I hate my family and want to move out right when I turn 18... is that okay?
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no family is everything in this world you should think twice before donig that. whenever threre will be hard times you will only find family on your side.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 1:08pm
no, it is not. At some point in life you are going to need their help. Moving out at 18 is good, the question is " Will you be able to manage on your own?
It is completely okay for you to want to move out. You are the best judge of your situation and if you feel that's what works for you, please go ahead with that. It would be a good idea to consider all the support your family has provided all these years and if you are okay to live without that. Consider all pros and cons before making a decision. Most times, hurting someone who hurt us doesn't make things better or make us feel any good.. Be empathic of the situation and understand what makes you hate them. See if there is a workaround by talking to them. The final decision rests with you.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 11:45pm
It is not okay to treat your family badly, if you do so it may make your situation worse. It is definitely okay to move out when you turn 18, Just make sure you are capable of supporting yourself.
I feel the same way. I think it's normal to feel like that. As teenagers, all we want is freedom, independence, responsibility, and a chance to start over. Hang in there, you'll be 18 soon enough. But also remember that these are the years you can never get back. Take in all of your surroundings and store them in your memory.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 9:10am
Yes it is okay. but for right now you need to find common ground to make a healthy living environment
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 6:48pm
Yes, it is okay. You have all the right to not like your family and you'll have all the right to leave home and start living independently.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 12:36pm
If you are confident tha you can handle things alone and if you are sre that youare ready to start a new life then, yhea it is okay, but be careful, do not leave without being sure you can make it on your own.
Maybe moving out for you will be good to sort out your feelings for your parents. Hopefully, the distance will make you guys appreciate each other more. But ultimately, I think distance will help whatever's going on between you two.
As long as you are 18 and don't need parental guidance it should be fine for you to leave the house. Hopefully the distance will help the relationship you have with your family. But always remember leaving alone has its own obstacles that you will have to face personally.
I do not know the reason behind your hatred for your family, but I hope this hatred you are feeling isn't so strong that it is able to tear you apart - though it seems it is reaching that point. But moving out as soon as you are an adult would depend greatly on if you could handle things on your own. If you think you are ready to do things on your own, then I guess it's time you decide for yourself,
you're just in teen and maybe your hormonal changes make you feel this. Don't feel bad about anything and remember patience is the most powerful weapon of all the time if you have you are the one. If you move out what will you do Is there anything special in you ? don't ruin your future by your thoughts stay there and find a better way and believe me Thinks will work
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 11:50am
Age 18 is the best age because you are legally an adult and you can do what you feel is right for you
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 5:28pm
no, never do that if you do that you will be alone whole life .family is important and you are not mature enough to understand your family contribution towards you
Hating is not healthy ,but if you have the need to be in a new environment its more than ok. Many people tend to be independent and get a job to take care of themselves at that age.
If you want to do that then it’s totally okay and nobody could stop you.. You have to do what is right for YOU.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 3:19pm
You have to think about this a lot. You have to really know what movin out means.
Some people thinks it's okay, some people doesn't
If that is how you feel then it is okay! You don't have to live with them if you don't want to! It's your life :)
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 4:07am
Well, if you are mature enough and can manage your own house, then maybe. But even then, I would just get a small apartment and sleep there on a schedule like every (Saturday and Sunday) and stay at your parents for the rest of the week until you get older, like about 19.
It is all up to you. It is not okay, if you're just going to regret doing that later. Never detach your loved ones, because they will always be there for you.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:39am
If you're in any danger by living with them then you should as long as you have a safe place to go .
Of course it's okay! Whatever you want to do with your life is perfectly okay. However, you might want to think of why you hate them. It could just be puberty making you feel like this (believe it or not), and if it were me I'd give them another chance before making a huge decision like that, instantly. Of course, it's always up to you,though. Hope this helps :)
Yes it is okay to move out of your house once you are an adult. But you should try fixing whatever problems you have with your family first. You could use all the support you can get once you start your adulthood. Just remember that they love you and are just looking out for you.
you don't actually hate them but you can't seem to find something in commun with them and yes moving on is a good solution cause it will teach you how to be more independent from others care plus you will find out how much love they feel for you and you feel for them
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 2:30pm
I'm really sorry you feel that way about your family. That must he very difficult for you. Are you able to tell me why you hate them? How long have you felt this way?
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 2:53pm
It's okay to move,but not okay to hate your family. If they are doing something wrong,it would be good to tell them what is happening or what you dont like. Be honest.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 5:21pm
Families are all made up of people with problems. I have my own issues with my family, we all do to some extent because we are all humans. I can't tell you if moving out is okay or not. But I do know this much, hating them is something that you need to get over. Hating never gets us anywhere productive. Don't get me wrong I have my feelings for others too but I always try to understand where they are coming from. Why are they so mean to me? What in their life is broken in such a way that they need to vent on me. I guess what I am trying to say is that we are all flawed and we need to learn how to love one another past the hurt that they give. This is very easy to say but very hard to live (but worth it!)
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:39pm
Its not your job to love your family its you families job to love you and if you'd not love them thats okay.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 12:01am
Well, no one loves thier family. It is difficult to determine if its 'okay' since i dont know how they treat you, but wanting to move out is fine.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 6:06am
Well, I would not move out. Your family loves you, even if times may seem a little rough. Your family may seem a little out of hand at times, but they will always be there for you. Why do you hate your family though? If I would be able to talk to someone about this, I would definitely try to help them get through this.
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