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I'm embarrassed by my family. We don't have money like my friends, what should I do?

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May 14th, 2015 4:40pm
you should not be embarrassed of your family.... after all money cant buy happiness.... care and the bond among the family
May 30th, 2015 3:46pm
You should not be embarrassed just because your family doesn't have money like your friends because you have your family and they have you and its no less thing.
July 21st, 2015 8:52pm
We all come from different backgrounds and financial situations, but what's important to remember is not to compare yourself to your friends or their status. You're your own individual, and you refer to them as your 'friends', which means they've already accepted you for who you are (: Don't be ashamed about your financial background, friend, everyone struggles at some point and nobody can judge you for that - there's always a hundred more people out there with less than half of what you have :) You're valued by you as a person, not the clothes you wear or the watch on your wrist! ;)
September 4th, 2015 8:21pm
Its hard to feel like all your friends have it better than you. Its not easy to come from a situation to where your isn't as financially supportive as your other friends may have it. Whats more important is that you have a family that loves you, provides for you and does their best to make sure you have all the things you need in life. Such as Love, food, a roof over your head, good health, and all the best things that you need in life.
September 5th, 2015 4:10pm
I don't think it's anything to be embarrassed. And if my friends are rich, it's good for them. And if I am not rich I don't have any regrets about it. I will just tell my friends that I'm not rich like them cause truth never hurts anyone...
September 6th, 2015 9:50pm
First, you should not embarrassed about that. Money doesn't mean anything. Of course you can do better things with lots of money but that's all. Also, if you have a "great" friends, they don't care about it. So, you should not embarrassed about that, again.
September 9th, 2015 4:35pm
Feeling that way when you are feeling that you are not on a congruent level to your friends is natural, but it is important to remember your selfworth. Just because you don't particularly "come from money", doesn't mean that you are a great, loving, supportive friend that is worth the same love and respect as all of your other friends :)
September 9th, 2015 8:10pm
You do not have to be ashamed. There are many people, who don`t have much money. Money is not so important, it is all about the character. When you want to have more money, you can work in a sumpermarket or anything else.
September 10th, 2015 2:54pm
It's understandable that you'd feel embarrassed- especially when the issue of money hinders you from doing certain activities with your friends. However that's not something to be embarrassed about- money does not define a person and true friends would understand that. Perhaps you could suggest an alternative for outings such as going to the park or just being at each others' house and chilling out.
September 11th, 2015 4:49pm
you should be grateful for what you have and not compare your life with anyone else. it may sound cliche but money can really never buy happiness and love.
September 12th, 2015 2:21am
I can understand that can be challenging. I would focus on the other blessings you have in life and family like health and love .
September 12th, 2015 11:18pm
I understand that may make you feel embarrassed, I can relate as I used to feel the same thing when I was young- but I began to realise that having money isn't the be-all and end-all of life, and if they was my real friends they wouldn't look down on me for not having as much money as they do. im sorry you feel embarrassed but it's not your fault and money doesn't determine how amazing you are inside and I'm sure your friends are aware of that, otherwise they wouldn't be your friends! After all money can't buy happiness and therefore the fact they're still your friends despite the fact you have less than them shows they aren't bothered about range money situation and like you for who you are and not what you may or may not have. Try not to focus on money and suggest doing things such as going to free places (ie the park, dog walking etc) rather than expensive activities and I'm sure they will understand. Chin up :-), don't be embarrassed of yourself of your family- money is just superficial and you don't deserve to feel less worthy or embarrassed of somebody due to lack of finances. I hope you're okay. Be strong :-)
September 13th, 2015 1:33pm
Honestly i come from the same situation so i just work as hard as i can for what i want in school , etc so whenim older i can have a better life with more money bc i know my parents try their best
September 16th, 2015 2:56am
If you're very embarrassed that your family doesn't have money like your friends, tell your friends how you feel. They will understand.
