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I'm embarrassed by my family. We don't have money like my friends, what should I do?

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sunnybarnacle
October 24th, 2015 5:43pm
I have had moments as such,and I understand the embarrassment. What pulled me through was knowing that there was more to things than the materialistic gains. For instance,not having as much money made me appreciate what I had more,and it also helped me realise how hard my parents worked for the family! It created stronger familial bonds,and it humbled me a great deal. Sure,I can't spend as lavishly,nor live as fabulously as some. But,I've learnt to appreciate. :)
Itswhoiam1227
October 24th, 2015 9:02pm
Well, if your friends are being rude to you about it those people are not worth hanging out with. Don't be embarrassed because you can't help it and this is a life lesson for you. This means you are grateful for what you haveand you will appreciate things a lot more. But again if your friends are insulting you about it those people should not be your friends.
Turtledoves
October 25th, 2015 3:23am
Well think about your friends, if they were truly your friends then would that matter? I am sure your money would have no difference in their friendship.
zaix
October 25th, 2015 5:33am
talk to your friends and family. that's all you can really do unless you are old enough to get a job and help out.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2015 8:43pm
Depending on your age, you could pursue a career of your own to help with expenses. This is slightly extreme for some, though, so my best advice is to work out a style for you with what your family has and can afford. Keep in mind that others are not better than you just because they might have more money.
TomDaBomb
October 28th, 2015 1:53am
Money isn't everything. Usually families with less money turn out to be harder workers, and in my opinion it is better to be a hard worker than a spoiled, rich person. When you get older, you start to realize that money isn't everything.
courageousBeauty49
October 28th, 2015 1:46pm
I think it is important to remember that what people REALLY value in other people is who they are. We are in a world where we all seem to think that we are only as valuable as our bank account. In reality, the one thing we truly remember about people is how they make us feel.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2015 2:13pm
I don't know your age so it depends... If you are mature enough you can go and earn money yourself...its not right to put all the responsibility on your family.If you are a child or teenager then you should put up with your condition and support your family emotionally)
Starfromheaven
October 29th, 2015 3:14am
if your family doesnt have money thats not your problem look at all the those great business men they all were poor but worked hard and today see what they are we dont need to worry about the money. If we work hard we will get it, if your parents didnt earn enough that doesnt mean we will complaint about it the result is even we too will never earn better work hard and you will be accomplished. Dont give a chance to repeat to your kids about the same dialogue.
AbbeyHelps
October 29th, 2015 5:59am
Embrace it!! This is something that I grew up with, I made Goodwill shopping a new style at my school! Why go out when you could go stargazing, or drive around in your crappy car, make new adventures going hiking or learning to make things with your hands!!! You wont become dependent on money and will have potential to learn saving skills and financial balancing from a young age.. Really, there is nothing that you should be embarrassed about, own it!!! Life isn't about how much money you have but how happy you are and I truly believe that statement!! If you are having any trouble or feeling embarrassed, feel free to contact me and I would love to talk.
kindMoment44
October 29th, 2015 11:04am
Don't be embarrassed. Why not pick and choose what you can afford to do, and also suggest other activities that aren't too pricey. I find that it doesn't matter about money, but the personality of a person, and good memories come for free:)
MynameisCat
October 29th, 2015 6:04pm
I've been through this same situation. Don't be embarrassed. :) Everyone has problems. Just tell them you are on a budget. It will make you sound smart. :)
FaIlenStar
October 31st, 2015 2:21am
Think about the reasons your family doesn't has money, raise your head up and do the best to your extent. Money can bring temporal happiness that will sway with interested people, but family, hopefully your family will stay beside you for most of your life, even if just as memories.
slowTime
October 31st, 2015 1:25pm
Many families struggle financially. If they are your good friends, they understand it too. Money shouldn't influence your friendship. Which situations do you feel embarrassed?
Anonymous
November 1st, 2015 1:51pm
Earn money by yourself. But you are being materialistic, come on! Money cannot give you happiness or peace of mind for a long time. You need to make emotional bonds.
undercoverlove
November 4th, 2015 7:24am
you should focus on your own family. do not compare your family with your friends as everone has not the same opportunities and resources !
comfortableEars93
November 5th, 2015 12:31am
You shouldn't feel embarrassed, everybody is different. Everybody lacks in some area, money isn't anything anyways. Plus, if they were true friends, they'd understand your situation and make you feel welcomed, loved, and equal!
niog23
November 5th, 2015 12:33am
I think being so hung up about something negative never helps. Try to avoid these thoughts - in the end of the day, it's only money :)
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 6:10am
Money doesn't define who you are, you do. Always remember money cannot buy all things and definitely not things that matters to you. Take a good look at your friends who has the money they might not have something that you do which is worth more than money can buy and thank God that you have that :)
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 10:55am
The amount of money shouldn't hold you back from being friends who have more money than you. People will accept you for your personality not for the money.
Sageflower140
November 8th, 2015 6:18pm
You should love your family anyway because even though you don't have a lot of money, at least you have a family that loves you. Lots of people don't even have a family they can lean on when they're sad, feel grateful at least you have a family.
Rosealyn
November 10th, 2015 5:03pm
In this situation it is important to think about what you do have. If you lived in another place, and you happened to be the family with thr most money, do you think that would make you feel better? Since you would have experienced what it was like to be poor, wouldn't that make you a generous and giving person? What you lack in funds you gain in character. Focus on your generosity, graciousness, and patience. Your friends will understand- relationships do not revolve around the money in your wallet.
Anonymous - Expert in Family Stress
November 12th, 2015 9:53am
Do not ever let anyone make you feel inferior without your consent. If you don't like the fact you don't have money - change something in your life. Your family may be doing all they can to support you, don't compare your wealth with others because there will always be someone worse off than you, and someone better off than you.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2015 11:52pm
You shouldn't feel embarrased, i mean if they are really friends then they won't mind how much money you have, they will love you for who you are :)
GoodVibes1
November 15th, 2015 3:41am
First of all, it's ok to have those feelings- it can be hard when you compare yourself to others and see you may have less. However, I wonder if you can reflect on things other than money that make your family rich? Priceless gifts such as warmth, compassion, knowing that your family members are there for one another. It doesn't take away from the fact that you may have to get by with less, but it may shed light on some qualities of your family that you are grateful for. It's cliche to say money doesn't buy happiness, especially when you see all the comforts that money can afford to others. However, there is nothing like being wealthy in love and family.
kindSky32
November 15th, 2015 7:12pm
Appearance is more then the clothes you are wearing. Wearing specific brand won't make you a better person. It is all about "who" you are not "what" you wear. Work on yourself, be yourself. People don't like or love people truly because of the money they have but for their character and traits.
JillieJillie
November 16th, 2015 8:34am
Get off your high horse and stop observing greener pastures. What they have in cash, they lack in quality. It is very rare that a family with money will be as solid as a family without. We connect through our vulnerabilities. Embrace your family. They should be praised for surviving together.
LauraDxox
November 17th, 2015 11:53pm
Hey! A financial situation does not define who you are, it's simply a factor of your life that can be changed as you get older and have more control over your life. There is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about, your friends having more money does not make them better than you in any way shape or form. However if you are still embarrassed by the situation, use this to motivate you so that you don't have to encounter this circumstance later on in life. :)
Anonymous
November 19th, 2015 11:22am
We all feel so ashamed for our differences. This is not something to feel shame or embarrassment over. Real friends wouldn't judge the amount of money you have or don't have.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2015 4:48pm
if your friends truly love you they will understand, and it will not matter to them that you don't have as much money as them