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Is it normal for my parents to always argue?

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Last Updated: 11/07/2017 at 5:39am
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January 15th, 2015 4:11pm
Yes its normal as when you live with someone for so long you disagree on things and disagreements turn into arguments
January 16th, 2015 1:02pm
It really depends on what they're arguing about. If they are arguing about little things and it's not hostile arguing, you have to realize it could just be how they talk. If there's no screaming involved, it's quite possible it's how they communicate. Every couple is different, but at least they know it's bad to bottle things up inside and both of them just say what they need to say. If it's more serious arguments, then their love could be running out, but don't jump to conclusions and don't focus on "what ifs" in life. Focus on the present time. Until something bad happens, don't worry about them splitting up. There's no point or reason for you to add more to your everyday stress. Just live life in the present and deal with things one day at a time :)
April 11th, 2015 1:47am
Sometimes arguing is good. Arguing is suitable for specific couples. I personally believe that couples that argue will last longer than those that don't. This is because whenever there's something they don't agree with they can talk it out and resolve it. While couples that don't argue have the thought that "I don't want to cause trouble" so they keep everything to themselves. Whenever there's something they don't like they will keep it to themselves rather than telling the other person so it can become solved. However, one day when both sides get close to their breaking point and something they don't like happens again, they will become triggered and will have a huge argument and end the whole relationship. Because to those people, it's not only that one incident that made them angry, it's everything added together. Therefore, I think arguing couples aren't necessarily a bad thing.
April 9th, 2015 11:38pm
Parents tend to argue due to not seeing eye to eye, or not seeing the other's point of view. You can always let your parents know that the arguing is starting to affect you negatively.
May 9th, 2015 11:08pm
It is quite normal for parents to fight. Especially if they have been together for a long time. Though it also depends on how often they fight.
June 6th, 2015 2:26pm
Yes, everyone gets into an argument occasionally. Sometimes it can be healthy to argue every one and a while
August 17th, 2015 6:42pm
Parents argue about different things. It can be about how to raise a child or about there economical finance, ect. It is normal for them to argue as long as it does not get too much out of control. When arguing becomes a daily bases then it may be slightly less normal. It depends what they are arguing about and how often
September 1st, 2015 2:52pm
On some ages teens always fight with their parents. When you get older you'll see this is normal because your childs will do the exactly same thing to you too.
September 8th, 2015 10:38am
Hi there! It depends on how your parents relationship is going on. First of all I know what you're going through. I've come from a family whose parents were always arguing and end up divorced, starting wars that dragged me and my brother for a couple of years. But it's normal to have arguments in a relationship expecially if they are solved on a healthy way. What is not normal is to not try to atempt to fix the situation and just let it drag on and on. When that happens, parents usualy become under even more stress which just sets mood for even more arguings. That is something they have to fix as a relationship and something you must never blame yourself for. They surely love you and want the best for you. Yet sometimes that can be hard do demonstrate at some points, expecially if things aren't going well in our lives. Try to help your parents as much as you can and talk to them, making them feel good. It will set the mood to solve the problems and will most certanly calm the tensions back home. They are humans like us and they need our compassion and understanding as well as much as we need theirs. :)
November 16th, 2015 2:43pm
No it's not normal and can be distressing. You can ask them to refrain from having arguments in your presence
November 17th, 2015 7:16pm
If it is everyday, then no. But if it is arguing every once in a while, I think that is a good sign.
December 28th, 2015 12:56pm
They've parents. They care. It's a normal thing not even for the parents. People who care tend to argue a lot. Of course it is not a reason to let yourself engage in a bad or harmful argument with someone.
June 13th, 2016 7:28am
It is normal for everyone to argue. People have different opinions with each other. But when two people always argue, it's because they have different opinions and are not very tolerant about other's opinion. It is a good step to talk to them if you think they don't respect each other opinion, sometimes some people don't realize this.
July 18th, 2016 12:27am
It's natural to argue. Unfortunately it's not when repeated frequently. Parents aren't perfect, children might have a good image of them that changes over the course of the years. And sadly, the kids might also be subject to being included in their personal arguments which is completely unfair. There should be good communication between the parent and child to understand that personal issues should not interfere with a child's growing up process. Attaining that can prove difficult, so parents should be aware that arguing openly can alter a kid's lifestyle.
September 5th, 2016 7:09pm
Parents, as normal couples, may have argues; But when those become frequent and harmful isn't no normal or healthy
November 7th, 2017 5:39am
Arguing in relationships is normal. Your parents aren't going to agree on everything. They can argue about what to eat or who gets the remote. However, excessive arguing can mean there's an issue bothering one or both people.