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How to stop hating your little sister?

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Last Updated: 05/10/2023 at 7:26am
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Top Rated Answers
PerfectnFlawed64
November 15th, 2018 5:11pm
Realize that you both are not alike and do not carry a grudge or be jealous of her successes. Do not ever compare yourself to her. Just accept her and love her! Life is difficult and when your parents and siblings are all gone then both of you will be all that you have left of your family. Forgive often and know that you each face challenges daily and they will not be the same! Try and reach out and not judge, and just except her for what she is right now, knowing that things can change, and that's ok!
Anonymous
November 14th, 2018 3:59am
Spend some time with her a little at a time and give her a few hugs here and there... one things that may help is setting a time of day you can spend with her and that might make the relationship better... even though you may hate her she’s still your little sister and it’s family we all have that person in the family we don’t like but it takes time to come to a medium between the two of you and a solution to that might be just talking to them more or just giving them a hug! That might just make their day and yours too!
fatimahere
September 8th, 2018 9:15pm
With siblings, it's often really easy to grow tired or annoyed of them, considering how you've lived their early years with them. I found that whenever I start to feel hateful emotions towards my younger siblings, I take a break. I withdraw from them for a few hours and focus on other things. Eventually when I face them again, my hate has toned down and I realize how the emotions I've felt where at their extreme point earlier. Also, the benefit of fighting or being angry with your siblings is the fact that you share a roof with them and if the issue is complex, you can easily talk about it with them or have your parents mediate.
scarlettcarsons
August 19th, 2018 12:32pm
Sibling relationships are always difficult. The key is patience, as hard as that may be, and try not to respond to violence, as that will encourage them to continue the conflict in most cases. I’ve seen several pairs of kids who engage in fighting because they’re bored, but as for hating a little sister, really just be patient with her. If she’s smaller than you she will probably want your attention, even if it’s the wrong kind. Try to be generous and caring, even loving if possible, though that is definitely challenging through childhood, and just realize it’s not uncommon at all to feel this way.
NicoleRoyt125
August 8th, 2018 4:22am
You must accept everything about her, you cannot change it. She's younger and different than you, and it is something you will grow to understand, and she will begin to change, whether it is for the worse or for the better. But either way, she is your sister, so you must provide unconditional love, support, and be someone she can look up to.
moonlightjules
August 2nd, 2018 12:11pm
Acknowledge her situation and how she must feel. It might just be a phase or temporary what you feel towards her and look at the bright side. Look at the joy and benefits she is bringing towards your life instead of the negativity.
felixthecat
July 25th, 2018 12:53am
Siblings are tough, especially younger ones. Try bonding with her more and creating a better relationship with her.
RumpleSteeleSkin
July 21st, 2018 9:31pm
Well, many ways you can try not to hating your sister. Try and see if she adores you in things you do as a big sister. Communicate with her and share how you feel also. Maybe include her on some things you do.
glisteningLion63
July 21st, 2018 6:00am
Maybe you can talk to her and get to know her more and hang out with her to understand what she likes and to know more about her
Anonymous
July 14th, 2018 3:45pm
1) Know that she is simply...born, and didnt ask to be born...and not to hold it against her that she is part of your family. 2) Know that she loves you very much, or respects you...thinks the world of you...really, you are her hero/heroine. She unconditionally, genuinely likes you. 3) She will be the person who cries with you, hug you and console you when dad/mom pass away. And even though she is hurting...she will make sure, you hurt less, and always seek to address your needs first, before her own needs. (even if hugging you is awkward to her.)
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 12:08pm
Try to see positive things in her. Try to support her and may be that result in love. With the help of your parents try to spend time with each other and understand her. The family bonding creates compassion.
yourenotalonedear
July 6th, 2018 8:09pm
By simply accepting that they are your siblings can help you love them more. Think of the time they first learned your name. Think of the happy moments u have spent with them.
miraculousWillow27
July 4th, 2018 8:39pm
Little sisters will ALWAYS be little sisters! I should know. I am one of them. With the age gap, your interests differ. Try to find common ground and do something you like together. It will help build the bond back up.
jaylaise
July 4th, 2018 5:47pm
Just start by respecting and listening to her. You don't necessarily need to like her at first - give it time. Respect is the foundation to everything. Understand that she is your sister, part of your family and deserves your respect. Try to put yourself in her shoes. Try making an effort to be kind and calm. Spend time with her - play board games, or do braid her hair or take her out for ice-cream. Ask her questions, treat her like an adult. You'll find your hatred slowly disappearing.
