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I’m highly jealous of other families. Is that normal?

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Last Updated: 11/17/2020 at 9:29pm
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Anonymous
May 22nd, 2018 7:20am
It is very normal, especially if you think that your family is not very great. The feeling of jealousy is one that a lot of people experience far more than they will ever admit, and being jealous of families is something that a lot of people (especially teens and young adults) feel. This jealousy is normally caused because you feel like your family is not very good or maybe you had a bad experience with a family member, and sometimes it can even occur when your family is perfectly fine. So it is a very normal feeling.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2020 4:28am
That's normal to experience, however, jealousy often highlights something that we feel is lacking in ourselves, so with that being said, I would ask yourself, what is it about other families that you are jealous of? Is it the way they interact with one another within the household? Is does it have to do with certain traditions? Or the way people speak to one another? Is the jealousy directed towards a specific family member? I would write all of these questions down and journal about them, then it will give you more clarity towards the source of your jealousy and why that might be, as a first step. Take care!
LivieGrace
September 4th, 2018 2:59pm
Sometimes it can be easy to be jealous of what other people have that you want. It's normal to be jealous. I don't think any human has gone through life without being jealous. As long as you don't let jealousy feed into your attitude and actions, it's totally normal. If you start being rude to those people who have the family you want, or start questioning your family something like 'why can't we be like that?', I would recommend taking a moment and thinking of 5 things I'm thankful for about your family and how cool your family is, even if it's not your dream family. Even if it's just stuff like "I'm thankful they have air", "I'm thankful that they're breathing", "I'm thankful they're not dead", "I'm thankful they're alive", etc. you can eventually become more and more thankful for things about your family and even yourself.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2019 5:56pm
It's not unnormal if you feel like your family aren't enough for you. This could also be suggesting you desire more love or attention from your family, if it's happy families you are jealous of its completely normal if you dont feel so happy within your own. If you are going through a rough patch with your family you naturally dote more on other families that you see that seem to be happy. If anything being jealous is saying your not satisfied with your family, you could work on this by having an open minded conversation to your family about your thoughts. It's better to do tis than have to continue feeling jealous of other families.
TheKidII
July 9th, 2019 11:45am
It is pretty normal but don't go to far ! Jealousy is a deadly disease. Every family has it's up's and down's so don't you dare give up ! You are in total control and be grateful of what you have.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2019 9:54am
I think it's okay to feel jealous sometimes, we think maybe something else is perfect and we want that too, but truth be told no family is perfect and even though it may seem better than yours, it probably isn't. So, yeah it's normal to feel jealousy about other family's so I don't think you need to worry. However if you have issues in your family making you feel jealous, it might be a good idea to talk about it with a listener. It could be making you feel down, which is why you're jealous, so I'd recommend just talking it through.
ainnn
June 1st, 2020 11:42pm
Yeah I think it’s normal but you know how bad is it right? I read somewhere in an article and it says there’s so such thing as perfect family. If you see your neighbour are so damn like a family goals, you’re not totally right. Every family has flaw and you think they’re perfect because you’ve never seen their flaw. Not every family is actually happy, talking and joking with each other and stick with each other 24/7 okay? So the best thing is to be grateful of your family. They are your family after all. Comparing what you have with what you want won’t make you happy
Anonymous
November 17th, 2020 9:29pm
It is not normal to be jealous of other families because you dont know what goes on behind close doors and itll take your joy away being jealous of what others may have. Jealousy usually comes from needs not being met by your family and it causes you to look for that happiness in other families. In some cases being jealous of other families is caused because you think that they may be better but actually the grass is never greener on the other side. No family is perfect you just have to be grateful for the family you do have.
BearSinclair
August 14th, 2018 1:06pm
I think everyone is jealous over something in their lives, so for the most part yes being jealous can be normal. Given that, i think more details are needed about what is causing your jealous and why you feel that way to actually determine if it's normal. Remember, just becasue the outside looks perfect, doesn't mean that there aren't scratches on the inside. What i mean is, if your jealous because they look like a normal family while yours may not, keep in mind that behind close doors they may not be jealous.