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I'm embarrassed by my family. We don't have money like my friends, what should I do?

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Last Updated: 12/29/2020 at 4:08pm
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Top Rated Answers
breatheplease
November 21st, 2015 10:06pm
if your parents love you unconditionally and give you everything they can, that is worth much more than money could ever buy. if you have true friends, they wont care about that stuff! xo
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2015 11:38am
you have to stop comparing yourself to other. your family may have more or less money than other families but they surely love you and care about you. money doesn't but happiness. and you should never been embarrassed by your family. they do the best they can
greenJOHN1971
November 25th, 2015 4:35am
Forget about it. Forget about it. Just try to be the best friend you can. They won't care that you don't have money if they are a real friend. Also, don't trust people that want to pay for your friendship.
beautifulMagic16
November 26th, 2015 2:46pm
you shouldnt be embarrassed its not your fault your parents dont earn much, you shouldnt have to do anything other than appricate what you have xx
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 10:17pm
First of All , feel satisfied with what we have.Be happy.You can work hard and earn money in future .Its life, you dont have to bevembrassed about it .Think of who ,have less than us.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 11:28am
Deal eith it. You may do not have money, but you have something better than that. It is okay, seriously. Be happy with what you have.
charmingHeart92
November 27th, 2015 2:53pm
Money should never matter for our living. It is not a good thought that money will make us respectable in society. if friend is rich, it is not a problem. friendship won't be decided on the wealth of one another. so, there is no point in getting embarrassed. lots and lots of great people of world have come up from this poverty. so, poverty is the way, which can lead to richness, as you will have the challenge of getting rid from poverty.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 9:27am
You should understand that money isn't everything, it doesn't make up who you are as a person. Hey it's okay to not have as much money as your friends. I'm sure your family Is trying their hardest and you just have to give them credit for that. No matter how much money you have you can always be happy. A smile doesn't cost anything.
Strawberry2468
December 2nd, 2015 2:25am
Don't worry about your money. Your family's money has nothing to do with the person you are. You don't have to be embarrassed. No one is perfect, and every family will have money struggles at some point in time.
AshleighLouise97
December 2nd, 2015 6:44pm
Money isn't the most important thing in life. Having materialistic items doesn't necessarily bring happiness. You just need to learn to accept that not having a lot of money is not important!
TheLight001
December 3rd, 2015 12:51pm
Firstly we need to understand that no everyone can afford whatever they want or need. some of us are more privileged than others. Always be grateful for what you have even if it seems like it isn't much
Anonymous
December 5th, 2015 11:37am
Don't be embarrassed. If you feel ashamed that you don't have as much money, tell your friends. most people don't actually mind that much about this kind of thing!
Tcaud
December 5th, 2015 9:56pm
Take heart for your experiences as a person of lesser means. They will develop your intellect and creativity. Your friends who have money will be tested less... eventually, you'll surpass them.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 2:17am
You are a very shallow person!!!! You base things on materialism. Have you a roof over your head, food on the table and a bed to sleep in??
HappinessandLove33
February 16th, 2016 1:56am
That can be very stressful. You probably hear this often, and I don't want to seem rude, but be thankful you have a family. Some people can be left with nothing. it doesnt matter how much money you have, because you can be rich with happiness. It is better to have less and be content than have much and always be wanting more.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2016 4:32pm
you shoud understand them..its not easy for them. maybe you shoud find a job and help them, so you will have money and it wil be easier for them
Anonymous
June 16th, 2016 10:11am
Be proud of yourself.. of who you're.. its not like you could buy everything with money.. what you have be grateful.. and if you were born in a family who has less money..its not your fault.. but if you could not do anything to change that thing.. it would be your fault.. so don't let people thoughts/reactions effect you.. work hard.. prove yourself.. and take this as an opportunity to work hard.. and become successful in life.. #good luck.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2017 11:35am
Your family was the one who made you this big that you can think all this. It was your family who raise you and not your friends' family. Its your family who will support you till the end not them. So rather then feeling embarrassed, work hard to improve the life of everyone. They are the real gold.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2017 10:24am
It can be really difficult feeling inadequate especially when it comes to money and wealth. I can relate to you here I came from a low income family and had friends with parents who had very high incomes and it is difficult not having the latest this and that or being able to do as much. And you must be feeling very envious. Perhaps you should talk to your friends about this or consider maybe getting a job or doing little handy jobs to earn a few extra pennies for yourself, I know this helped me when I was in college to feel more like I was on a similar level, and it is very rewarding earning your own money :) I hope this helps, try not to let other peoples opinions define you
SophieTea
September 4th, 2018 2:50am
Never be embarrassed by how much money you have compared to your friends. If they're your friends, they'll understand that you don't need to be rich to be an amazing, kind person. I remember going to a private school and feeling embarrassed that I couldn't afford the stuff they could, but I felt proud nontheless because my family knew the importance of hard-work over materialistic things, compassion over money, and selflessness over spending. As Douglas Adams once said, "To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity."
creativeGrace3928
November 30th, 2020 5:44pm
I don’t believe me giving you my opinion on what you should do will be helpful for you. Would you like to tell me more about why this is making you embarrassed? How is your family life? Have you guys developed any strong bonds? Do you consider your friends to be like family as well? Focusing on the positives in your relationships may be resourceful to you as life and people are more important than material things. Money may feel important now but it’s the people in your life that will bring you true happiness and love you for you
CheeryPotato
December 29th, 2020 4:08pm
It is okay not to have money. As long as you have a roof over your head, food on the table, water, and clothes you are okay. You do not need to have tons of money to "fit in". It is also okay to feel embarrassed or out of place. If you are being made fun of by your friends because of not having much money then you should find a new group of friends to hang out with. You could even sit down with your family and talk about how you feel due to not much money. If you have any questions or would like someone to talk to send me a message. -CheeryPotato