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How to make your parents listen to you?

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Last Updated: 05/11/2020 at 7:10pm
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Freebirdie
April 28th, 2016 8:54pm
I know this sounds childish but I watched 'Brave' and I realised that everyone in this world wants to be listened. Sometimes it happens that the adults don't act like adults, so maybe you should. I treat people the way I want to be treated. Also, you're in control of yourself and not anyone else so if you wish to change something then the first destination should be you
ukulelesounds
January 23rd, 2016 6:21pm
Try to find a good moment, maybe make dinner for them to start off the conversation knowing your parents are in a good mood. Try to think of your points before "showtime", prepare the arguements and the best way to express your point of view. Start the talk by either opening the conversation right away or maybe doing small talk that goes into the direction of what you want, especially If you feel stressed- in which case the quiet approach could elp you calm down. During the actual conversation, try to sound as respectful and mature as possible. Maybe start with "I want to talk about (topic) again because I feel like we communicated the wrong way/ because I feel like we should understand each other's points better". Don't be snappy, rude or something else, that's not mature and not mature won't get you far. Listen without interrupting them to avoid your parents speaking louder or even start yelling. If you can't get what you want, ask why, and ask to find a middle of your interests. Maybe your parents won't raise your pocket money without you doing a few more chores or improving some grades, or they won't extend your curfew without knowing who you're with and would like to meet your friends or know where you're going. And If you don't get what you want, act respectful, ask questions If you don't understand, and be an adult about it. If you throw a tantrum, it might even improve your parents' point.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 6:53pm
JUST try to convince them with right reason to support the cause and be polite and as much possible respectful
jaca
January 30th, 2016 5:16am
When you wanted your parents to listen to you, you should try to talk to them with utmost respect :)
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 11:23pm
When you want your parents to listen to you, you have to be calm and mature. Talk to them when they are not busy, schedule a time with them if you need to.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2016 9:59am
Be honest with them and what you have to say! Let them know that you want them to listen to you!!!!!
Anonymous - Expert in Family Stress
February 9th, 2016 10:15pm
Be clear, honest, but articulate. You must express opinions with evidence, or informed points. Be civil and mature when conversing, and be sure to be confident.
delicateShoulder44
February 5th, 2016 1:04am
What I try to do is approach them as if I'm an adult and they're adults. You have to approach them at their level. It's important to be prepared and present what you have to say in a way that they will understand. It may be hard for them to sympathize because you're a teenager, though, but they will listen.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 4:15pm
Try to talk to them at the time they are not busy, and they will listen to you when they are completely free
grumpymama
February 2nd, 2016 4:16pm
The best time to make sure you are heard is when you are not overly emotional. Using what is called an "I" message helps out a lot in my opinion. It is where you state what is wrong, and how it makes you feel. You do not state blame, or offer a solution.
AngelHavens7
February 21st, 2016 3:45pm
I swear parents are the most stubborn! and are always right!,., But there is a trick, Yes! You've gotta catch them in a relaxed, or quiet, mood or even in a time where you can bond and spend quiality time with them. Understand your self first make sure its what you really want and know, be mature about it and State < what you want to say in a firm calm mood and make sure to say you respect them at the end.
Heretohelp2000
February 21st, 2016 10:52pm
You can never make them listen to you fully. Approach them in a calm and collected way without yelling
Anonymous
February 6th, 2016 1:38am
Blunt honesty has a way of starting conversations. Using clear and concise terms that are honest. Maintain eye contact and use emotions when possible.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 12:15am
Well you can't just make them listen to you, you have to help them understand what you are trying to tell them.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2016 2:38pm
Simple! Listen to them and they will definitely listen to you! Also, they're the sweetest people so they'll listen something, if not everything!
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 7:35pm
You need to show them you are serious and they'll listen to you. Make sure you know what your saying and talking about
feelihipo
February 21st, 2016 12:07pm
Be sincere and honest. Talk to them, explain how you feel. Contact a specialist if you must. Don't keep things inside.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2016 7:25pm
Parents are very hard headed. They want the best for you and sometimes don't consider your opinion because you are still young and they've lived through what you have before.
ListeningEar13
February 13th, 2016 11:18pm
Start a line of communication with them. Express yourself in detail and listen to the feedback. You may not always get the answer you want.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 10:50am
Asking their attention. Give something that make them proud. Be your self. Talk to them and asking their permission first.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 3:27pm
There isn't really a way to do this, but i would sit them down and say you need to talk. Have a serious talk with them. Tell them what you need to say
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 4:48pm
Ask them to sit down for five minutes just to talk. Make sure not to get mad if they say no, it all takes a little time.
Greatlistener87
February 18th, 2016 2:21am
Just sit them down and talk to them. Tell them to give you how many minutes you need and make it happen.
peacefulMoon81
March 23rd, 2016 9:20pm
Organise a time to talk to them and let them know that it is important to you. Also tell them that you would appreciate them spending 5 minutes speaking to you.
William95
April 11th, 2016 10:44pm
You cannot make your parents listen to you, they are your parents and they know the best for you. If it's about the constant pressurizing, then you can tell them it is bothering your worth ethics and they will understand.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2016 8:20pm
I give them reasons as to why I am right, and if they don;t believe me, I start crying so they feel bad for me.
Syntthetics
April 9th, 2016 2:36am
I think you have to try to appeal to what they would agree with, that's what's always worked for me.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2016 3:47pm
See the thing I some parents honestly don't know how to listen, but that's not every case all you need to do is think as if you where in their shoes.
lilybugg
April 10th, 2016 11:49pm
Reason with them and try to make them see how you see the issue and give them a better understanding
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 3:05pm
You can ask them very politely if you can have talk because you have some problems i need to tell you if they don't listen go to another relative and ask them to have a word with them