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How to stop hating your little sister?

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Last Updated: 05/10/2023 at 7:26am
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Anonymous
July 8th, 2020 4:16am
I found it best to embrace the fact that they are your little sister. They are going to be annoying. You are going to hate them at times, but I find it best to just accept it. Try to do something you both like together. It can be frustrating, but it can help. I also find it helps when they are starting to make you mad, tell them they are, and to take a step back for a little. I know little sisters are annoying, and sometimes we hate them, but at the same time they are family and you love them.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2020 9:48am
Reflect on what is making you feel this way, your sister's actions could be based on something she is having a hard time with. Is it worth finding out, spending more time with her to figure out exactly what is making you feel this way? As well as recognizing her intentions and what would make you feel better? Is there support that you could offer to this person and if so how would you go about it. At the end of the day, this is your family, you don't get to choose your family, so finding common ground can help.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2020 9:00pm
Try to list the positive qualities of hers and talk about your relationship out with her. See where the source of hate comes from and see if you are doing anything toxic to her or if she is the toxic one. If you both are toxic to each other, then you should try having a calm conversation with her about it. Also, depending on your age, it is kind of common to have a lot of sibling hate in teen years since in those years, you are developing as a human. Try journaling out your feelings and try being calm instead of hating on your sister in front of her since it can impact her mental health Hope this helped xx
Empatheticcounsellor1
July 17th, 2020 2:15pm
Think about the reason which makes you feel that way? Is there anyway you can change it. For example, talking with her about it so that she will know. Who knows, you two might find a way to compromise each other. You can talk with your parents or family about the issue by having peaceful talk. One great way to fight the hate is love and gratefulness. Writing or saying things you are grateful about her might help too. Like, I feel thankful that she is here, she is good at that and so on. I don’t know the exact situation but Hope these are helpful.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2020 7:05pm
In a lot of situations, there are reasons and feelings behind hating someone. Some of the reasons can be conscious, but others can also be subconscious feelings. These feelings could be jealousy, hurt, pain, anger, mistrust, and so forth. Specifically regarding the situation of hating your little sister, the first step to take would be understanding why you hate her. Tackling those feelings will help get to the next step. After understanding why you hate her, try to see through her eyes. Empathizing with her might help you understand her better. Additionally, having an open conversation with her about both of your feelings can lead to creating resolutions. Sometimes, compromise is necessary in these situations (e.g. letting the little sister watch t.v. for 10 minutes of your time so she can finish your show). Overall, these are probably the most essential steps to take in order to stop hating your little sister.
CEEJay101
August 9th, 2020 5:06am
First of all, take a deep breath. She made you feel mad, maybe even furious. It is totally okay to feel angered by a little sibling. And everyone fights with their siblings at one time or another! Why exactly are you mad at her? What did she do to make you feel this way? Is there anything that you can do that can make your relationship better? Is there anything she can do that can make it better? Can you talk it through with her and come to an agreement? You know your situation the best, and you are the only one who can fix it. Just breath!
ingeniousBeauty4518
September 9th, 2020 9:58pm
to stop hating your little sister is to remember you are someone she looks up to a lot. Even if she seems so so annoying at times, she only wants to be like you and sees you as her role model. if something was to ever happen to her i’m sure you’d be devastated and tomorrow is never promised so cherish moments you have with your family even if they get on your last nerves all the time. because in the end of the day i’m sure you love them dearly and would be heartbroken without them! she probably just wants to be closer friends!
