I hate my family and want to move out right when I turn 18... is that okay?
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Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 5:29pm
Moving away from home is a big change, it's important to make sure you're making such a big change for the right reasons.
I don't know what they've done, but nonetheless, that's completely fine. You're not indebted to someone just because they're your family. Respect, trust and love are earned, and if they haven't shown you that then you are free to do as you wish. You are your own person. Stay safe and good luck.
That's completely okay! Moving out after becoming a legal adult isn't as uncommon as one would think and I know many people who have and live much better lives. It all depends on your relationship with your family, but if you feel like you'd be happier that way by all means do so!
It's always important to understand why you "hate" your family. Of course there are good reasons, but it could just be that you are having a bad day. It's always important to reevaluate your decisions (especially large ones) before making them by talking to someone. If you really feel that it's what's best for you, tell a friend or someone on 7 cups and get their ideas about the situation. If it's truly best then make sure you plan ahead.
It's never ok to feel as if you are trapped and hate your family. Moving out when you turn 18 is perfectly fine. It is important to have a plan when you decide to move out.
Just because you're related to someone, doesn't mean you have to like them. You can like someone and still dislike being around them too. Just make sure you're prepared to move out and can support yourself when you turn 18
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 5:09pm
I understand hating your family- whatever reason it is, you need to do what makes you happy. If you can reasonably move out and have the financial means to take care of yourself and make a living, then that's okay. Make sure you're doing everything you need to to take care of yourself and stay safe and healthy.
Yes, I feel the same way often, it is 100% okay to feel that way if they treat you wrong and make you feel unwanted.
It is okay. But think.. Why do you hate your family ? Can you do something to change your relationship? And if you want to move so bad. Will you be happier if you moveD?
Moving out is a definite possibility. Being independent and taking responsibility for ones self can be very rewarding. But no person is an island. Eventually everyone needs some form of help. And maintaining a good relationship with family can make those times of need feel like nothing at all.
I think that is perfectly okay. In fact some say the key to mental health is to distance ourselves from our parents lol (Frasier quote) - and from personal experience, I totally would too, if I had the money... So if you can, I wish you all the best.
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2016 5:14pm
i dont think there is anything wrong with moving out if you are able too, dont put yourself in a bad situation to get out of another one , it can be really stressful
Its perfectly normal. Your own life, own opinions, own style. If you hate them, you hate them. If you want to move out, you can. You don't need to feel ashamed or embarrassed
That's definitely ok, some people just don't get along with their families - and moving out at 18 is perfectly normal.
Yes it is ok but you might want to make amends with them and think about why you hate them so much.
Personally, I would try talking to your parents about what makes you want to move out.
How you are feeling, and what you would like to change in your relationship to make it a more positive one.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2019 6:49am
Is there a reason why you hate your family? Why do you want to move out at this ahe? Have you tried talking to them about what is going on? Have they done anything to hurt you physically or mentally? Have you done anything to them to make you feel like you have to leave? Your choice is your choice but you should talk to your family about it. They might not hate you, some people have trpunles showing emotions sometimes. Don’t be worried about it to much. Just talk to them and I’m sure they will understand everything that has been going on for you.
Your emotions are most valid. However it might be important to work through the reasons in which you want to move out, and weigh the pros and cons as moving out is not an easy feat! For your sanity in the current moment (assuming you're not 18 yet and still have to live with your family), what are the reasons in which you feel you hate your family and what steps have you done to try to resolve them? For example, have you set up a meeting with them to talk to them about your concerns? What are their responses like? Is there anyone who can help you mediate the conversation? Perhaps a mental health professional could help you with communication tips. It's ok to feel what you're feeling, and there are a few ways that can help get you through your situation :)
If you feel like you're ready to live alone then yes. Sometimes it takes a little distance to understander how to love your family right.
That's completely okay! As long as you can support yourself, there is no problem with leaving the nest right away.
I moved out of the family home when I was 15 and I was on the streets for a year before I was housed. I wish I had put something in place before I moved out but everyone's experience's are different am not sure why you would like to move out but am sure that you can get help to get rehomed if that is what you are looking for
Well, it depends on the case of course. The good thing of a family is that it will always be there. But that's the bad side too!
I believe it is wise to learn how to preserve relationships along our life. The way is always to try to stand in other people's shoes. Not easy, but there is no way to keep long term relationships without doing that.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 11:01am
Wanting to move out is perfectly normal. If you feel like you hate your family, maybe you should talk it through with them to find out what's going on
Yes it is very understandable to want to move away when they no longer help you.
It will be hard to do but, it can be done and the more you want it the harder you will be willing to work for it.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 3:14pm
It is normal for you to want to be more distant from your family. You just need a bit of privacy at times.
you wouldn't be considered as a bad person if you actually are not happy where you are right now, and if your family is giving you enough reasons to be hated then it'll be unhealthy for you to keep blaming yourself
It's wonderful to move out because you become independent but don't it for the wrong reasons, you should try to figure out why you feel hatred toward you family and talk to them about your feelings, work things out with them, so you can enjoy them while they are still here and have good memories. Hatred is not good for your heart.
Dont hate your family.If you want to move out make sure you have a plan.Like a job,place to stay,etc.
Totally okay. Age 18 is the appropriate age for people to move out. You can also meet better people.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 9:44am
Wanting distance from your family is completely understandable and normal. Talking with your family about how you feel might help with some of these feelings.
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