How do you cope with an ex hating the good relationship you have with her children?

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majesticSpace31
February 27th, 2015 9:47pm
Firstly try and talk it out, ask her whats going on and why she/he is feeling jealous/hateful. Then try and put her/him I your shoes, explain how much you care for the children. This way she/he may understand better how their behaviour and or attitude is wrong.
VioletFlame
April 27th, 2015 11:47pm
No matter the issue, Love is always the answer. I would forgive her behavior {in my heart} and also send Love energy to her even though we might have little or no physical contact. My experience is, doing this on the INSIDE {within my heart} also can often, in time, change circumstances on the OUTSIDE.
LilyFlowers
May 18th, 2015 4:53pm
Your asking how you hope with someone else's emotions concerning your relationships? Their emotion's aren't your problem. You cope by realizing that. It literally has nothing to do with you.
MissLilith
June 16th, 2015 10:01pm
Even if your relationship isn't the best, if the kids genuinely appreciate you it can't hurt to have another positive role-model in their lives.
PoliteOcean
September 4th, 2015 8:46pm
This can be hard to deal with. But you just have to hang in there. Perhaps talking to your ex and letting her know that the children should not and never be the ones that suffer just because you two aren't together anymore.
creativeLime42
November 10th, 2015 7:39pm
a. Acceptance b. Acknowledgement of the ex 's role in her children's lives c. Try to improve your relationship with your ex - if you were friends then she may not hate you having a good relationship with her kids.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2016 6:14am
You can give her some space to deal with it. She will know that she will need to accept it at a point.
PrincessCeleste87
August 2nd, 2016 6:30am
Try to forgive your ex for hating you, but then try to distance yourself from the children if it's going to be good for you. You might get hurt by her hate.
CalmWhisper85
June 6th, 2017 5:05pm
It's all about making her understand that you are not trying to replace her or take her "job". Make her feel comfortable and secure.
Emmur
April 30th, 2018 11:45am
I bet that my mom has to go through this constantly. My dad and I don't have the best relationship and I have an excellent one with her. They fight all the time and are never able to agree on anything. I think what I tend to see her do is really push that emotion out through her work and then do her best to be an even better mom to us when she's home. Sure, sometimes she'll rant, but who doesn't do that occasionally? She's incredible and I think she really started becoming even more of an independent mom when she could finally say, "Yes, I am an amazing mom. I do take good care of my children. You're jealous that you don't have a relationship with them, and that's okay. I'm able to work through it by being even better to them and talking to my therapist. I have friends. Everything is going to be okay."