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How to stop hating your little brother?

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Last Updated: 06/11/2022 at 12:07am
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Anonymous
July 16th, 2020 11:58pm
Perhaps a good place to start would be to question why you hate him? and explore that. Not the What he does/it is that make you hate him but the Why does the thing bring about that feeling .. if it is because he hurts you then perhaps consider resolving the issue.. if it's because you think your parents favor him over you then try to analyse if this is a fact and have a conversation about it with your parents and so on. Remember it's better not to let your emotions and feelings get in the way when you interact with him.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2020 10:41am
Well its normal to get angry at your little brother but its not right to hate him because he is suppose to look up to you and you are meant to guide him through his hard times and try to be a good example.So you have try to learn how to tolerate him and try to love him for who he is because he is going to learn a lot from and you have to be there to help.So when ever he does something annoying just try to correct him and tell him the right thing to do like that he learns from you and you guys will have that good connection among each other.
WarriorAri
September 16th, 2020 1:02am
You can try to make a list why do you hate him. In there you can write the possible reasons. Then you can write the good things about him. Make the good list as long as possible. After this jotting down you have got everything you need to work on. The first step would be to go to a family member who you trust and tell him frankly about it. your parents can also help you. Then go to your brother and spend some time. Talk to him or play sone games together. Meanwhile try to focus on his good things you listed before. I think you will be able to stop hating him.
Anonymous
September 18th, 2020 9:12pm
Reflect on why you hate him, and try to understand that you were once his age. A sibling bond is something you have to work on and continuously build. Try hanging out one-on-one and finding shared interests! I was never close to my little sister growing up because we are 7 years apart. It was not until I took her to our local fair and spent some quality time with her did I realize that we had a similar sense of humor. We still get annoyed with each other which is completely normal, but it was a relationship that has improved over time. Siblings are like your built in best friend(s). You won't always like them, but you'll always love them.
TheLinenMonk
October 25th, 2020 8:01am
Context plays a big part in resolving this issue. But, your hatred for your little brother comes from something inside of you. It is an issue inside you that you are displacing onto your little brother. Sure, he may frustrate you in various ways but that wouldn't be able to get to you if there wasn't something inside of YOU that was vulnerable to it. The fastest solution is gaining some maturity. Find a way to see your own values and strengths and don't get caught up in other people or their lives. Live and let live. Being frustrated for its own sake doesn't solve anything and is only taking energy away from you that you could be using in more helpful and self-fulfilling ways.
honeyyviss
December 3rd, 2020 5:02pm
There are usually reasons you hate your siblings; they're annoying, they bother you too much, tell on you, hurt you, be rude to you... However you'll still always be siblings no matter what you want (your stuck with them) Of course you can do things to get away, but like I said, they will always be your sibling, so its best to fix those problems. For example, if they invade your space, set boundries? If they're rude/mean to you, you could try and tell a/another adult. And I understand that it's easier said then done. But in the end its better to make things better with your siblings then to shut them out and regret it in the future :))
Anonymous
December 10th, 2020 12:03am
You should start by asking what it is you hate about him? It has been said that we often hate others because we see something in them that we hate about ourselves. So the first step would be to identify what you hate about him and then ask yourself why it bothers you. For example if you think he is babied or treated differently, then your hatred problem stems from your desire to be babied or you wish to be treated differently. If you feel like something he does is annoying it may be an action or habit that you hate yourself for doing as well.
beautifulSunset1969
March 7th, 2021 6:34pm
I'm not sure how old you are or your little brother. I can tell you from my own experience that I did not like my brother for a really long time. It wasn't until I moved out to attend college that our relationship began to grow. We have a 5 year difference, which also doesn't help. It took time, space, and maturing on both of our parts before we got along. The fact that you are reaching out means you care and there is hope. So, give yourself some grace and your brother too. It will work out eventually.
