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How to make your parents listen to you?

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Last Updated: 05/11/2020 at 7:10pm
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ukulelesounds
January 23rd, 2016 6:21pm
Try to find a good moment, maybe make dinner for them to start off the conversation knowing your parents are in a good mood. Try to think of your points before "showtime", prepare the arguements and the best way to express your point of view. Start the talk by either opening the conversation right away or maybe doing small talk that goes into the direction of what you want, especially If you feel stressed- in which case the quiet approach could elp you calm down. During the actual conversation, try to sound as respectful and mature as possible. Maybe start with "I want to talk about (topic) again because I feel like we communicated the wrong way/ because I feel like we should understand each other's points better". Don't be snappy, rude or something else, that's not mature and not mature won't get you far. Listen without interrupting them to avoid your parents speaking louder or even start yelling. If you can't get what you want, ask why, and ask to find a middle of your interests. Maybe your parents won't raise your pocket money without you doing a few more chores or improving some grades, or they won't extend your curfew without knowing who you're with and would like to meet your friends or know where you're going. And If you don't get what you want, act respectful, ask questions If you don't understand, and be an adult about it. If you throw a tantrum, it might even improve your parents' point.
Freebirdie
April 28th, 2016 8:54pm
I know this sounds childish but I watched 'Brave' and I realised that everyone in this world wants to be listened. Sometimes it happens that the adults don't act like adults, so maybe you should. I treat people the way I want to be treated. Also, you're in control of yourself and not anyone else so if you wish to change something then the first destination should be you
RAOTHEHELPER
February 20th, 2016 6:53pm
JUST try to convince them with right reason to support the cause and be polite and as much possible respectful
jaca
January 30th, 2016 5:16am
When you wanted your parents to listen to you, you should try to talk to them with utmost respect :)
grumpymama
February 2nd, 2016 4:16pm
The best time to make sure you are heard is when you are not overly emotional. Using what is called an "I" message helps out a lot in my opinion. It is where you state what is wrong, and how it makes you feel. You do not state blame, or offer a solution.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 4:15pm
Try to talk to them at the time they are not busy, and they will listen to you when they are completely free
delicateShoulder44
February 5th, 2016 1:04am
What I try to do is approach them as if I'm an adult and they're adults. You have to approach them at their level. It's important to be prepared and present what you have to say in a way that they will understand. It may be hard for them to sympathize because you're a teenager, though, but they will listen.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 11:23pm
When you want your parents to listen to you, you have to be calm and mature. Talk to them when they are not busy, schedule a time with them if you need to.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 10:15pm
Be clear, honest, but articulate. You must express opinions with evidence, or informed points. Be civil and mature when conversing, and be sure to be confident.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2016 9:59am
Be honest with them and what you have to say! Let them know that you want them to listen to you!!!!!
Anonymous
February 6th, 2016 1:38am
Blunt honesty has a way of starting conversations. Using clear and concise terms that are honest. Maintain eye contact and use emotions when possible.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2016 2:38pm
Simple! Listen to them and they will definitely listen to you! Also, they're the sweetest people so they'll listen something, if not everything!
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 7:35pm
You need to show them you are serious and they'll listen to you. Make sure you know what your saying and talking about
Anonymous
February 13th, 2016 7:25pm
Parents are very hard headed. They want the best for you and sometimes don't consider your opinion because you are still young and they've lived through what you have before.
ListeningEar13
February 13th, 2016 11:18pm
Start a line of communication with them. Express yourself in detail and listen to the feedback. You may not always get the answer you want.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 10:50am
Asking their attention. Give something that make them proud. Be your self. Talk to them and asking their permission first.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 3:27pm
There isn't really a way to do this, but i would sit them down and say you need to talk. Have a serious talk with them. Tell them what you need to say
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 4:48pm
Ask them to sit down for five minutes just to talk. Make sure not to get mad if they say no, it all takes a little time.
Greatlistener87
February 18th, 2016 2:21am
Just sit them down and talk to them. Tell them to give you how many minutes you need and make it happen.
feelihipo
February 21st, 2016 12:07pm
Be sincere and honest. Talk to them, explain how you feel. Contact a specialist if you must. Don't keep things inside.
AngelHavens7
February 21st, 2016 3:45pm
I swear parents are the most stubborn! and are always right!,., But there is a trick, Yes! You've gotta catch them in a relaxed, or quiet, mood or even in a time where you can bond and spend quiality time with them. Understand your self first make sure its what you really want and know, be mature about it and State < what you want to say in a firm calm mood and make sure to say you respect them at the end.
Heretohelp2000
February 21st, 2016 10:52pm
You can never make them listen to you fully. Approach them in a calm and collected way without yelling
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 12:15am
Well you can't just make them listen to you, you have to help them understand what you are trying to tell them.
YouDeserveToBeOkay189
January 16th, 2016 3:48am
Earn their trust and show them that you are your own person, with feelings and ideas and that you have important things to say. Also remember to respect them since they are the ones who helped you become the great person you are today 😊
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 9:41am
You need to think about the outcome of speaking to your parents. Will your parents punish you? Will they support you? If they would punish you, you have to think 'is it better to be heard and punished' ( i think yes). If you have decided that it is best to tell them, then you could text them, make a video or just talk to them straight out
Anonymous
January 20th, 2016 11:25am
some parent are kind and some are not really that nice to you,i suggest you have to wait the right time to talk to her,i reccomend you to be nice first and ask little question for example,"mom/dad,can we go to theather someday" if they responding nicely to you and you feel satisfied with their answer frequently,i think its the perfect time to tell what do you really want them to listen,i do not reccomend to say right of the bat
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 6:53pm
I would say try to get their attention, but I don't want you to seem desperate. Ask your parents if you guys could talk privately. Like a meeting. Do it on a day when you're not busy. When the "meeting" starts, talk to her about how you've been feeling lately.
ella3421
January 28th, 2016 4:15pm
Sometimes, parents forget that they need to listen to their children just as much as the children need to listen to them, but you can do a few things to try and make them realize this. The first thing you should do is try to catch your parents in a good mood, they're more likely to understand you if you catch them at a time when they aren't thinking about things that are stressing them out or making them mad. Second, you should get both of them in the same room, they should both be present for the entire talk so you don't have to repeat yourself and get frustrated. Third, stay calm and be mature. Even though you're their child, you shouldn't act too childish or they won't feel the need to pay a lot of attention. Make it known that this is an adult conversation. Also, if they're busy, don't throw a fit or insist the conversation to happen right away, they'll just put it off longer. Fourth, state your problem or what you need to talk about in a way that makes it sound interesting and like something they should hear out. Be prepared to answer all of the questions they have and always start with the positives. All of these steps should help you at least start a good, adult conversation with your parents without yelling or ignoring or whatever the problem may be that you can't get them to listen, but even if it doesn't work the very first time, try again another day. Give them time to think. Put in a few extra steps that you know your parents will notice you need them.
SmilingInTheShadows
January 29th, 2016 11:27am
How to make your parents listen to you would be to talk to them honestly. Tell them how your feeling and show them. Respect is given when it is shown.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 3:54am
tell them how you feel, express your emotions to them. talking through your problems with them will be very helpful