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How I tell them I don't want to do something, even if they really want me to do it?

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Last Updated: 10/24/2016 at 6:29am
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Top Rated Answers
MelissaJade
April 18th, 2015 1:42am
No is no! You don't feel comfortable, you don't want to do something you tell them no never do anything you don't want and if they don't like the answer no well they are not worth your time.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2015 10:09pm
Explain to them that you don't want to do it and ask them how they would feel if someone wanted them to do something when they didn't want to. Ask them to put themselves in your shoes.
kashu510
May 2nd, 2015 6:18am
You should never do something you are not comfortable with. Just be honest, because you do not want to be forced into something that is not for you.
KerrieBerrie77x3
April 1st, 2015 3:31am
Make it clear that you understand that they really want you to do this, but stand your ground and tell them that you don't want to. No explanation needed. No means no.
Stainedglass
June 3rd, 2015 3:25pm
You tell them regardless, do not be afraid to disappoint when your wellbeing is on the line. Toxic relationships and friends can be the worst and you should cut them out of your life, even if it hurts for a while.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 12:50am
Know what you are and aren't comfortable doing. If there is something you don't want to do, be firm. If they truly respect you, they won't force you to do something you aren't comfortable with.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2015 10:44pm
You must stand your ground. Do not let yourself waver on the situation. If you are truly uncomfortable doing this "something", then you must make sure the person knows exactly where you stand. Good luck!!
Short
September 21st, 2015 4:39am
The best way to tell anyone anything is to be completely honest about it. If you do not want to do something because it goes against morals, or just makes you feel uncomfortable, tell them exactly that. If someone is trying to get you to dive into a pool, but you know you can't swim, tell them exactly that. Being honest is always the way to go
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 6:43am
I'm not in that situation, but I would no means no. You don't owe anyone an explanation :) You are your own person and saying no is healthy!
spectacularOcean53
February 25th, 2015 7:05pm
be honest, tell them directly, try not to lie or withhold your feeling, because the more you withhold, the more you are likely to hurt others
colorfulPurple21
April 4th, 2015 8:53pm
Saying no is a skill. You just have to sau "no" thts it. Initially you will feel wierd. But ultimately you as well as people around you wont mind listening jst a clear no. They wont even feel bad. :)
naturalJet44
June 29th, 2015 12:30pm
tell them, politely yet firmly that you dont feel comfortable doing it. and it will not be good for either sides if something's done unwillingly. listen to all sides before you make a decision. lastly i can only help you, but no one understand you better than yourself so take a lead.
lily2928xx
January 11th, 2016 1:18am
You just tell them the truth and admit that you don't want to do it,remeber to never lie ,even if you feel pressured
calmingDeer23
August 15th, 2016 11:26pm
Be straight and strong. You should put yourself in first place. You are the most important thing in your life. Not any body else. If they can't accept you, let them go away from you.
promisesR4ever
August 3rd, 2015 12:08am
Just explain you don't feel comfortable with what they are asking you to do. They should understand. Never think you should feel like you have to do something.
keepitrealbri
August 24th, 2015 4:43am
Be straight up with them. Tell them its something you really don't want to do and you don't have your heart set on it at all
Nick12
September 7th, 2015 3:31am
Just tell them honestly. If they really care about you they'll understand and won't make a big deal about it.
JDM108
May 16th, 2016 1:49am
Sometimes if you tell them, it starts a discussion, where you have to explain yourself and end up getting convinced. Give them an answer that satisfies them without lying too overtly (or better yet lying at all), and then do what you must.
allnaturalUnicorns70
June 6th, 2016 3:08pm
Sometimes you just need to put your foot down and set your own boundaries! Being clear with yourself that a certain thing must be a certain way makes it easier to communicate that to others. Be sure, be firm and be polite!
nrigaud
October 24th, 2016 6:29am
Explain to them that this is your life and you need to make the decisions that are best for you. Just because they want it or they want you to do it does not give them any ownership or control over your life.