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I'm embarrassed by my family. We don't have money like my friends, what should I do?

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Last Updated: 04/24/2021 at 11:16am
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August 4th, 2015 10:22pm
I was in the same situation while growing up. I would typically go to my friend's house to hang out. Once I trusted my friends enough, I let them come to my house. I waited until I trusted them enough because I wanted to be sure that they would not judge me.
September 26th, 2015 7:02pm
Nothing to be embarrassed about. However, if you can't let go of embarrassment, then utilize the embarrassment as the fuel to work insanely hard & smart to get rich. But remember that there will always be someone richer than you at some point in life, and there is no guarantee that you will get rich even after working hard & smart. So, contentment is the best wealth. Advance without being attached to outcome! Keep trying for a richer tomorrow, but at the same time remain contented with what you have today!
December 6th, 2014 8:21am
Don't judge yourself or your family for having less money than your friends. Be glad for the things you have. Love is a priceless treasure. Money is worthless compared to the infinite wealth of love and happiness.
March 14th, 2015 10:36pm
You should accept the fact and don't worry about it because that doesn't make you different from other people!
December 6th, 2014 6:22am
You should still be proud because your family still exists, while some don't have a complete one. Be proud of your family, they are the reason why you are alive.
August 20th, 2015 8:12pm
Please, don't be embarrassed. Your family doesn't have to have money like your friends. It does not define you or your family.
August 10th, 2015 11:44am
Don't put too much importance in the value of money. Material things are nothing compared to the love of your family. Don't be ashamed of what you do/don't have. Your friends are people who should understand that. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about it.
November 25th, 2015 12:22am
I've found that loving and being proud of your family personally causes others to follow your lead. If you show no shame when around your family, and have no shame when your income is brought up, then others will likely respect your way of life. Sometimes people are pretentious about how much money you have, but it literally means nothing and reflects nothing on your character or your parents (especially yours, since you had no choice to be born into a richer family). Sometimes the poorest people are the ones with the highest character, so don't let the expectations of your friends stop you from being proud of your family!
December 6th, 2014 4:49am
I wouldn't worry about it, my family doesn't have the money like my friends do but i don't worry about it. Life is hard on your parents they may be struggling...
November 28th, 2015 8:52am
You shouldn't embarrassed by your family. Just be confident in yourself and don't let money define who you are. If your friends are the ones that don't want to hang out with you just because of money, you clearly don't need them in life.
December 15th, 2014 12:37am
Once I thought to myself "Does money matter that much?" "Does not having as many things as X, make me inferior?" It doesn't your social status does not define you
October 24th, 2015 1:50am
just because someone is richer than you doesn't mean they are better than you. Having to work for what you want makes it worth while and you feel better about yourself knowing that the reward was worth more than it was valued. Social classes make it hard for people to accept lower classes but true friends and classmates of the like will always be there for you no matter how rich/poor you are.
November 28th, 2015 9:39pm
It is only natural that one wants to fit in when it comes to society. Especially when your peers are from relatively well to do backgrounds. You see what their lifestyle is like and sometimes become intimidated or weary of it because you feel your family isn't "good enough". One thing you should consider is, your family does whatever they can for you and you can't ignore that. They're the people who will stand by you when no one else does. The other thing is that, if these peers are friends with you based on pure material interests, then you can't really call them friends because friendship is based on how much you can connect with each other. It's based on trust and affection for one another. So really, try to see the good side to your life and the things you have. They might not be a lot to you but those are the things that are probably precious to someone else. So count your blessings :)
December 6th, 2014 7:51pm
Have friends and having friends is good, but friends will never stay with you for your whole life there are some, but those some are jewels who will understand your situation and would never make you feel that you money is the reason for your friendship to be good or not. Parents and family will always be with you even when your friends would leave so become their support and raise yourself to the greatness of not getting affected by who has less money or who has more money. Money never describe your life to be lived happily or not. Its happiness that will describe your life :) and its true money cannot buy you happiness it can only bring comfort and if you are having a phone or a laptop or anything then you are already enjoying comfort in your life. Live life by watching the people who,are below you and be thankful for where you are, if you want to have money then there is only one way to get it work hard and make money and enjoy and make your parents feel proud
January 4th, 2015 8:59pm
I grew up with my mum failing her successful business and had to live off my relatives' help. I felt embarrassed too, especially when you are at school and you cannot afford to buy things or you don't have many clothes to wear (thus wearing the same clothes everyday, etc.). But now I have realised that it made me stronger and appreciate the things and people around me more than people I see day in, and day out. When we face the problem and accepting it and then set out a plan to make things better, we will eventually get rid of the feeling of being embarrassed that we are not born into a much more fortunate circumstances.
