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How do you stop the stress your family causes you from affecting your other relationships?

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Last Updated: 11/20/2017 at 8:50am
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Carriekats120
March 16th, 2015 7:09am
Maybe try taking deep breathes and relaxing and then once you have relaxed try having a calm talk with your parents about how stressed you are then make sure to talk to the others in your relationships so you can possibly all compromise on a way to stop the stress or reduce it
TurnUpTheMusic333
March 16th, 2015 2:37pm
I believe that my life is a physical manifestation of the thoughts that go on in my head.. so i control my thoughts and feelings and deposit a positive thought so that it will guide me and not let stress bother my other relationships .
KathyTheHealer
May 11th, 2015 2:41pm
It must be very frustrating to be in your situation. And actually, almost everyone has to be in your situation once in their youth life. It's impossible to stop your family trying to affect your relationship. They will keep doing the thing they think is right, just like you are now fighting for your relationship. The solution is if you and your family are still together, try to avoid talking about it. If you and your family are not living together, simply dodge the topic everytime they want to talk about that.
MissLilith
June 16th, 2015 10:02pm
Family believe that they mean the best, and I believe in that. When it comes down to having to move past their comments in order to move forward in another relationship I just have to let it slide; I keep certain comments tied to certain relationships and try to not let it sway me away from others.
PoliteOcean
September 5th, 2015 11:52pm
This can be tough if you are underage and depending on the situation. But you could try talking with them. If you are an adult, then your choices of course can be on a much broader level. You could also try talking to them, or finding ways to seek the help you need to deal with them . Such as counselor or therapy .
ChristieLove
November 10th, 2015 2:16am
I try to establish boundaries, realize I don't deserve abuse, acknowledge my feelings, write about my feelings. I take time for myself. I try to spend time with friends who are supportive and will let me talk about my feelings in a safe space so that I can work through them
enjoyiableScenery52
December 22nd, 2015 10:09pm
I tend to have various shelves mentally for various things. Examples with family I only access the family shelf and with other I only access that shelf. Basically I live in the present moment and I try not to connect one situation with another. If my mood is ruined then I try to give myself a mental pep talk to psych myself up to move ahead
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 1:25pm
If I was in your shoes, I would try to talk to my friends who are supportive and people who actually care about me, I would also stop the negativity and stress from getting in my way and affecting my other relationship. So, try to walk with supportive friends and people who actually care about me and I would block the stress and negativity out of my life and enjoy my life because life is too short to worry about people who never care about your feelings and it is too short to put negativity into it.
TeaGreen621
July 19th, 2016 3:39am
This is honestly a difficult question. Everyone has different positive outlets to channel their stress. You can start off by talking to your family about the cause of your familial stress. If you can't talk to them or they won't listen. Talk to a trained medical professional, they for sure can help you figure out the main cause of your stress and how to deal with it positively. I know for me, I keep a notebook for each relationship I have in my life, to help me sort out my feelings and keep the stress and emotions in the right place! I hope that helps :)
simran14
August 1st, 2016 10:32pm
Handle every situation separately....and give yourself some time to calm down and enter another situation....dont mix your relations and if your at fault apoligise
Anonymous
March 6th, 2017 11:30am
Sometimes family stress is like a heavy weight on your chest. The longer you lay there and wait for it to go away, the more it presses down on you and makes it more difficult to breathe. So, getting out of that position and venting to friends (moderately as not to exhaust them with too much complaining), and being grateful for how other relations are working out well, take our minds of family stress and offer us the space we need to breathe and replenish our energy for woring on our relations and social interactions.. Good luck
supersensitiveStrength
November 20th, 2017 8:50am
If you're worried about the stress jumping in mid-conversation, let your acquaintance know that it's been rough lately so it won't cause miscommunication; how specific you can be depends on your relationship and the situation. If the stress is making you withdrawn, at least keep in touch with people closest to you or energize you, and consider alternatives that work for you such as video calls in the comfort of your room or at the park.