Anonymous
October 17th, 2020 12:46pm
Ask yourself a question, why do you hate her , if required talk to your parents about it , maybe you will find your answer , ask yourself the reason ,why is it that you feel uncomfortable with your sister , try spending some time alone , it's normal for siblings to fight and get annoyed by each other , but you should not forget about the love , no one can love you like your own sibling do , as you mentioned that you hate your little sister , try spending some more time with her , neglect all her mischiefs , laugh along her , talk to her about how you are getting annoyed by her , try building a healthy relation
Anonymous
November 4th, 2020 12:49am
Oh I’m been there. Just wishing they would stop. But you need to learn to love them. Cause no one in this entire universe is perfect. They may bring you to the verge of eruption of madness but at some point you will need to forgive and to accept what has been, with what is now. So for those who don’t have siblings see those around you as family cause we are all human beings and we all deserve respect and forgiveness. Hate people say is a strong word and when hating someone even being our little sister we must learn to let go and bring ourselves to peace. Well that’s what I got. I hope you can make amends with your sister. :)
Anonymous
November 19th, 2020 2:11am
Little siblings can be a heck of an annoyance sometimes. I can't tell if you're talking about a child sibling or an adult sibling, Because dealing with each are way different. Little siblings are obnoxious and unmanageable sometimes and at times the only thing to do would be to remove yourself from the situation enough to get rid of the negative emotions. If this means spending all the time she's awake in your room, so be it. If this is an adult sibling, it might be best to take a break from any conflict and resort to the "silent treatment" until things cool off
lovelyDog8800
December 2nd, 2020 11:54pm
hating is something strong a deep emotion changing the world hate with anything else is good sign. okay why you don't love her you get jealous from her if you don't then why you can treat her better or stop fighting with her you can't tell her why she is like that if she is treat you bad or make fun of you tell parents to solve the problem more better than me they would understand you more than i did or just be normal don't make any problems that can make you fight about something selly or try to keep distance
Anonymous
December 20th, 2020 11:17am
consider her as your own little child as an elder. try to forgive her mistakes. try to control your anger towards her and be sympathetic. in a fight, show patience and behave as a sensible person instead of shouting at her. help her in her tasks. be friendly with her. give time to her and engage in mutual fun activities so you can get more closer. children learn from elders. if we behave and show some maturity and empathy, it will vividly affect her too. our mind will be surely at peace when there will be no arguments at home.
mygirlliddy
March 14th, 2021 3:42pm
See her as a person. A person with her own struggles, fears, anxieties, irrationalities and flaws. I'm sure you have someone in your life whose actions you excuse because you love them. Try applying the same thing to your sister. She's just a person. And she's YOUR little sister. Give her some love, a little bit of understanding, and she will open up too. Have honest convos with her as of to why she irritates you. Be open to listening to what she has to say as well. Be kind, be gentle - y'all are family. Family is tough, but it's beautiful when in harmony.
watermelonsugar14
April 3rd, 2021 8:03am
hi i have had that problem for a period of time and everytime i thought its *she* that makes me feel bad about her,i mean her behavior . then i tried to understand her ,talked to her and tried to rebuild our relationship again as siblings .then i realized that she always felt worthless around me so she treated me so badly . I talked to her about the age difference between us and tried to convince her that she will be a great girl in my age too . A ll i wanna say is try to understand her . Try to talk to her and then you will love her and she will love you too . :))
AtroubledOtaku
April 29th, 2021 5:55am
Remember that in 10+ years they may feel embarrassed about how they behaved, some aspects of life exist at a minimum age, you can't get mad at someone's lack of world knowledge or common sense at 5-7, they haven't yet experienced enough to have a basis. alternatively, finding a mutual hobby helps build bonds, but the more personal and true the hobby is, the deeper it can be. Understand that as the older sibling, you likely know more then them. so it's up to you to bridge the gap. if you wish to stop hating your little sister, change your perception of them. Hate is a decision you are making. if you don't like something they do, try to understand what that is and why they do it. are they a very young kid,(4-5) acting like a goblin? then endure! as they experience life, they will calm down in a year or two. are they much older, in their teens? then help them understand who they are, and what they enjoy. You may find more in common than you think.