Smilesgiggles
March 12th, 2021 1:08am
I think it's very important to start trying to bond with your little brother in order to stop hating him. You could try to do activities that you both find interesting, or try to have discussions regarding topics you mutually agree on. For instance, you could go swimming together, or read a book and recommend that to your brother and you two could have a discussion about it once he is done reading it. Your little brother could possibly benefit from your experiences, so sharing them with him would most likely result in you two having a good bonding time. Slowly but surely, once you see there are things you both like to do and mutually agree on, you will start liking your brother.
gentleWillow6402
March 17th, 2021 2:24am
Try to find things in common that maybe you both would enjoy doing together, it could be as simple as eating a meal you both like together! Oftentimes it may seem as though you have nothing in common but there are always more general similarities that may include both of your interests. For example maybe you both like video games but not the same ones, take turns playing the games you both like and maybe you will find one you both end up enjoying! Maybe pick a movie you both like or a movie in a genre you both like, or even just a movie that sounds interesting to the both of you! By finding a common ground you will be able to foster more love for your little brother.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2021 1:23am
My little sibling and I were always arguing and trying everything to trigger each other. However, with time, as the older sibling, I understood that I need to stop doing that and support my little sibling because we’re family. As older siblings, we need to show support, love and respect to our younger siblings. At some point, he will realize that you really care for him and will start doing the same for you. Younger siblings learn from you and look up to you in some way. You inspire them everyday. Be patient with him. He’s still in the learning phase.
Gracey1999
April 8th, 2021 6:02am
Accept the fact that he cannot just disappear and find that lost love and care which you once had for him. Remember the time when he was born and how happy you were for such such a gift in your life. Sometimes it gets annoying and that's a part of life to feel that way about your siblings, but if you cherish the fact that your life will be empty without him, can make you feel better about his existence. Many who don't have a little brother, do want one in their life and fighting with them can be much more fun.
teri03
April 11th, 2021 12:25pm
How to stop hating your little brother? That is a very difficult question. The first important thing is to realize where does this feeling comes from. If it is hate (that is a really strong feeling) or other feelings like anger, sadness, disappointment... All of these feelings are valid, doesn't come without reason and people feeling like this are not feisty or oversensitive. That feeling comes from something, from something that happened to them. So it is important to think about when this feeling of hating a little brother appeared, which kind of situations might be triggering for this feeling to come the most.
Anonymous
April 18th, 2021 6:45pm
It is not a good feeling to have to hate your sibling. No matter how they are with you, you need to respect them and love them because they're blood no matter what. God made every single one of us and we should love and respect each other. I know little siblings can be oh so very annoying. I have 3 so i know what you are going through. But hating them is never the right answer. When a younger sibling is being annoying you can take 3 approaches. 1 ignore them until they go away (don't say a word or give any reaction at all) 2. Polity ask them to stop because you need them to focus or you had a bad day or give them a good reason. 3. Yell at them or get your parents or another sibling to get onto them. This last option my end in hurt and bitter feelings but is also effective. Just always have an apology ready to give if you do something mean.
calmingUnicorn6545
April 22nd, 2021 3:38am
It is not abnormal. Many people have no relationship with their siblings/a sibling. You are under no obligation to have a cordial relationship, for that matter, simply because you have the same parents. Being siblings is an accident of biology. It does not guarantee a positive relationship with them. Hatred is not worth the energy it takes. If you see him, you can nod hello to him, the way you would if you saw someone from the neighborhood. You don't have to stop to chat. Just nod politely and keep going. Please don't put any more thought or energy into it than that. Focus on whatever you're doing and pay the sight of your brother no more attention than that.
eLucae
June 3rd, 2021 2:23pm
Understand that little brothers look up to you on everything. You are their role model. Your little brother probably just wants to spend time with you, if you feel annoyed by them. If you feel jealous, as if your parents are focusing on them, understand that your brother is younger, and your parents have put enough trust in you to be on your own. I understand he might cause a bit of grief, annoyance or trouble, but he's a child, he respects you and loves you. I'm sorry that your brother is causing a bit of grief. I hope you can work it out with him.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2021 11:01am
It really depends on why you do not like your brother. - Is he doing something to annoy you? He may not understand how it's annoying you and it might be something fun to him. Is he old enough to understand? - Are your parents doting on him more than you? You may need to sit down with your parents and talk to them if you feel neglected. If you don't feel comfortable talking to them alone, you could get another adult or someone close to be involved in the talk as well. - Are you jealous he is doing better than you? Perhaps you then need to see if there is something that you need to change for yourself.
