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How should you deal with sibling rivalry?

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Last Updated: 09/26/2017 at 3:52am
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January 18th, 2015 5:19pm
Don't let it take over!! sibling rivalry is good because it definitely prepares you for life, but too much of it is not healthy anymore. It can make you sick and please don't let it do that to you. Always remember that most of the rivalry is in your head. Your relatives might compare you with your sibling(s) but mostly not as much as you. And anyway, why would you care about your relatives? If they think one sibling is better, they don't deserve knowing you!
April 28th, 2015 2:07am
A little rivalry is healthy, but you have to remember you're on the same team, and are there to help each other when times get tough.
June 16th, 2015 2:14pm
Sibling rivalry is common but finding a common ground helps. Try to help each other out instead of against.
June 17th, 2015 11:31am
Calmly as possible. If things get physical, then you know its time to make a call.I would suggest being careful in a situation involving rivalry.
August 31st, 2015 8:03pm
Although no two people are alike, not even twins, dealing with siblilng rivalry can be difficult. If you are a parent try to make sure everything is as equal as it can be among each child. Be sure to spend quality time with each one on an individual basis to ensure that you are there for all of them. Also , if you feel that things are still not fully coming together, perhaps speaking with a counselor or therapist that deals with "family" issues (such as family therapy) migh help the situation.
November 9th, 2015 2:21pm
Have a chat with them and/or your parent/s/guardian. Jealousy is normal, and can be overcome. Try to think why you feel this way, and perhaps how your sibling feels.
May 30th, 2016 8:36pm
To deal with sibling rivalry you should talk to your parents and explain your feelings. Also learn how to gain self-control and patience.
November 14th, 2016 8:05pm
Change the tone - kill em' with kindness. Show them you support them and their achievements, and slowly their behavior may shift as well. When we model positive behavior, people often follow.
May 8th, 2017 4:40am
Well it is natural thing and should not shy away from that. You can not expect that there is a perfect world and every one lives in harmony. Once you accept that you would understand the reasons behind the sibling rivalry, and it would make you capable of handling the same without causing aberrations in the relations.
July 10th, 2017 1:38pm
Sibling rivalry is always hard, especially when it becomes a big part of your life however, it is important to recognise and celebrate the differences between you and turn them into positives. Recognise that you are different people and where one excels, another may not and that is okay.
September 26th, 2017 3:52am
Depending on whether it is a positive rivalry or a negative one. If the rivalry leads to positive outcomes then thats a healthy rivalry. But if the rivalry leads to negative outcomes then maybe you need to question why rival on something that brings negativity to you.