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Is it normal feeling that they hate me?

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Last Updated: 08/31/2020 at 2:26am
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January 25th, 2015 8:51pm
It's probably normal to feel like whoever it is does hate you, but more then likely they don't. We're our own worst critic and we'll misconceive how others feel about us because we think the worst of ourselves.
January 26th, 2015 2:32pm
Yes, Though it shouldnt feel that way. Youre probably feeling social anxiety. Though I dont know what youre going through, that is a common way to feel if you have social anxiety
April 22nd, 2015 12:51pm
It depends. Sometimes you dont why someone hates you. Or maybe you just feel that they hate you. We tend to over react sometimes and it's okay but dont stress yourself too much with these hates. Haters just bring you down and dont let them be.
May 20th, 2015 7:17pm
It may not be the norm but its ok because everyone has intuition but then again intuition is no fact
May 27th, 2015 11:18am
Nope Sometimes our insecurities makes us feel like Hate or jealous. Be positive in your relationship and if there are any problem or doubt in your mind than speak him/her. Be happy.
September 8th, 2015 11:53pm
Yes thats very normal, each one of us feel that way but important is to know the frequency, if you feel that frequently then you may need to talk about it.
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November 27th, 2015 12:16am
Yes, this is depression or your low self-esteem manipulating your perception of others. You feel like people dislike you simply because you don't love yourself. However people rarely feel such strong feelings as hate as you assume.
December 14th, 2015 6:08am
Yes! everyone has their doubts about whether or not they are appreciated. It's not true though! you're an amazing person and people love you so much!
December 29th, 2015 1:18am
no i believe many people feel that way. I know I used to feel that way a lot. I think a lot of people feel that way when they're unsure of a friendship or relationship but many of the times the other person truly does't hate you
January 4th, 2016 1:29pm
People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?
March 21st, 2016 2:27am
I've had this before because you are probably passive aggressive. You feel like people are angry at you all the time because of their change of behavior towards you.
September 27th, 2016 3:52am
yes your feelings are valid. try to talk to them and have an honest conversation about how you feel.
September 4th, 2017 7:49am
It's normal to sometimes feel self conscious about how others might feel about us. I think it's healthy to be concerned about others feelings toward us. However, hate is a very strong word. Ask yourself: do they really hate me? Most times the answer is no. If you want to improve relationships with certain people communication is the key. Discuss your differences. You may not agree, but reaching a point of mutual respect is perhaps more important.
April 23rd, 2018 2:14am
Yes, I see it a lot in my school. "She hates me, they hate me", etc. I see it a toooooon. The thing to remember is: time can change how people think. Now, whoever they may be, I doubt they fully hate you (bullies, family, friends, etc.) And given time, I think you'll learn why they act the way they do towards you
November 20th, 2018 2:33pm
It depends on who hates you, It all depends. I mean if it's your friends why would they hate you? I don't see why people would hate you. I don't fully know you so I can't say anything. I mean I've had that feeling before. I thought everyone hated me at school till I got to know people and talk to them. You would never know until you ask them and tell them to speak truthfully. I mean its simple as that. I may not seem much. But I've had problems with people hating me until I got to know them.
August 31st, 2020 2:26am
Feeling like they hate you is perfectly normal and valid. I have felt this feeling often, and I know my friends have felt this as well. I felt like others hated me when I was excluded from social gatherings, was criticized by my friends and family, and when I had no one to talk to. My feeling of others hated me was often coupled with feelings of loneliness, isolation, anxiety, and low self esteem. From my experience, I learned that meditation and reaching out to others who care was helpful for me. Recognizing how you are feeling, and why, is a great start to understanding yourself.