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I hate my family and want to move out right when I turn 18... is that okay?

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Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 2:19pm
You shouldn't be busy making plans right now. Things are rough but its time. When you'll turn 18 and be completly sure, Only then make plans.
ClareBlissfulSoul22
December 12th, 2015 7:36pm
Getting along with our families can be tricky especially, as we grow into our own person and start to develop our own sense of identity, values, who we are and what we want. Some issues may be able to be resolved. Have you tried communicating with your family or friends about these issues? Other issues may be more serious or unresolvable, while you are living at home. Sometimes we notice we can get along with our families better once we have some space. Again other issues may require more distance. This is not a decision worth taking lightly and would require further reflection to figure out what is best for you.
bouncyGrace79
December 13th, 2015 12:23am
Families can be hard sometimes. As long as they are trying to love you, you shouldn't hurt them. You should also think a long time about decisions, you might regret one day. There might be a moment in your life, where you are desperate. Family members can help yo in that cases.
Birdby
December 13th, 2015 12:43am
Perfectly normal (I've been there myself. ) Don't be afraid to move out. Everything will be alright.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 2:49am
Families are hard and wanting to move outs ok but just know that no matter how hard your family will be there when no one else is. Even if it doesn't seem like it.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 2:41pm
You shouldn't hate your family but it depends how they treat you. You have the right to move out when yo want
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 7:33pm
Well, eventually you will /have/ to move out. But if youre planning to move out and never speaking to youre family, then thats not really ok. You should call them once in a while even though they hate you or you hate them.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 11:10pm
If you have a job and can afford a place or know someone else to take you in, hate is a strong word
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 11:20pm
Well, if you are responsible enough and think you can do it, of course you can. Just don't box them out.
WeRhere2help
December 14th, 2015 12:22pm
I sort of did this when I was 13, I left my dad. Never looked back, the point is, however, that if you can support yourself, than 18 is the year to go. But if its not actually you wanting to leave than make sure you don't make a horrible choice.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 12:34am
Yes. We are all people in this world, and there are some other people we don't get along with. Sometimes those people are your family. But keeping an open mind can be beneficial. How you feel might change when you aren't forced to be around them 24/7.
oliverjayy
December 16th, 2015 1:45am
That is okay...However, you have to consider the fact that you will have to pay for a lot of things that you aren't normally used to paying for. Rent, food, internet and other amenities...they all add up and they cost a lot! Even though you may feel like you hate your family, you may still need them for a bit longer to support you for a bit longer until you can get a better foothold. Also, I am sure that your family loves and cares about you a lot, even though they might not show it sometimes :)
shiningCherry13
December 16th, 2015 10:57am
Moving out and becoming more self-reliant is really applaudable. Setting goals and achieving them by ourselves is indeed a wonderful thing, and 18 is indeed a right age to start. But hate should not be the base on which you do this. Try to leave away the hate, and that will add on to your accolades.
freshBreeze57
December 16th, 2015 3:53pm
It's alright to show these emotions, and it's perfectly normal to feel the wanting desire to leave the house when you are 18
TopHattedTeaMan
December 16th, 2015 5:39pm
If you have the stability to do so yes, But you still need to work out and sort out why you "hate" your family, and hopefully resolve the issues as to make you life eaiser.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 9:48pm
It is quite ok to not get along well with someone. Many people think you have to want to be around your family but that is not always the case. For some, being around them is more harmful than good. Ultimately the decision lies with you, but it definitely is OK.
CuddlyOasis98
December 17th, 2015 2:21am
Its is okay but you first try and solve the problem and if that doesn't work then you may move out but consider one thing.. You need a job and you should be able to be independent without any difficulty that means you need an apartment too. Its okay to move out at 18 but do consider all of this. :)
earlgrey9
December 17th, 2015 3:19am
It's okay to feel like you want to get away, families can be really hard and sometimes breaking free and leaving can be the best course of action
warmLove39
December 17th, 2015 6:52am
of course it is. you need to do things which will make YOU happy. it may not be easy but in the end it is your health and well being which matters the most
clh2os
December 17th, 2015 6:04pm
If that is what you think will be best for you, then do it. First think about the implications, do you have financial grounding? Do you have a support system? Sometimes we get lost in the superficial emotions, we forget everything our family provides.
Nakuu
December 18th, 2015 1:44am
This is perfectly reasonable, sometimes being around family can be toxic and moving out might be better. But you should also talk to your family, address what it is that angers you about them. See if you can work over this and maintain a healthy relationship.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 6:09am
You dislike your family and want to move out when you turn 18. Would like to talk about why you want to do this?
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 7:03pm
It is your choice. If this is what you need to do to be happy, then do it. However, understand the consequences. Families are usually great but don't believe that there aren't any exceptions.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 1:55am
That's totally okay! But before you move out, it's important to try and help them understand why you're leaving. Don't be disrespectful or impolite, just be honest with your feelings. Hopefully then, they'll understand you a little bit better and vice versa.
superman02
December 19th, 2015 6:45am
Families squabble all the time but, sometimes those are toxic relationships it is OK to move out on your own path at 18 but, just a little bit of forewarning it is very possible that you may need the help and support of some people during that time and family is sometimes the best source for that.
Swifting
December 20th, 2015 4:56am
While having major disagreements and even "hating" your family can arise while developing it's important to consider your financial situation before you attempt to move out immediately at 18. Can you afford to live on your own? Can you provide yourself the care you need? What are your savings like and what will you do in emergencies? All of these questions are important to figure out if moving out, ever, is feasible to do. While your emotional state may not be good at home it could be worse if you move out and have no means to support yourself.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 4:34pm
Its okay to want to move out but many times its only when you leave home that you realize how privileged you were to live there. I don't know why you hate your family but moving out means your own set of responsibilities - you will have to find a job and pay your own bills, cook and clean and basically take care of yourself. Are you ready for all of that?
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 1:37am
Sure, it's fine to make your own decisions when you grow old. But NEVER neglect your family. They are after all, your pillar of support no matter what happens.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 3:26am
Absolutely! when you turn 18 you're considered and adult, and can move out and anything you basically want to. It's also okay for you to feel this why for your family. However, they are family. You should try to get along with them.
enchantingBeauty26
December 23rd, 2015 3:35am
Im sorry I cant tell you what to do directly. but I am here to listen on why you believe you want to do this.