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Is it normal for me to become closer to another family other than mine?

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Last Updated: 03/16/2020 at 6:51pm
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January 15th, 2015 4:15pm
Yes its normal as sometimes we feel as if another family understands us more than your actually family
February 11th, 2015 9:58am
Yes, it is completely normal to become close to other family. For me, family isn't just about blood relations, it's the people who makes you feel safe and being able to be yourself. Anyhow, it's good to keep a close relationship with your own family but it is also okay to become close with other families.
November 7th, 2016 5:50pm
Yes! That is completely normal! Our family isn't always who has our blood but who cares about us and helps us through the trials in life. Sometimes we do have to adopt non-blood related people into our heart family.
May 14th, 2019 10:31am
It is very normal and common. There are many people who tend to possess a different opinion in the family, and gets attracted towards other families, like that of his friend or colleague. For example, when a few members disagree to their own family's conservatism and closed ended thoughts, he/she often gets attracted to a progressive and open minded family who believes in betterment and accepts the changes in the new generation or society. Or maybe when you start to get more love and compassion from other families, you often get attracted. It is okay to be around people who understand and support you even more than your family does. It posseses a positive impact on your mental health.
March 21st, 2015 9:36pm
It can be normal. Maybe you feel a closer connection to that family than you do your own. It doesn't necessarily mean that you don't love your family.
April 10th, 2015 12:13pm
it is normal to feel close to other people like your family, infect its good. but if you believe that you feel less close to your family maybe you should work with them and bond.
April 25th, 2015 2:50am
I feel it is normal if they are more welcoming, supportive, and protective than your parents. However I am wishy washy because your family is financially responsible for you
April 30th, 2015 10:51pm
yes, its normal! you can always feel more loved or at home when you are with another family then yours! its completely normal.
June 12th, 2015 9:41am
You can't choose the family you're born into, but you can choose a group of people who make you feel good and that can be your family, as family isn't about blood, but about love. So there's nothing wrong with that. Don't think about the word "normal" ... what's normal for some people can be different for others and there's nothing wrong with that.
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November 10th, 2015 10:38pm
It's perfectly normal - those in foster care and orphanages do it all the time. You can't choose the people you're born into. Sometimes people find another party more fulfilling. There's nothing wrong with feeling close to them. Don't think about normal - think about what comes natural to you.
November 23rd, 2015 10:14am
I don't think any family is normal but I think it's absolute okay. Family is about being with a bunch of people who care for each other and support each other, It's about being comfortable. Where you find this love, support, and comfort does not matter as long as you are receiving it.
January 19th, 2016 8:01pm
yes, it is very normal to become closer to another family other than your own. simply because if you are feeling as the black sheep in the first place then why or how will they understand you?
February 1st, 2016 7:08am
Yes, your blood relatives are not always the best people, and you may feel yourself drifting towards others.
March 7th, 2016 10:44am
Yes because you feel welcomed, loved like your family. You feel like they're your family. You feel comfortable with them. You don't feel left out or you're just a stranger to them. They treat you as a family. Like a person who is really a part of the family. Like one of them.
May 30th, 2016 10:25pm
I think so, sometimes we grow a closer bond with people we can relate with more. Doesn't always have to be blood. Some people just understand us more then family.
August 16th, 2016 3:28pm
Yes it's really normal :) Family doesn't have to be by blood. Loyalty, trust and love are the main ingredients to a family :)
August 30th, 2016 2:16am
Of course. Even if you love your family dearly, there will always be new people coming into your life that may provide an unconditional love for you, and you them. Situations around you are going to change constantly, whether it be moving to a new area, new career, or even a new group of friends. Those that were once readily available may not be anymore. If this happens it is a necessity to find others that accept us and love us unconditionally.
September 19th, 2016 1:34am
Closeness to someone can be from one of many reasons. Its not wrong for you to be close to anyone if you feel that you are really connected to that person or people.
January 30th, 2017 1:58pm
That's completely okay. Sometimes we feel like we connect better with another family than our own. This could be for multiple reasons for instance they might be more welcoming, more open, more accepting. Something you feel like your family lacks at but this doesn't mean you completely disregard your family. but yes, it's extremely common to feel closer to another family than to yours.
March 27th, 2017 10:55pm
It can be quite common to feel more comfortable with another family other than your own. Depends on how they treat you and how you react to that treatment. Other families are more welcoming than others and this is not a bad thing.
January 30th, 2018 6:13am
Sometimes it is easier to be close with complete strangers - there is safety in the newness (or temporaryness) of the relationship. Also, I wonder if there is any bias - such that you see your own internal family dynamic as complicated, messy, and problematic, and you see their family as whole, positive, perfect. If you ask someone in that family about their experience of their internal dynamic they will probably feel the same about theirs as you do about yours. This is a thing we do with viewing others and viewing ourselves (as individuals and as groups). So know that it is totally normal on all accounts.
January 1st, 2019 10:06am
Yes. Often times people tend to grow apart from their family emotionally, especially if they feet up in a strict or religious house hold because they feel like other families are less judgmental. All though that is not always the case. Some times people just tend to vibe a little better with people that they feel are not being “forced” to stay in their life. There was a time in my life that I was asking my self the same question trying to figure out if I was disappointing my family or my self in any way. However, it is completely normal.
March 16th, 2020 6:51pm
It is not abnormal. If your family treats you a certain way and you don't like it (calling you names, belittling you, choosing siblings over you, etc.) and this other family does not do that to you, it is a totally normal reaction for you to mentally and emotionally become closer to this family. This family treats you how you would like to be treated, your family does not. Your brain will begin to see this other family as healthier and will essentially, see them as your family. Do not worry about it, you're likely experiencing a totally normal response to disliking your own family.