Joy3202
November 11th, 2021 10:37pm
Recognize their flaws as well as your flaws and learn to accept them. Also learn to accept that no one's perfect and to embrace imperfection. Recognizing their strengths and also forgiving mistakes also helps. I think that it is also to understand that since they are younger, they might not be as knowledgeable. Be forgiving and teach them the proper way of things instead of getting mad. Be kind, understanding, and especially patient when talking to them. I find that sometimes I am impatient and can get frustrated easily. Finding a balance and learning patience as well as acceptance is my answer
happyIceCream4246
December 3rd, 2021 8:47pm
I would say to stop hating on your little brother not only would it be his best interest, but also for your self. Having hate towards another person can be very detrimental and hurtful at the same time. Also, hating on family wouldn't be the best idea to keep. Make peace with one another regardless the issue. Family gets to stay with you forever and one should be able to count on each other for the right reasons especially when in need. And by having a brother on your side it can help you mentally and become better in life.
whatthen
December 15th, 2021 6:56pm
Depends on why you hate him. Question it. If he hurts you confront him. If confronting is useless, distance yourself from him. But hatred hurts the one who is hating more than the one being hated. Distance helps lessen it, give an insight and calm down emotions. Recognizing your own health before his hatred helps calm yourself down, give your health the importance because you're only harming yourself by hating him, it is an ugly emotion to live with and if he hurts you then he's not worth all that energy because you're just worsening the hurt he's already caused you, and that's the last thing you need at this point.
LovingMilton2020
December 17th, 2021 10:12pm
You need to analyze what is making you feel this way. Ask yourself is it worth such extreme emotion. What effects may your emotion towards him have on himself? Are you contributing to your relationship tensions? Hate is a negative and destructive emotion. It has a bad impact on yourself and your victim. Even if that person is doing you wrong you could address them and simply communicate. That would have much better outcomes than being hateful. As you communicate and work things out the mutual feelings of love and respect will be reciprocated. Hate is terrible, love will heal.
glisteningwind1
December 29th, 2021 9:04pm
I think looking at yourself with a perspective that is positive helps. I mean one of the reason you start hating someone is because you feel you are deprived of the resources the others have at disposal. Other could out of purely dislike in which case you can be a better judge of character by formulating a complete image of the person, your brother by considering all the pros with the cons. This will help you to overcome the spiral loop of negativity that is perpetuating the hatred. Lastly, whenever you find yourself in thoughts that are fueling such emotions, consciously call them out and stop them. This a technique we use in meditation, simply making yourself aware of it and consciously moving on from it.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2022 11:42pm
Sometimes, we feel hate to protect ourselves from a softer, more vulnerable emotion. Other times, we feel hate because we feel misunderstood by someone, or we don't understand them very well. A good place to start is by asking yourself why you feel this hate - every time you find an answer, ask yourself "why" about that answer (like a toddler asking "why" over and over!). Eventually, this can help you reach the core emotion and start processing it. If you start feeling a more vulnerable emotion (like sadness, fear, or grief), that means you've probably found it! When you uncover vulnerable emotions and let them be heard and felt, they often melt away on their own. Another thing to try is spending time with your brother, asking him questions, learning about him, and sharing things about yourself with him, too. Often, just getting to know someone better and truly understanding them makes us feel more compassion and love towards them.
sauravnall99
January 24th, 2022 10:03am
Your brother might have done things to you that upsets you,I understand it,but hating a person especially your own brother will not take you far in life,because hate in your heart you will consume you,that poison will kill you not them,just for a moment remember all the good things he has done to you,I understand its not easy,but he is family and maybe he is looking at you as a role model and a wants some support empathy and love,plese give him an another chance and go talk to him about issue that are bothering him,maybe he will open his heart to you,maybe deep down he trusts you more than anyone could give him a chance
Anonymous
March 4th, 2022 11:41pm
This is probably something very different for everyone, there seems to be a point when nobody really likes their siblings or brothers. But one idea to maybe start getting past the hating-your-brother would be to simply pretend to love them. And eventually you'll get to where you do love them, hopefully. It's not easy, to pretend to love someone that you don't really love. You don't even really have to try to be terribly nice (just be a decent person, really). You don't even have to even think kindly of your brother. But if you can simply think 'this is my brother, and I love him', well, it might not work at first, but with practice, maybe you can learn to actually love him.
MarlaneSkyCafe
June 11th, 2022 12:07am
Loving him and understanding their situation. See their point of view ask them what happened if something’s wrong. Bond with him and spend time have fun be loving, compassionate and understanding. Have a proper talk, play, read together, teach him, learn something together, eat feed him, etc.. Help them with school homework 📚 Be there for them when they need someone they can trust. Always talk to each other everyday! Spend time with the whole family and have fun! Family and friends being social and happy! Have a movie night. Help each other out and love one another…