Trinisu
May 23rd, 2021 12:41am
I believe the first step is to correctly identify what you are actually feeling and what is triggering it. Hate is a very strong emotion, and similar to love, it is very often confused with other strong emotions such as resentment. It is at times common for an older sibling to resent a younger one because they usually preceed changes in what was once a comfortable family structure. A younger siblings may command most of a parents' attention; they may also bring added responsibilities to an older siblings' life; and because of an adults natural tendency to protect the youngest, the older sibling may find themselves being unfairly disciplined when the younger sibling cries out. recognizing these triggers can help you focus yur emotion on the situation rather than on the person. Think in terms of I dislike it when...
Purplebalance
June 2nd, 2021 5:30pm
I've learned over my years with my little sister that I need to accept her for who she is, it's tough at times because we are completely different people. When I'm with her, I try to remain in the present moment without any judgements towards her or myself. If I find myself frustrated, I return to the present moment by focusing on my breathing then allowing outside sounds into my awareness. Self-awareness is important, especially when we're around those who we find challenging. I also find loving-kindness meditations helpful. We don't always have to like everyone we come in contact with including family members, allowing yourself some space around that is ok. It's important to ask yourself what exactly does hate mean to you? Do you dislike her as a person or is it her behaviour? Do your parents treat her differently than you? Exploring these types of questions can lead to revelations that may help you resolve the feelings you're having.
eLucae
June 3rd, 2021 8:06pm
If your little sister is annoying you by trying to get close to you, or be with you at all times, you shouldn't be annoyed. I understand siblings can be overwhelming to the point where your emotions towards them are mainly just anger. If what you're feeling is jealousy, jealousy that she is getting more attention, take a bit of time to talk about it with your parents. Recognize that little sisters may get more attention, but you receive more trust from your parents. I'm sorry you feel a bit of grief from your sister. But try to look at it from someone else's view.
lavacake
September 8th, 2021 10:32am
If it is due to toxic behaviour, remove yourself from her vicinity and surround yourself with positive influences. If she is actively being a terrible person to you or just in general, call her out on her behaviour. You are the older sibling and have the opportunity in the sibling dynamic to address this. If it is out of envy, focus less on her and more on what you are, what good you bring to the table. Trying to be the better person is a struggle but is a noble goal - better yourself through good social connections, good habits, good outlooks on life. It leaves a lot less room for hate in your life.
Anonymous
September 16th, 2021 5:53am
Many people hold rivalries with their siblings, and it can seem especially hard to get along with your younger sibling. They seem to follow you everywhere, want whatever you want, and do whatever you do. Try putting yourself into your sister's shoes. She may just really look up to you and admire you. And although this can feel a bit annoying at times, she probably means no harm. I went through a similar experience with my younger sister, but now that we have both aged and become our own people, we get along much better now. This may just be a temporary thing you need to wait out and try being compassionate in the meantime. Instead of pushing her away, spend some time with her.
supersensitiveStrength
November 26th, 2021 5:42pm
Figure out what is it that you hate about her. Is it something she does or says? Or the way she does or says it? Is it how she affects how you spend your time? Your focus? Is it how she affects your relationships with people, particularly your parents? Is it something she reminds you of? Maybe someone who looks, acts, or affects you, your time/focus, or your relationships in a similar way as she does? Is it more than one of these things? Does she simply happen to be in the same place at the same time or immediately after when you've entered a bad mood? Notice these things. How to stop hating her depends on why you hate her. If you hate her because she reminds you of something or someone, you could try getting to know her and finding her quirks that separate her from what frustrating thing or person she reminds you of. If you hate her because your parents don't pay attention to you as much, talk to your parents about making you feel included, or befriend other people who are older siblings. If you hate her because of something she does or the way she does it, see if it's something she can change at that point in time; if not, limit your time with her when you're impatient and try to get to know her when you're feeling a bit better. And so on and so forth.
