How do you handle living and talking with your family when they won't accept the fact that your father sexually abused you?
Last Updated: 01/22/2019 at 3:51pm
Lindsay Scheinerman, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My work with clients is to help them recognize and build on their strengths to find solutions for the conflicts presented in their lives.
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DONT BE AFRAID TO STAND UP AND SPEAK UP! If it happend let someone know just donk live with that memory in your brain because after you tell someone (he's gone and done for) let someone know what your going through.
Its hard to deal with something like this. It would be hard to deal with as the victim and also hard as a family to believe that a member could actually do something like that. It is up to you to be the one to feel safe, and have closure. If you feel that you aren't getting the support that you need from your family, you can find someone you feel safe with and trust to talk to and lean on for support. You can also seek counseling or therapy to help you with you with your feelings and emotions.
I would be very sad.. but I would try to avoid my dad or have evidence ready and report it to the police
You don't have to life with this. You have to go to the police and ask for help. You safety is more important.
I am sorry to read what you have written and I am sorry to hear that you have had gone through such a difficult experience. I am wondering if you have thoughts on what you think the answer to this question is?
There comes a point where, no matter how painful it may be, you have to cut harmful people out of your life to save yourself. No one has the right to hurt you, and being family doesn't give them a free pass to hurt you any more than a stranger would. Family are meant to be supportive and loving, and if you're not getting that from them, it may be time to move on.
We live in a world where most believe that family is forever. and I think sometimes we need to realize to walk away and surround ourselves who love us and accept our past and also how it effected you.
Oh wow, this must truly be difficult. Is the abuse ongoing? Because, if it is, we need to work together to get you some help. Just let me know what you would like me to do. This is a serious issue, have you considered talking to a professional about this?
I am sorry that happened, and I am sorry your family aren't being there for you let alone making it better since that had happened. If anything, I would do your best to be positive around them but also know that no one can harm you because if they chose to, then you will call authorities and know that we're here for you no matter what.
I have a close friend that has been through this experience exactly. It was very traumatizing for her to be denied the support of her family in this terrible time. She was able to live with other family members and received professional help with a therapist, which helped her to deal with her own trauma. Her family eventually was able to deal with their own guilt, anger and trauma in the situation, and later became supportive.
To be honest I don't think you can. If you are underage you need to go to a trusted person to get help. If not, you need to understand that they may not be ever able to accept it. This will increase your pain and make you feel alone in the world. Please do not blame yourself. You are not alone. Reach out to other survivors. It is time to put yourself first. You are not an object to be used. Your feelings deserve to be validated. You have value and deserve to be heard and protected. When you believe that and are sufficiently healed, you can consider having contact with your family of origin, in whatever way seems healthy to you.
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