There's different kinds of abuse. Emotional abuse is when the abusers attend to tell lies or half truths to avoid having to explain their actions, accuse and blame to divert attention away from themselves, refuse to accept the perspective of others, withhold information in areas affecting those who are being abused, avoid acknowledging the feelings of others, slight or take digs in a non-aggressive or joking matter, change the subject to divert attention from themselves, make others feel worthless in an attempt to lower their self-esteem, threaten or hint of physical, mental, or sexual abuse, deny anything is wrong, show inappropriate emotional outbursts, try to control others, forgets commitments and promises, takes advantage of your vulnerability, cut someone off, ask inappropriate questions, humiliate others in public situations, keeps pushing your button. Physical abuse is scratching/punching/strangling/kicking, throwing something at you, pulling your hair, pushing or pulling you, grabbing your clothing, using any form of weapon. touching you inappropriately/without consent, forcing you to have sex or perform a sexual act, grabbing your face to make you look at them, preventing you from leaving or forcing you to go somewhere. Verbal abuse is yelling, shouting, swearing, consistent arguing, interrupting you, putting down, intimidating, threatening you. Economic abuse is withholding money, forcing you to leave your job, not allowing you to get a job or an education. Mental abuse is playing mind games with you, twisting everything around so its not their fault, accusing you of things that they're doing, lying, manipulating you, distorting reality so you think you're losing your mind. Lastly there's sexual abuse which is rape, unwanted sexual touching, vulgar comments, pressure for sex, forcing you to have unprotected sex, forcing you to get pregnant or have an abortion, forcing you to have sex with someone else or watch them have sex with someone else, forcing you to use or participate in pornography. If you feel like your family has done any of this criteria you should talk to someone outside of your family. There's multiple help lines for abuse, and you can always talk to a listener.