March 22nd, 2015 8:27am
Tell more about your life stories to your friends, most of whom wouldn't have gone through what your family has and would understand you better. :)
August 21st, 2015 6:03pm
there is no need of any embarassment.. because if your parents doesnt have any money.. you gotta hardwork better earn the money and prove it..
November 19th, 2015 2:46am
Don't be embarrassed, if they don't like you for your family not having money, don't be friends with them. Money is not life As long as there is love somewhere in your family, your family is complete. Make the most out of everything you have- that is happiness Take care and I love you
November 21st, 2015 1:00am
Never be like this. I'm sure your parents have worked very hard to make your life good. They are the people who will always love you.
December 18th, 2014 12:40pm
It can be really hard when your family is struggling for money and you want to still fit in. Maybe try to arrange days out with your friends where you don't have to spend much money? Shopping in thrift stores can be useful, sometimes people donate high end clothing, you just have to know what to look for :) Try to be proud of what you have, a positive 'i dont care what you think about me' attitude can go a long way
December 29th, 2014 5:30am
If their your real friends it shouldn't matter and your friends should understand that you didn't have the same upbringing as them, but that doesn't make you less of a person than them, just be honest
April 18th, 2015 8:39pm
Embrace you're own personality. Money doesn't define who you are or who you can be. So keep your head up and remember its not money that connects you to your friends. its something more beautiful.
August 20th, 2015 6:25am
Comparing yourself to others can be hard on you. Feeling good about yourself no matter your economic class should be the goal, however, if you don't like how much money your family makes then you should aim high when you are on your own.
September 20th, 2015 6:05am
Your friends should like you for who you are, not for how much money your family has. Do not worry about it.
November 6th, 2015 4:33am
Never feel embarrassed because of something that it out of your control. You matter just as much as they do! Some people just have more money than others. It's a fact of life. There are ways to be crafty, yourself. Go to thrift stores. See if a local church has an item exchange program (you give them stuff, you pick out stuff others gave away). Finally, try not to compare yourself to them. I do that all the time, but it just ends up hurting more, in the end. You should not feel ashamed.
November 6th, 2015 6:13am
You should accept your being and try not too be embarresed, there your friends for YOU not your familys money
November 19th, 2015 12:33am
Be yourself don't try to be someone that you are not. Be thankful for what you have. One day you are going be thanking all the things you have because money can't buy everything.
December 3rd, 2015 8:50pm
Remember, true friends shouldn't care about your money. You don't need bad friends like that! It's your personality that matters. If you are really bothered by your family, maybe take a job so you can earn your own money to buy trendy clothes that your friends have. And, there are THOUSANDS of cool stuff you can get from thrift stores or GoodWill. If you are creative, you can DIY stuff with stuff you have at home to have cute/cool stuff. Trust me, there are so many great stuff out there! Hope this helps! =)
January 15th, 2018 6:56pm
Try to live whatever you have look upon the people that even dont have those opportunities.Dont get despair and try to find happiness in small fragments of life.
April 10th, 2015 6:11pm
Money isn't the most important thing in the world. The most important things are character and love in the family. You should don't think about that much.