I hate my family and want to move out right when I turn 18... is that okay?
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Well it depends on the independent and responsibility of the person. The question is do you have a plan that will allow you to be independent and responsible? Will you be able to provide to yourself the necessities of life?
yes it is, you are an adult and you can make that choice,
but its really up you, cause everyone is different
Dont hate your family.If you want to move out make sure you have a plan.Like a job,place to stay,etc.
It's wonderful to move out because you become independent but don't it for the wrong reasons, you should try to figure out why you feel hatred toward you family and talk to them about your feelings, work things out with them, so you can enjoy them while they are still here and have good memories. Hatred is not good for your heart.
you wouldn't be considered as a bad person if you actually are not happy where you are right now, and if your family is giving you enough reasons to be hated then it'll be unhealthy for you to keep blaming yourself
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 3:14pm
It is normal for you to want to be more distant from your family. You just need a bit of privacy at times.
Yes it is very understandable to want to move away when they no longer help you.
It will be hard to do but, it can be done and the more you want it the harder you will be willing to work for it.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 11:01am
Wanting to move out is perfectly normal. If you feel like you hate your family, maybe you should talk it through with them to find out what's going on
Well, it depends on the case of course. The good thing of a family is that it will always be there. But that's the bad side too!
I believe it is wise to learn how to preserve relationships along our life. The way is always to try to stand in other people's shoes. Not easy, but there is no way to keep long term relationships without doing that.
I moved out of the family home when I was 15 and I was on the streets for a year before I was housed. I wish I had put something in place before I moved out but everyone's experience's are different am not sure why you would like to move out but am sure that you can get help to get rehomed if that is what you are looking for
That's completely okay! As long as you can support yourself, there is no problem with leaving the nest right away.
If you feel like you're ready to live alone then yes. Sometimes it takes a little distance to understander how to love your family right.
Your emotions are most valid. However it might be important to work through the reasons in which you want to move out, and weigh the pros and cons as moving out is not an easy feat! For your sanity in the current moment (assuming you're not 18 yet and still have to live with your family), what are the reasons in which you feel you hate your family and what steps have you done to try to resolve them? For example, have you set up a meeting with them to talk to them about your concerns? What are their responses like? Is there anyone who can help you mediate the conversation? Perhaps a mental health professional could help you with communication tips. It's ok to feel what you're feeling, and there are a few ways that can help get you through your situation :)
Anonymous
January 29th, 2019 6:49am
Is there a reason why you hate your family? Why do you want to move out at this ahe? Have you tried talking to them about what is going on? Have they done anything to hurt you physically or mentally? Have you done anything to them to make you feel like you have to leave? Your choice is your choice but you should talk to your family about it. They might not hate you, some people have trpunles showing emotions sometimes. Don’t be worried about it to much. Just talk to them and I’m sure they will understand everything that has been going on for you.
Yes it is ok but you might want to make amends with them and think about why you hate them so much.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2016 11:47pm
I have to let you know moving out is always easier than it sounds, Make sure you have a job making enough to have an apt and buy food and pay bills. This is difficult if you wish to go to school as well. I had trouble with my family as well but when I lost them fairly young I realized how much I needed them for support and how much they really cared about me. They were annoying and totally didnt get me but some of the things I like most about myself came from how I was raised
I have the same feeling and so does my boyfriend. Yes,it's ok to move out right when u turn 18, but; think about how it'll affect ur life in both good and bad ways
Moving out when you're 18 is perfectly fine. There's nothing wrong about that. If you think you'll struggle moving out then you can maybe seek support from friends or others that would love to help.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 9:43pm
Yes, it is okay if you want to since you'll be an adult, however it brings big responsibility like you now need to fund yourself, get a place to say, make income for food, etc. which for most fresh 18 year olds is very difficult to do.
You don't actually hate your family, hate is a strong word that should not be easily used all the time. Take some time to gather your thoughts and think it through, speak to them and tell them how some things they do or say hurt your feelings or upset you. Do not always assume that your family are mind readers. I used to feel this way when I was your age about moving out, but it was more that I thought they didn't care about me, growing up really showed me how wrong I were. Don't always rely on your temporary emotions :)
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 5:38am
its okay that you are seeking independence :)
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 6:33pm
Sometimes you just need a break from family. Usually once you get away for a little bit you calm down.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2016 1:22am
In my eyes, this is definitely okay. Sometimes family get along much better when they are not living in the same household.
your family is important, never turn your back on family. yes it is okay to move out when you are 18. just remember that you can always count on family to help you get through it. never hate your family because you never know when those you hate will one day die on you. all that hate in your heart will leave you feeling guilty after their death.
i dont think so, no matter how much you hate them you should remember who is the one that always be with you when you have a hard time, and then you should remember to who is the one who help you grow up and pay for anything for you (ex:school). andn when you leave them i dont think that you will not hate your family anymore. you just make your hate grow and grow and then run from reality
Even though I hate my family sometimes too, I realized that your family will always be there for you
Anonymous - Expert in Family Stress
February 9th, 2016 10:11pm
When you're 18, you are an adult. Therefor you have the freedom of choice without parental consent. You don't need to stay if you don't want to, it's up to you. There are a lot of people who move out at this age so there is no need to feel guilty about it.
That is absolutely fine! When you're 18 you're able to move out without parental permission. However when you're 16 you are allowed to move out but only with your parents permission.
so you have to talk to your family about what is annoying you first before you take any step and you have to express your feeling toward actions that lead you to hate them
Yes, the way you feel and moving out at 18 is okay. Launching from the nest/family is an important part of young adulthood and completely normal. Some people live with family until they are married, some until they finish college, some never move out. Then many people do move out at 18,19,20. often people who move out in late teens live together as roommates or college dorms or find jobs with housing.
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