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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
December 16th, 2017 9:03pm
Find commonground beyond being family. Get to know her. Find reasons to be grateful for having her and write them down for days when she gets on your nerves.
Identify what makes you feel negative emotions towards your sister and see what can be done to resolve them. Conflicts are resolved through listening, understanding and compromise so be open and honest in your communications to ensure a healthy relationship is built
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 6:16pm
The best way to figure that out is to have a serious sit down talk with her, you, and your parents. Sort of like an intervention and to clear up why you feel this way.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2018 10:36am
I think you need to ask why you hate your sister, maybe make a list of the reasons. Work through them, see if any of them have a solution that you can action right now. If there is any like that, go ahead and do them. If they are all things that will take more time, break them into steps. So maybe she frequently borrows your clothing without asking? First step could be to try and explain to her how it makes you feel. Maybe come to an arrangement with her where once a week, she can borrow a different thing, as long as she asks. Or if you aren't ok with that, then you could work on setting ground rules. If they're more complex reasons, maybe talk to a parent for some guidance on ways to work through this. Good luck!
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 3:06pm
Siblings can be tough and annoying. It’s best to put yourself in their shoes. I know from being one, younger sisters look up to their older siblings and enjoy being around them because they identify with them, even if that’s not always obvious. They can get on your nerves and be rude because they probably haven’t matured as much yet, which is fine, we were all that young once. Be patient with her but also understand when it’s time to take some time for yourself and try to communicate that to her as well. Maybe just let her know you need some time for yourself- this would teach her a lot about empathy and respect.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 12:36pm
Try to understand her more. Try to think how would you feel if your older sibling hated you. If she's little she has no experience and therefore you shouldn't be so harsh.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 2:26pm
Sit and talk to her and find a common interest and participate in something which is fun for both of you. Sit and talk about any problems which you both may hvae to overcome any problems
Vow to protect her, no matter the cost. You will find you love whoever you are willing to die for. Protect her from bad relationships, bad people, bad experiences, anything that would hurt her. If you fight, be the first to apologize, whether you started it or not. Also, find something nice to do for her as often as possible, and smile at her often.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2018 5:23am
Well, you should find common ground with her and see if there is anything that interest both of you so it can spark a conversation that can lead you to understand your sister better.
When I was younger I despised my sister. We shared a room and although she was two years younger than me, she was physically stronger than me and would often push me over and physically "assault" me so of course I grew to hate her. Over time, as we have both gotten older and I have become wiser, I have learnt to be more passionate towards her and grown to love each other more. As you get older, you become more aware of right and wrongs and I feel you become more empathetic towards others!
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2018 11:03pm
I have a little sister, and I understand how annoying they can be. But in the end, this hate will get you nowhere. Find common ground with your sister and don't use your energy on hating them! Understand they are younger and most likely still learning.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 5:46am
I need to learn to stop hitting my little sister is to understand why and what it is that causes me to hate which for one I could never understand why I would hate her in the first place having a sister should be more of love and acceptance yes there is always misunderstandings yes there is always miscommunications. But in all reality it's learning to recognize when a sister is trying to reach out to her older brother or sister
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 7:07pm
Form a better relation with her. Try understanding her better, and generally knowing her perspective.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 3:58am
Sibling rivalry is not uncommon, in fact everybody had it sometime in there lives. But guaranteed if your sister ever needed you you be there. There will come a time when you both need each other for any reason, just because you hate her it don’t mean you don’t love her
Anonymous
April 18th, 2018 10:36pm
You have to think of her as a person. She is in you family especially if she is you own "blood". You should treat her with respect as any other human being. Some times small kind moves may help. You can try spending quality time together and have fun!
There's no reason to hate your younger sibling even though they may be mischievous they're still growing up and learning, try to be a good influence to them by doing good things in front of them and being nice and you'll see a change in her attitude but also important that her parents make sure to raise her right
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 1:25pm
Put yourself in her shoes. List the things you hate about her and asked yourself why is she doing this? Maybe she needs help. Maybe she needs you. Start to initiate conversations with her. Start to engage with her and do more activities with her. Start to discover her and discover yourself more.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 8:40pm
Having siblings can be demanding sometimes. A little sister is a blessing, and what you perceive as annoying might just be a cry for love and attention.
To stop hating your little sister, ask yourself what is it that upsets you the most. Is it something you control or something they control? What is the reason, does it stem from another issue and your sister is the one who is taking the brunt of your problem? Take a step outside of yourself to look with fresh eyes at how both of you interact with each other. Are there any hidden problems? If so, what? Developing these steps may help changes with your perception of how and why there may be a bad relationship.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 2:58am
Try to identify what is triggering the feeling of hatred and get to the root cause of the emotion. Sit down and talk it through with someone you trust or your family members.
In the midst of an argument, it can be helpful to take a breath and think calmly about the situation. The most helpful method to looking at the situation from a non-bias perspective is to place yourself in your little sister's shoes, and think about what emotions she may be experiencing. Children have wild and unpredictable emotions, and are usually sensitive to changes around them.
Take a moment and ask yourself why you hate your little sister, and write a list. Once you finish that list, go over and justify those reasons.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 5:24pm
There is no magical solution to this. Instead, your best option would ikely be seeing a therapist and exploring what is leading you to hate your little sister.
Younger siblings can really cramp our style! ;) They can be annoying but I would like to try a little game. Can you name some of the most annoying things she does? The catch is, for every thing you name that you hate you have to name on e thing that you love about her. Ready? Go!
Just start by respecting and listening to her. You don't necessarily need to like her at first - give it time. Respect is the foundation to everything. Understand that she is your sister, part of your family and deserves your respect. Try to put yourself in her shoes. Try making an effort to be kind and calm. Spend time with her - play board games, or do braid her hair or take her out for ice-cream. Ask her questions, treat her like an adult. You'll find your hatred slowly disappearing.
Little sisters will ALWAYS be little sisters! I should know. I am one of them. With the age gap, your interests differ. Try to find common ground and do something you like together. It will help build the bond back up.
By simply accepting that they are your siblings can help you love them more. Think of the time they first learned your name. Think of the happy moments u have spent with them.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 12:08pm
Try to see positive things in her. Try to support her and may be that result in love. With the help of your parents try to spend time with each other and understand her. The family bonding creates compassion.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2018 3:45pm
1) Know that she is simply...born, and didnt ask to be born...and not to hold it against her that she is part of your family.
2) Know that she loves you very much, or respects you...thinks the world of you...really, you are her hero/heroine. She unconditionally, genuinely likes you.
3) She will be the person who cries with you, hug you and console you when dad/mom pass away. And even though she is hurting...she will make sure, you hurt less, and always seek to address your needs first, before her own needs. (even if hugging you is awkward to her.)
Maybe you can talk to her and get to know her more and hang out with her to understand what she likes and to know more about her
Well, many ways you can try not to hating your sister. Try and see if she adores you in things you do as a big sister. Communicate with her and share how you feel also. Maybe include her on some things you do.
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