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How to make your parents stop arguing?

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Greatlistener87
February 10th, 2016 7:55am
Your parents are adults and they are responsible for their own actions. You can sit them down and discuss with them on how you feel about them arguing. This might help them to understand that the arguing is affecting you too.
WiltedFlowers
February 10th, 2016 11:46pm
If you get really upset when your parents fight, you might want to talk to them about your feelings. Sometimes, parents don't realize that their arguing makes kids feel upset. If you tell them how you feel, they'll probably try to stop or at least explain to you why they are disagreeing.
Arakhthanda
February 11th, 2016 3:42am
First through acknowledging the emotions they have about the situation they are in. Second, to help them learn about your boundaries as a student or as a child. And then, help them understand where you are coming from in the first place. If you are seeing both parents arguing each other, then do the same with the parent that you identify with most.
bambooPanda15
February 13th, 2016 6:20pm
Try to talk tot them about it. It may be hard to get them to listen but trying your best can help a lot
Steelymic
February 14th, 2016 8:46pm
You could try talking to them one on one and help them understand how their arguing makes you feel. Hopefully this will give them a different perspective
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 4:48pm
Tell them how you feel about the situation at hand. Hopefully they can work out their differences and you can be a ha[[y family :)
TheColumn
February 19th, 2016 11:42am
Divorce them. That is what I did and I've never regreted it. If they want to stay together they ave to realize they need to respect and accept each other and not linger on small things and channel their frustration to each other. If they can't, let them go apart.
momentbymoment
February 26th, 2016 1:09am
Most important is an understanding that it's not your responsibility to make them stop arguing. They're grown adults who are solely responsible for their actions. Remember that it's their job to raise you, not the other way around. The only thing you can do is be the best person you can be and hope that your choices will create a calm atmosphere at home or even be an example to your parents. What they choose to do with that is entirely up to them. No matter what they choose, remember that it has never been nor will it ever be your responsibility to fix your parents.
HakunaMatata2k
February 26th, 2016 9:03pm
Honestly there's no way that you yourself can stop this, confronting them about it might make them try and hide it more around you to not upset you but this is something they need to solve themselves. If they do still love each other then with time hopefully they will pull through but if there is no signs of them doing so and they refuse to go to any relationship counselling then one option you have is consulting them both separately about their problems ad trying to help them figure out what it is that is really bothering them ad how they can sort it with your other parent. It will be hard to do at first but it'll bring you closer to your parents and after the first couple of times it'll feel natural between you.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 7:00am
No has control over other people's arguments. You can pull each parent aside and share how you feel when they argue in front of you, but that is all. It is their issues, and you as a child.can control, nor is it appropriate to get involved in these arguments.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 11:26am
the best way is talk to them but in a respectful manner. remember that it is important to keep your point but in a polite way. also, tell them how it is affecting you and being your parents, they'll understand at some point.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2016 3:48am
You can't make them stop arguing, but you can tell them how it makes you feel. Ask them to consider your feelings or the feelings of others around them.
happyApple83
March 3rd, 2016 2:49pm
I don't know that there is a way to make our parents stop arguing, but it may be helpful to tell them how the arguing makes us feel. This may get them to stop, slow down, or argue behind closed doors.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2016 7:55pm
When parents argue it's not your fault. You could try to talk to them, let them know how it makes you feel.
glowingPassion10
March 4th, 2016 9:57pm
If you get really upset when your parents fight, you might want to talk to them about your feelings. Sometimes, parents don't realize that their arguing makes kids feel upset. If you tell them how you feel, they'll probably try to stop or at least explain to you why they are disagreeing.
FroggySarafina
March 5th, 2016 11:26pm
Try talking to them about the issue and telling them how you feel when they argue. You could also try talking to another trusted adult who also knows your parents, they may be able the help.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 2:37am
Tell them that the fighting is hurting you. They hopefully can discern which issue is more important; you being hurt or the issue they're fighting about.
Roxanne3410
March 6th, 2016 9:31am
I've learned that it is very hard to make your parents stop arguing. Something that has helped me is by saying how much the arguing is impacting me and my siblings and how much it hurts us to see them fight.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 1:47pm
If you can find a calm moment when they are not arguing to let them know how arguing makes you feel it can sometimes make them realise how there actions are effecting you. Its not always so easy to do it when they are in a heat of an argument.
alxmia
March 6th, 2016 2:49pm
You do not have control over your parents relationship. Although, you could sit them down or write them a letter (anything you are comfortable with) and tell them you want to make sure they are okay and that when they argue it upsets you. They will realise and try to work things out hopefully.
graciousGardener
March 6th, 2016 7:18pm
I usually wait until there's a lull and walk in, maybe to ask for something or just to say something, and it diverts the argument usually.
YunusB
March 10th, 2016 9:44pm
You can't control other people's relationship dramas. All you can do is approach them, individually at first, and show them you care about the fact they're mad at each other. That you care about them. That you're okay and that, whatever else they do and did wrong in their eyes, they did okay with you. Maybe, if you're patient and persevere, they'll come to see things through another perspective - even each other.
BabyBuddha
March 11th, 2016 6:33pm
Sorry sweetie, you can't. Your parents private relationship is something you can not really be a part of. You have to let them work it out.
VinnyBean
March 11th, 2016 6:57pm
You really can't make them stop. Maybe you can talk to them and let them know how you feel when they argue?
LucyCat20
March 12th, 2016 6:26am
watch a movie that you can all enjoy together, only after both sides have cooled down for a while.
zaix
March 13th, 2016 2:59pm
There isn't a way that you can just make them stop arguing, but you can start by letting them know how it bothers you or how it makes them feel when they argue, it all depends on the situation at hand.
Zohaash
March 18th, 2016 11:52pm
you cant really do that.
SunflowerHere2Help
March 19th, 2016 9:49pm
Talk to your parents together on why you think they need to try and stop arguing. Show them how you're hurting because of their arguments.
Meowkindcatmeow
March 22nd, 2016 1:57pm
Try and ask each parent separately what is really bothering them. People lash out when under a lot of pressure and being able to reflect on what the real cause is will help them actually address the issue.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 8:58pm
Maybe you could try to change the subject. Or tell them to go to separate rooms until they calm down.