September 16th, 2015 5:09pm
It is difficult to have friends of a higher economic status because they will never understand your lifestyle. You will tire of declining things like joining them for pizza after the game because you can't afford it, like them. Or, you might feel envious or resentful after while. I'm not saying you should completely jettison them, but try to connect with others who are in the same shoes.
September 17th, 2015 9:05am
Don't look at your friends who are richer than you, rather look at those who have less than you and be grateful and proud of what you have ;)
September 17th, 2015 10:57pm
Don't feel bad about it. Money come and go, it's not forever and it's just a piece of paper. Money doesn't make you more, or less. Money is just money, to pay food and things. Money can't buy happiness or love! Love yourself and love your family!
September 18th, 2015 8:10am
Hye there it is nothing to be embarrassed about okay??? Your folks try and work really hard to keep roof over your head and food in your belly. Never take them for granted and never let them know you feel embarrassed because of them. They love you that would crush them seriously. Try to work yourself for affording things that you want. Lover your family. It is yours okay :)
September 18th, 2015 11:07am
Money is not everything. In fact, it counts for very little, unless there is not enough to meet basic life needs. Food, clothing, shelter, medical care. What is far more important is how your family interacts with each other and the love that exists. A loving and supportive family ... I would take that any day over money.
September 23rd, 2015 12:28am
I grew up with very little money but our home was happy. Despite not going on vacations and having nice cars, I realized that money wasn't everything. Having money does not mean you are better than someone. Just be the best you.
September 23rd, 2015 12:43pm
you shouldn't feel embarrassed, because money cant buy happiness and money is not what at the end a person needs, a person needs love , family ... money will only get problems you should feel proud of who you are not of how much money you have or your parents make because your parents try their best to put you in good schools and good society you should be grateful that you have food to eat weekly or daily some people die of hunger, every 5 seconds a child dies of hunger, so money isn't a thing money you could loose it easily and gain it easily money isn't life
September 23rd, 2015 2:06pm
There is no need to feel embarrassed. If you have what you need then that is all that matters. I'm sure, just like my family, your parents work hard to provide for you and that is all that matters. You shouldn't feel embarrassed because there is nothing embarrassing about working hard to provide for y our family
September 25th, 2015 4:39am
I used to think that about my family and i would never invite my friends over to my house because i thought it wasn't as nice as theirs or i would be embarrassed that it was to small. Then one day I was like i don't care what they think if they judge me because my family doesn't have a lot of money then they're not my real friends.
September 26th, 2015 6:03pm
Try to focus on who you are and the character you have instead of comparing your situation to that of other people :) Your family may have financial issues while other families don't, but other families may have other issues which your family doesn't :)
September 30th, 2015 1:52am
Sometimes it can be hard to be in a different economic class than your friends, especially if shopping or going out is something you enjoy. However, there is nothing to be ashamed of, because money isn't something that reflects on the kind of person you are, which is what really matters.
October 6th, 2015 2:17pm
Don't out too much value on money. Your friends, if they are good friends, won't care, and neither should you.
October 12th, 2015 5:20am
I don't know how old you are, but if your family is doing their best to support you, you should be thankful for that (this is not a lecture, just a positive way of looking at things.) Unfortunately, we can't all be rich, and if your friends put you down then they are not your friends.
October 22nd, 2015 2:30am
I understand how you feel, my parents had money problems growing up, this doesn't change how your friends feel about you though, money does not make a person. don't let this affect how you feel around your friends, i doubt it matters to them how much money you have
October 23rd, 2015 7:48am
Your friends like you because of you, not because the amount of money you have. Do not feel embarressed about your situation. Your friends will understand. If they don't understand, maybe you should talk to them about this. Maybe they didn't see it your way.
October 24th, 2015 5:43pm
I have had moments as such,and I understand the embarrassment. What pulled me through was knowing that there was more to things than the materialistic gains. For instance,not having as much money made me appreciate what I had more,and it also helped me realise how hard my parents worked for the family! It created stronger familial bonds,and it humbled me a great deal. Sure,I can't spend as lavishly,nor live as fabulously as some. But,I've learnt to appreciate. :)