021 6:52pm
Postpartum depression is a clinical diagnosis. Diagnoses are protected by HIPAA (a law protecting personal health information). Therefore, you would likely only know if your friend has postpartum depression if you were their doctor or if you asked them whether they had a postpartum depression diagnosis and they told you. This is presuming of course, that they have been evaluated by a physician, have been diagnosed with the condition, are aware of the diagnosis, and don't mind sharing that information with you. Otherwise, it can be difficult for a lay person to judge whether their friend has a clinical diagnosis or not.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2020 8:40pm
If your friend is experiecing sadness, anxiety, restless, guilt, tearfulness (any of these such things with even more clinical presentations that can be found on the internet) for longer than a couple weeks following the birth the baby then counseling for postpartum depression may be a good consideration for this particular person. Shifts in moods are normal following the brith of the baby as hormones change and there is a need to adjust to a new role of a parent, but if the shift in mood persists for many weeks following the birth of a child she may have postpartum depression
gentleSun78
November 19th, 2020 8:59am
Only psychiatrist or other professional from the field from postpartum depression can tell whether your friend has postpartum depression or any other mental illness or issue as we, who haven't got proper knowledge in the field of mental health issues can't know whether a person has postpartum depression or any other mental illness. We can just assume or guess whether someone has postpartum depression or any other mental illness and we can also guess wrongly even though we have got many informations from the field. Psychiatrists do multiple tests and examinations to diagnose person properly. You can't do it without proper tools even though that you have got some information from webpages, etc (under which is disclaimer, that it is not diagnostic tool).
Anonymous
September 13th, 2020 11:10pm
There are different feelings and emotions that an individual with postpartum depression Might feel. Anger, anxiety, guilt, hopelessness, loss of interest or pleasure in activities, mood swings, or panic attacks are some. Unusual and extreme behavioral changes like crying, irritability, or restlessness can be a sign. Fatigue or loss of appetite, weight gain or weight loss, lack of concentration or unwanted thoughts, depression or fear, insomnia or repeatedly going over thoughts are more. These can all contribute and are warning signs to look out for. The ways you can support best are to be there for them and show that you care
ShantiX
July 24th, 2020 4:17am
Postpartum depression could come in many shapes and forms. It could be that your friend doesn't want to spend time with their child or that they have lost their appetite. At times it may also mean that they don't like their appearance. Some times it may appear that the person who has postpartum depression doesn't even show signs of feeling down and on the outside appears happy. The most important thing you can do to help your friend is to make sure they know you are there to support them. Being supportive and making the person aware they have someone they can confide in will help them tremendously.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2020 3:21pm
Very often, the symptoms of PND or postnatal depression are more apparent to friends and family, not the new mother herself, so act on your instincts and intuitions. What signs and symptoms are you noticing? Is she expressing feelings of withdrawal, overwhelm, exhaustion, concerns about her baby or how she's bonding with it? If you're noticing that something is amiss, please broach it with her and ask her to speak to her doctor, health visitor or other clinician assigned to her. Ask her if there is anything you can do in the interim by way of physical support - she may feel she has to cope alone, and be unable to request assistance. Being a supportive friend to her will be of help, but your friend will need a clinician's input.
HereToHelpYou742
May 26th, 2016 8:01pm
People may experience: Mood: anger, anxiety, guilt, hopelessness, inability to feel pleasure, mood swings, or panic attack Whole body: fatigue, loss of appetite, or restlessness Psychological: depression, fear, or repeatedly going over thoughts Behavioral: crying or irritability Cognitive: lack of concentration or unwanted thoughts Weight: weight gain or weight loss Also common: insomnia
LorenzosLife
August 28th, 2016 3:27pm
just try to be in tune with how they are acting.. do they seem to wanna be alone or inside more of the time? are they more gloomy than usual? how are their grades in school if you are in school? alot of things play into depression. keep tabs on how they are doing and just be there for them no matter what. they need to feel like someone cares. they are lucky to have a friend like you.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 6:38pm
You can talk to your friend and find some information about postpartum depression. It is good that you care about your friend, do not leave her alone.
helpfulHeart67
August 7th, 2016 12:36am
If you have any reason to believe that your friend has postpartum depression, you should tell her parent(s) and tell her to seek professional help.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 3:18am
Oooh would be a good idea to look into the symptoms online in as much detail as can be and find a way to discuss this and refer even more help to.
Morgan321
July 30th, 2016 3:36pm
The best way to find out if your friend is going through anything is by talking to them, ask them if they are okay, some people just need a hand in the dark
SaturatedSunrise13
July 24th, 2016 1:28am
The birth of a baby can trigger a jumble of powerful emotions, from excitement and joy to fear and anxiety. But it can also result in something you might not expect — depression. Many new moms experience the "postpartum baby blues" after childbirth, which commonly include mood swings, crying spells, anxiety and difficulty sleeping. Baby blues typically begin within the first two to three days after delivery, and may last for up to two weeks. But some new moms experience a more severe, long-lasting form of depression known as postpartum depression. Rarely, an extreme mood disorder called postpartum psychosis also may develop after childbirth. Postpartum depression isn't a character flaw or a weakness. Sometimes it's simply a complication of giving birth. If you have postpartum depression, prompt treatment can help you manage your symptoms — and enjoy your baby.
NTaraSunrise19
July 6th, 2016 3:41pm
Your friend may have postpartum depression after giving birth. You should support her and listen to her in any way you can, and offer assistance. As well, you can suggest her to go to a doctor.
bubblytobot
July 6th, 2016 6:09am
You can ask her. Just don't go playing doctor and studying her like a science experiment. Don't go all psycho-analytic on your friend. If you want to know, just go online and see the signs of postpartum depression. So if she does show some of the signs, just don't throw it in her face and tell her to get her life together. Address it in a calm matter, don't make it seem as though she's messed up. Go up to her and say, "Hey, I'm really worried about you. Have you been to a doctor? I'm concerned about your well-being." See how it goes from there.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 2:06am
I would know that my friend has postpartum depression if she has been feeling alone, worthless, sad, or despaired after she had recently given birth to her baby. She may also get tearful and cry.
royalApple76
August 31st, 2016 10:47pm
Speaking with your friend about what their going through is always a good place to start. Make sure your friend is in a space where they feel safe, and try to be as open and non-judgmental as you can. Make sure your friend knows they can open up to you about anything they are feeling right now, but remember they may not feel comfortable talking about this with you. And that is okay.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 2:51pm
Try and recomed them to see a doctor, if not be there for them if they need someone to lend an ear to help
Anonymous
May 14th, 2016 11:33pm
It is depression right after childbirth, The symptoms of Postpartum depression are signs such as Difficulty bonding with their new baby, Anger, Sadness, Etc. The same symptoms as regular depression except it happens right after the mother gives birth to her new child.
MadnessTrash
May 13th, 2016 5:42pm
The internet has lots of useful websites. health.gov is a website than can help identify the symptoms.
ColorfulMindHeartOfDepth
May 3rd, 2016 10:54pm
Have they exhibited symptoms? Has it come up in conversation and they get uncomfortable? Have they shown signs of it or brought it up? Have they told you they might have it?
AshcoSensei
April 7th, 2016 6:48pm
Have you asked them? Or have they possibly hinted or shown possible characteristics that point to that? Makes sure to discuss it with your friend. It wouldnt be good to make an assumption.