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How to stop hating your little sister?

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Last Updated: 04/03/2021 at 8:03am
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viceroybutterfly11
November 19th, 2016 12:44am
First of all, to solve any problems we should first realize why we're having that certain problem. So, why do you hate your little sister in the first place. And them maybe, after knowing the answer, we could easily solve the problem.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2016 7:05am
In my experience, the best part is to just let it all go. You know you probably do things to allow her to hate you as well, and you just gotta realize that when you live in the same house and see each other almost everyday, things can get intense, and you can start picking out the things that irritate you really easily because of how much you see them. And instead you just gotta find common ground and work from there.
avanef
January 26th, 2017 4:02pm
Eventually, when you both get older you'll stop hating her. You'll be there for her when you need to, you'll want to be around her and you'll stop thinking she's annoying or what have you. It happens to a lot of siblings, they hate each other sometimes, those things happen. I know I did, and then when she moved out and I graduated high school and was in a long term relationship I realized what I missed out on and we are close all over again.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2017 12:56pm
See that all your sister wants is for you to spend time with her. Instead of getting annoyed tell her that you can't play now but that you will later
Anonymous
March 5th, 2017 1:51pm
You can find the same interests with your sister and hang out. You shouldn't be jealous of her and think of how you can hurt her back.
relieffromthestrees
March 8th, 2017 12:06pm
Sibling rivalry has been around for as long as there have been siblings. If you're an older sibling, you likely find some of your younger counterpart's behavior frustrating. Little sisters can be annoying. Sometimes they are still learning how to behave with maturity. Sometimes their behavior tempts you to use immature tactics yourself! Fortunately, you can lesson the annoying impact of your little sister's behavior by remembering one important fact: she looks to you as a role model.[1] Respond to your sister's annoying qualities with maturity, and encourage her when she behaves well. Soon you'll find that she annoys you less -- and you'll enjoy your sibling relationship more.
silvermoon97
March 9th, 2017 11:17pm
younger siblings can annoy you alot especially when you spend a lot of time together. sometimes you just need to have patients and faith in them
rainyAngeldani
March 10th, 2017 2:57pm
Ask yourself why do you hate her. When you find the real reason talk to her about it talk to yourself about it. And stop hating her for something that may not be her problem.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2017 4:53am
Find the spurce of your extreme dislike & address it in the best way that you see fit. I hated my little brother for the simple fact that he got treated much better than I did as a child. But I told my Mom how she made me really feel & she was sorry. Now that my brother is older & I have moved out, our relationship is much better.
BeamDiamond
April 2nd, 2017 8:58pm
I'm in this position and I would just ignore her. What people say or do doesn't have to be apart of our lives unless we allow it to especially if its bad. You could find the good qualities in her or talk about your feelings to her and see how things go. It's okay to not get along with family. I don't have much care for some family members of mine and I'm happy. Just as long as you focus on you and what you want in your life, you'll be fine.
carefreeFlamingo31
April 19th, 2017 2:34pm
Good question, one that I really needed to hear. I understand what it's like to have younger sisters that annoy the bajeeses out of you so I know how you feel. When I was 12 and one of my sisters was 8, we were at the beach and she stood in some deep water and got pulled out in a rip and had to hold onto a rock. I cried. A lot. Now, that's not to say that she doesn't annoy me anymore, but I realized then how I would truly feel if something happened to her. Despite the fact that I may say that I want to murder her, or welcome the chance to be away from her, if she was taken away from me, I would definitely not be glad about it. so, maybe just think about all the good memories you share with her, and the small think about her that make you smile. We don't realise how much we love something until it's gone. To finish of, I was once told a list of facts about life. One of them was: No matter how much you love or hate your siblings now, you will love them even more when you don't live with them.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2017 3:32am
Try to interact with her and spend more time with her. Spending time will not only make her feel better, but it will also make you feel better and happier spending time with her.
lajet1628
April 27th, 2017 1:03pm
Your little sister may seem annoying but when it comes down to it, she's one of the people who knows you the best. Thinking about the good times and how much better your life is with her can make it so much easier to deal with her. Though they can be bratty, they care for you and love you and make sure that you're not alone, no matter how much they annoy you.
Espirit203
May 14th, 2017 6:37am
Sibling rivalry is a normal thing. Try distancing yourself from her for a bit as you try to understand why you hate her.