Shininggrace1244
February 15th, 2022 3:30pm
I think this needs a bit of reflection first. Why you hate your little sister? Ask yourself and see what comes up. Don't judge it as good or bad. Just listen and be curious. Once you have some ideas for the reasons you hate your sister, then there are safe ways to release your hatred. You are not a bad person for hating anyone. Hatred is welcome just like every other feeling. It can be expressed so that its charge is released. All emotions need to be expressed and then released. I wouldn't advise talking to your little sister at this stage as she probably cannot engage in a rational, mature, adult to adult dialog, unless she is over 18. The question phrases it as she is quite young. So I am going by this interpretation of the question.
Anonymous
March 19th, 2022 6:12am
Try to empathize with her. What is it that makes you dislike her? Is it her attitude? Sometimes when you grow older, you tend to forget how emotionally immature you were at a younger age, leading to disapproval when you see a younger kid doing something embarrassing, annoying, and/or offensive. It's also a good idea to communicate if you are comfortable. Asking your sister to stop doing some things that might make you irritated or reaching a compromise on when it's appropriate to do some things is a good way to reach mutual trust and agreement. Reaching out for help to solve this problem is already a sign that you want to improve your relationship with her, keep it up!
Anonymous
March 19th, 2022 3:47pm
I hope that you don’t actually hate your little sister, just dislike her, because you will be together for a long time! Anyway, try to look for the good things about her! If you don’t see any, just try harder. You should try little things like binge watching a Netflix movie with you to try and get closer with her. Maybe go shopping with her or get her some of her favorite things! She might start to do it back to you and you guys will form a stronger relationship with each other! Have her know that she can trust you and you guys will stop “hating” each other. Now granted you will still fight from time to time, but try your best not to❤️
hope8787
March 30th, 2022 5:48am
My sister and I struggled to get along when we were younger but we became each other's best friends as we grew up. I think it is important to take the time to understand that you are both growing up and changing a lot! You are both just finding out who you are and it can be annoying sometimes but at the end of the day, you will always have each other's back! Also, cherish every moment you have with people as you never know when it may be the last so continue to love your little sister even when she is annoying you!
Anonymous
April 6th, 2022 3:15am
I don’t know your situation so I can’t help too much, but I can say that you could try to identify the root of your hatred and find a way to solve it from there. Relationships with sibling can be difficult but often irreplaceable, and because you have probably shared similar events in your lives it can be both difficult and important to talk with them. Hatred for siblings often comes from a root of jealously or something they did. Once you find what it is, you can discuss it with them or others to try to help you.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2022 4:26am
As someone with multiple sisters, feelings of resentment toward your sibling can be a regular reoccurrence at times. In instances where I feel that I "hate" my sister, what helps me is to reflect on whether I actually do hate her and whether my resentment is something I predict will hinder my relationship with her in the future. Thus, I try to pinpoint what exact event triggered my resentment toward my sister so that I can determine the main cause of my negative feelings. With that, I then try-and often ask my sister to do so too-to come up with a solution to mend our relationship.
GoodListener1956
June 15th, 2022 2:52pm
When I Sister was born, I was seven years old already. My thought at the time was that of disappointment that I couldn't interact with her in a playful way. In other words, she was just 'there'. I loved her and worried that she was going to safe. After a couple of years, my Sister would interfere with my 'run if the house' and was a distraction when my friends would come over. As my Sister got older, we became closer as a result of issues happening within our family unit. We worked together to solve problems and became more aware of the importance of family togetherness and well-being
Anonymous
May 10th, 2023 7:26am
By showing love. By showing respect. By bonding with each other. By spending time, with each other. By agreeing to disagree. By setting aside any and all differences, that you might have. By valuing each other's time. By trying to just get along. By forgiving each other. By not fighting with each other. I feel if you do those things, that I mention and also add any other things that might be helpful, you could see the end of hating your little sister. I hope this is helpful. I would like to add one more thing, and that is: Make better choices. You can choose to hate your little sister. But you can also choose not to. So, remember that.