JolivetteListens
June 23rd, 2018 2:54am
Younger siblings can really cramp our style! ;) They can be annoying but I would like to try a little game. Can you name some of the most annoying things she does? The catch is, for every thing you name that you hate you have to name on e thing that you love about her. Ready? Go!
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 5:24pm
There is no magical solution to this. Instead, your best option would ikely be seeing a therapist and exploring what is leading you to hate your little sister.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2018 11:03pm
I have a little sister, and I understand how annoying they can be. But in the end, this hate will get you nowhere. Find common ground with your sister and don't use your energy on hating them! Understand they are younger and most likely still learning.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2023 7:26am
By showing love. By showing respect. By bonding with each other. By spending time, with each other. By agreeing to disagree. By setting aside any and all differences, that you might have. By valuing each other's time. By trying to just get along. By forgiving each other. By not fighting with each other. I feel if you do those things, that I mention and also add any other things that might be helpful, you could see the end of hating your little sister. I hope this is helpful. I would like to add one more thing, and that is: Make better choices. You can choose to hate your little sister. But you can also choose not to. So, remember that.
MartinAlex
January 18th, 2018 8:25am
Identify what makes you feel negative emotions towards your sister and see what can be done to resolve them. Conflicts are resolved through listening, understanding and compromise so be open and honest in your communications to ensure a healthy relationship is built
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 6:16pm
The best way to figure that out is to have a serious sit down talk with her, you, and your parents. Sort of like an intervention and to clear up why you feel this way.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2018 10:36am
I think you need to ask why you hate your sister, maybe make a list of the reasons. Work through them, see if any of them have a solution that you can action right now. If there is any like that, go ahead and do them. If they are all things that will take more time, break them into steps. So maybe she frequently borrows your clothing without asking? First step could be to try and explain to her how it makes you feel. Maybe come to an arrangement with her where once a week, she can borrow a different thing, as long as she asks. Or if you aren't ok with that, then you could work on setting ground rules. If they're more complex reasons, maybe talk to a parent for some guidance on ways to work through this. Good luck!
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 3:06pm
Siblings can be tough and annoying. It’s best to put yourself in their shoes. I know from being one, younger sisters look up to their older siblings and enjoy being around them because they identify with them, even if that’s not always obvious. They can get on your nerves and be rude because they probably haven’t matured as much yet, which is fine, we were all that young once. Be patient with her but also understand when it’s time to take some time for yourself and try to communicate that to her as well. Maybe just let her know you need some time for yourself- this would teach her a lot about empathy and respect.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 12:36pm
Try to understand her more. Try to think how would you feel if your older sibling hated you. If she's little she has no experience and therefore you shouldn't be so harsh.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 2:26pm
Sit and talk to her and find a common interest and participate in something which is fun for both of you. Sit and talk about any problems which you both may hvae to overcome any problems
ConnerAlexzander
February 16th, 2018 6:22am
Vow to protect her, no matter the cost. You will find you love whoever you are willing to die for. Protect her from bad relationships, bad people, bad experiences, anything that would hurt her. If you fight, be the first to apologize, whether you started it or not. Also, find something nice to do for her as often as possible, and smile at her often.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2018 5:23am
Well, you should find common ground with her and see if there is anything that interest both of you so it can spark a conversation that can lead you to understand your sister better.
ElliesAverageLife
March 8th, 2018 8:24pm
When I was younger I despised my sister. We shared a room and although she was two years younger than me, she was physically stronger than me and would often push me over and physically "assault" me so of course I grew to hate her. Over time, as we have both gotten older and I have become wiser, I have learnt to be more passionate towards her and grown to love each other more. As you get older, you become more aware of right and wrongs and I feel you become more empathetic towards others!
Sken24
June 16th, 2018 11:23pm
To stop hating your little sister, ask yourself what is it that upsets you the most. Is it something you control or something they control? What is the reason, does it stem from another issue and your sister is the one who is taking the brunt of your problem? Take a step outside of yourself to look with fresh eyes at how both of you interact with each other. Are there any hidden problems? If so, what? Developing these steps may help changes with your perception of how and why there may be a bad relationship.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 1:25pm
Put yourself in her shoes. List the things you hate about her and asked yourself why is she doing this? Maybe she needs help. Maybe she needs you. Start to initiate conversations with her. Start to engage with her and do more activities with her. Start to discover her and discover yourself more.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 8:40pm
Having siblings can be demanding sometimes. A little sister is a blessing, and what you perceive as annoying might just be a cry for love and attention.