Kezi017
May 15th, 2017 6:03am
There was a period of time when I hated my little sister to the point where if I saw another little girl, I experienced feelings of annoyance. I disliked how loud her voice was, how she constantly hung on me and stole my things and refused to cooperate. The most important thing to do when it comes to stopping those negative feelings is to focus on the positive characteristics of your sister. My sister would do anything for me, and that helps me to ignore my annoyance at her constant need for attention. I focus on the way she smiles, rather than the way she stubbornly refuses to listen to me, even when it's for her own good. The best way to stop hating your little sister is to accept her. Set boundaries, solid boundaries, but accept that your sister isn't going to change all that much.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2017 4:18am
I don't know what your relationship is like with your sister (and how often you two communicate with each other), why you may hate her, or who she is as a person, but I would first suggest trying to understand where she is personally coming from, what her feelings are, and what she is interested in. Doing this may allow you to understand her perspective and relate to her on a more personal level, so that you are both on the same page. It's important that, in a sibling relationship, you are able to empathize with each other's feelings as hard as it may be sometimes. Remember, she is also a human being who probably also craves love/support just as much as you do.
xmadelinex
June 21st, 2017 6:19am
Hmmm well, I have a little sister and she can get a bit annoying, just stay happy, be nice, and love your sister! They are precious tiny things
MissSkeleton
July 19th, 2017 6:12am
To stop hating your little sister, you should try bonding with her, and taking up hobbies you can both enjoy together, the bond of a brother or sister is irreplaceable and stronger than any other :)
SparkleStar78
July 19th, 2017 12:38pm
It depends on if you actually hate her or if she just annoys you. Be patient, she'll grow up. Tell her to stop annoying you without being mean.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2017 2:35pm
You should think that your little sister is looking up to you so be mature enough to treat her the way you wanted to be treated
ImaginationIsKey
August 10th, 2017 3:09pm
Try not to get to agitated. If you get too mad take time to yourself. She's just a child. Sometimes she won't understand.
VanessaGraceStory
August 18th, 2017 1:34am
Depends on both of your ages and who both as a person and gender. Some people just fight for the fun of it or because they hate each other so much that well... you know what I'm getting to. Just talk to each other and work it out. There's only so much you can do, if it fails, try until you cant no longer figure a reason to or something.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 6:09pm
That's not easy and takes time. Give yourself time and her as well while you work out your feelings. Try not to provoke situations between the two of you that will lead to more hatred. Besides why hate a family member when you can work through it?
readingDream88
November 17th, 2017 4:17am
It's natural to dislike your younger siblings at times - they can be the most annoying people in the world sometimes! If it's a constant dislike, that's okay too. Some people just don't get along. However, I'd recommend just being aware of how your perception of your sister impacts your actions towards her though.
Chat1234
November 17th, 2017 8:10pm
You need to respect your little sister as a freind as she will help you through the hard times and even if you hate her in the future when you are older she will be your best most trusted freind
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 5:46am
Well, this is very complicated. There are likely reasons why you feel this way. I really think this one needs personalized advice from a listener.
KongfuPanda
December 7th, 2017 3:32pm
Why do you hate her in the first place? Do you recall some incidents where you feel that hatred very strongly? Are those reasons still valid today? Is there anything you can do to modify those reasons? Being open to her (or other family members who might contribute to the way you feel, e.g. a parent who plays favorites) can be helpful.
heavenName37
December 9th, 2017 9:36pm
The way to stop hating your little sister is to have patience, it is a give and receive type if skill. If your little sister bothers you stay calm and don't get upset. Little sisters have feelings, and believe it or not they are only human
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 3:29am
Sit down with her and get to know her and about her life. She may have problems that you don't know about, and you may be able to help her. You may realize that you don't hate her, you just hate some of the things she does.
Kkxxrr
December 16th, 2017 3:21am
Family is difficult - we get good days and bad days. siblings fall in and out the same way the weather in Scotland changes every second of the day, however your love will never be altered due to this. be patient with your family - its the only one you get. remember your sister will grow, don't say mean things just because you can - she may be a little silly now, but once she is older she will respect you being kind to her, and listening to her - even if she is being silly! - its something you learn as you grow, so dont pressure yourself too much.