How to stop hating your mother?

Usually, hatred arises when two people do not communicate effectively and misunderstanding feeds on it. In your situation, the reason for the hatred is not explained in the question so giving an answer is difficult.

Mother is the one who gave you life and cared for you and even the worst mother deserves respect and care. This is something really basic for any human. Have you considered some therapy?

It's hard, but remeber to forgive but not forget. Think of the positives with her. Also you can look up more ideas online and get help specific to your situation.

Think of the things she has done for you, If your mother has not done anything for you or is abusive towards you think of ways to live your life and be more successful without her

Take a step back and see why you hate her. Analyse the root of the issue. Then judge whether it's okay to hate her or not. The rest will follow.

Learn to let go of the feelings you attach to her behaviours and try to understand why she behaves that way. Practice compassion towards her where possible

Wow! Hate is a strong word. First I would suggest for you to consider if hate is the correct vocabulary for what you are feeling. We all have mothers. Some of us are luckier than others, however, a mothers job is not to be her child’s best friend. With that said, a mother job is also not to harm or restrict her child from living their best life. In my opinion, and I take my role as a mother seriously, is to guide, coach and teach her child skills needed to navigate with ease in this world of chaos. The great news is, that once you reach adult age, you have a choice. You can choose to live completely independent from your mother. Of course this is not always an easy choice, due to the fact that many adult children rely on their parents financial support until their early twenties. Especially if further education is paid for by the parent. Therefore you may decide to continue to be respectful and bite your tongue during these years. It’s when you have the capability to rely solely on yourself and cut the cords with people who no longer serve your best interest. I am not saying to cut all ties, just to recognize your own power to choose who plays a key role in your life story and who is more of a supporting, background character. I also love the term, keep your friends close and your enemies closer as well as, bless their heart. Always choose love and kindness over revenge. Loving yourself first is revenge that serves both purposes. Best of luck!

Think of all the things she has done for you, from going through the pain of giving birth to you to providing for you, Once upon a time, you loved your mother.

Put yourself in her shoes,try to give her a chance,do things for her,make her happy..talk to her..open up to her :)

Having strong feelings of dislike to a family member is completely fine. If distancing yourself from her is going to help YOU, then by all means don't stop yourself. Don't put yourself through forgiving someone who doesn't deserve to be forgiven.

I have found that reminding myself hating only makes my heart heavier keeps me from having ill will towards anyone. Also doing meditations specifically geared towards mindful forgiveness and compassion has helped me a ton!

This is a subjective and loaded question, people develop many reasons as to why they dislike or even hate their mother; some are good, some bad. You may feel stressed, or even betrayed by her whether it be by something like a rude demeanor or even having left their children at a young age. You may have even tried to talk and compromise with her in order to stop these feelings, to no avail. Whatever the reason, these feelings have boiled in you overtime and have most likely interfered with your daily life. And that's the problem, it's YOUR life. You don't have to ignore the reasons as to why you feel this way, why you feel anger or spite. You can, however, forgive. You don't have to forgive the things she's done per se, only let go of them and move on. You owe it to yourself. Perhaps with time, love, and professional help, you can also love her again.

Depending on the circumstances we all carry hate and blame and put it on somebody else. It's important to love our family and especially our mothers. Talking out an issue and taking time to do that regularly is important

Your mother is the reason you are alive, she went through 9 tough months and you need to appreciate her and be grateful. Its the first step you can take to stop hating her. Mothers can be annoying sometimes but despite that it doesn't take away who they really are. God put her in your life for a reason and hating your mother only pushes you away from her. Imagine how you would feel knowing your child hates you, it would tear you apart. Put yourself in your mum's shoes and imagine how she would be feeling. Its easier to understand and stop when you put yourself in her shoes. You realise what you are actually doing and it you see how wrong it is. It pushes you to stop Mothers are a blessing. Love yours no matter how good or bad she is

Start by setting aside your differences &talking to her about your problems. Try to work things out!

Try and see the good in her, maybe look at things from a new perspective. Take a walk in her shoes. Maybe try to find things you have in common, try every day to be nicer to each other, no matter the circumstance. Kindness goes a long way. I understand all of this is a lot easier said than done but all you can do is try your best. Your mother will see the effort your putting in and hopefully put some in herself, at the least she will appreciate that you are trying. I hope this helps, best of luck to you!

Change the way you think, dont be judgmental, ask yourself why is she doing what she's doing? Is it maybe because shes looking for the best for me?

First of all you need to know why you hate her, then try to find a way to get around those things or fix them. Try talking to her or get your siblings or father to talk with her about your feelings. Hope that helps!

