How do you sit your parents down and tell them there is a problem?

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RebbecaSparks
January 26th, 2015 3:00am
Leave a note,about what you're dealing with or what you want to talk about.It seemed to work for me back then.It's also fairly creative :)
Anonymous
April 8th, 2015 12:40am
Tell them that you have an important topic you need to speak with them upon. Make sure they are in the same place, at the same time. Make your point clear.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2015 6:36pm
I just walk up to them and talk to them or sometimes I just write them a letter...Writing is the best medium of communication but it really depends on how your parents are...I can do it both ways
TranquilSkies
May 21st, 2015 7:07am
Be honest and just talk to them with your whole sincerity. Don't lie, don't exaggerate or don't do anything stupid just to be noticed your parents.
lisahart0811
May 30th, 2015 3:09am
It depends on what the problem is. However, a general rule of thumb is the ever so popular, 'honesty is the best policy'. Parents can be difficult to deal with. BUT...they gave you life, raised you and continue to care and love for you. If it is something they have done, they may not know it and need to hear it. If it is something on your end, as I said before they are your parents and may be of more help then they are given credit for.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2015 6:01pm
Sometimes, I find that it is easier to write a letter to someone when you want to have a serious conversation about something, this is especially helpful if you are nervous about the other person interrupting or not listening to everything you need to say.
Cornholio2121
June 18th, 2015 6:57am
You ask them if they have a moment and that you need to talk to them about a problem. (whether it's a personal issue or if they are doing something wrong it's best to be honest)
supportiveFreedom51
August 11th, 2015 6:00pm
I would either leave a note for your parents expressing that you would like to talk to them or I would bring it up as a casual conversation at the end of dinner.
EternallyAlive
September 22nd, 2015 5:52am
Honestly, my parents and I have always had a good relationship, so I have nothing to worry about when I tell them problems. Others would definitely have difficulties when telling parents they have problems. Well for those of you who have difficulties, you don't need to worry about anything. Just tell them that you need to talk and discuss your problems. Your parents have done everything from raising you to watching you grow into the person you are today, and they are the only thing that surpasses best friends. So ignore that feeling of anxiety when you want to tell your parents something, because they will always be there for you no matter how difficult it may be.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 3:13pm
Being open and straight forward would be the best option to select. You dont have to worry about anything. After all they are your parents. :)
Anonymous
December 8th, 2015 2:33am
Sit your parents down and let them knowyour honest feelings and concerns about your current problem.
tresaben93
April 11th, 2016 8:08am
This is a tricky one. Very much dependent on your relationship with your parents. My advice would be to prepare what you want to get across, make sure you know exactly what you want to get across (so you don't forget when things get emotional or heated). Choose an appropriate time. Take a deep breath and go for it!
SD240709CD
May 16th, 2016 2:41am
I would wait for a time my parents are not busy, and the house is empty from visitors. I would then ask them if I could speak with them for just a little time.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2016 12:29am
You do exacly that tll one or both that there is something you need to talk about with them and as them to listen and not to judge you
Candid0211
July 4th, 2016 12:14pm
Two ways one if your parents are open to listening then it's a matter of you managing to get nought courage and walk to them and requesting some time may be one by one or both together. Other aspect is when they are not the listening types and then you just need to create a seen and introduce that there is a problem and sit quietly. May be they will follow it up themselves.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2016 3:29pm
Depends on their mood. If they look fine, tell them that you have something to share and you need their motivation/help :)
lifeabsober34
October 10th, 2016 1:47am
Ask them to meet me in a quiet room and talk with them about what I need to tell them so it is safer.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2016 3:10pm
I ask my parents when they has time to talk and bring up what the problem is when she is available.
Ky23
December 27th, 2016 12:13am
I don't think that you necessarily always have to sit your parents down. Sometimes it works for people to send a text message, call, write a letter, or tell them in some other form. I think wording is important too, because you want to get the message across that something is genuinely wrong.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2018 6:17am
A good relationship is all about communication. For that first analyse the situation. Choose a proper time. Fir example if he's returned after a hectic schedule, you never say such things otherwise instead of getting u, he'll think u are complaining. So first choose a proper time. Do something good for him. When he's relaxed and in calm mind, try to explain things in a ways that u want the relationship work not in a complaining manner.