1) realize that Mom is older than you are and be compassionate towards her 2) know that (while in some families it is not true but more commonly) you are the most important person in her life and while she may not know how to always provide for your needs, you loves you most 3) have a chat with her...and try to iron things out, it might work? 4) be patient and honest with her too 5) manage (your own) expectations and be aware Mom isnt deity and cannot wave any wand and make things magically appear 6) she may not always be around (everyone has a time to 'go') and while she is still alive...cherish her. 7) do not hold it against her. Listing one bad point about her is allowed..WHILE listing 3 other good points. Focus on the 3 good points, and less on the one point. 8) If Mom imposes expectations know that she is human and makes mistakes too (mistakes like...trying to impose). 9) You came to this world with an umbilical cord...and without a manual attached. Mom does not always have the answers..or know the best methods. Forgiving is hard but can be done...and hating can be done for a while but overtime...burns a hole even in yourself too....take care!

Need to learn to understand that the way she is acting has a reason, she sees things differently...she has hurt me so much, and I have to let go off the hurt and feel better myself and only then I can stop hating her

Figure out the reason for why you hate your mother. You can't change who and how your mom is. So, better change yourself to keep yourself happy.. and one thing... never hate anyone.. you aren't going to get anything thinking something bad about someone :)

This is hard to tell without knowing why you hate her. I would say take these reasons and question them if they are really justified. Let's for example say if she is too strict then even if it might be annoying for you at times it is only cause she wants the best for you. You should try to also make a list of things why you are thankful for you mother, which good things she does for you. Imagine her gone. It might seem chill for a moment but why would you be sad and missing her? We often only value people and things just when it's too late. Prevent that for yourself.

I realized that their parents didn’t give them all that they needed. I saw that they were just trying their best and they were human like me, which meant that they had flaws and made mistakes. I saw that they were every bit as lost as most of us are at times, because life has no guidebook. I saw the little child within them. As I started to forgive them, I became warmer toward them and appreciated them more. I started to say “I love you” to them, and surprisingly my dad started to say it back. He had never really said it to me before.

Gratitude and forgiveness. Parent/child relationships are often complex, filled with ups and downs. Sometimes it feels like there were more downs than ups. There might have very well been more downs than ups, but to move forward and improve our relationships we have to acknowledge and celebrate those ups. Give your mother the benefit of the doubt. Believe that she always did the best she was able. Be grateful for what she gave you and the good times you shared, and let go of your right to hold a grudge against her for that laundry list of ways she hurt you. This could take a long time, and certainly a lot of effort, but it could very well be worth it if you want to have a better relationship with your mother.

If you want to stop hating your mother. You have to appreciate her. If you want to appreciate her ...you've got to realise that she sacrificed her body to give you comfort when you were a fetus. If you want to stop hating your mother. Learn to love your mother. When we hate somebody it's usually a reflection of an aspect of our character that we don't like. Try and find common ground with her. She's your mother and you seem to want to improve your relationship with her. Try as use SMART tips to improve your relationship.

Remember your mother is the one who gave you life, her love for you is something that cannot be replaced!

Learn more about her; her past, childhood, and struggles. Gleaning a sense of what she's gone through and the experiences she's had will help to better understand her and why she is the way she is. Forgiving her even if she doesn't ever apologize or even know how she's hurt you. Seeing her as a flawed human being who may be thinking and feeling a lot that you don't know about. Writing her a letter that you can either share or not share with her. Hearing about her past can also possibly show what you two hold in common. Laughing at some behaviors instead of holding anger and resentment feelings.

Hate is a strong emotion to have towards another person. It must be difficult not having positive feelings towards your mother. One must evaluate the relationship and determine the cause of the emotion and seek out an opportunity to mend the relationship or build it depending on what the circumstances are around the emotion or strain on the relationship. My relationship with my mother is not optimal and I must learn to take the initiative to build the relationship with her even though my first instinct is to cut off communication. Relationships are difficult and we must practice building positive relationships in our lives.

Focus on the positive, the good qualities that you love about your mother. Every one of us has a beautiful soul and a a loving heart. Maybe do things that she likes and you can enjoy together. Try to forgive yourself for the feelings of hate towards her. Loving her unconditionally, no matter what. Sometimes that can be difficult, but your mother loves you and wants the best for you even through hardships. Is it something specific she says or does to make you hate her. Maybe try and tell her if you can what makes you uncomfortable.

The first step would be to identify the reasons you think you hate your mother. It might help to actually make a list. Then be really honest with yourself. Remember, this is just for you. Are all the reasons fair? Are there things on your list that might not have been her fault? If so, mark those things off and let them go. Next, think hard on the things that are left. Can you forgive them? Forgiveness is not about the other person, but about freeing ourselves from negative emotions. Forgiveness is also a journey. It is usually not as simple as saying “I forgive you.” It is a conscious decision we have to make over and over again.